Asexual?

[Guest sunnybaby]

So I'm new to this site and I saw under resources there was an Asexual category thingy, but no one responded to it.

 

Is there anyone on here, like myself, that falls on the Asexual spectrum and is a little?

 

Just curious and want to talk about some experiences with it.

 

 

[Guest LexiKitty]

im a little and a-sexual

[Guest sunnybaby]

How has that been for you? Like navigating relationships while being ace? I've typically just stayed away from them but this year I've decided to come out of my shell more.

[cuppycakes]

Hello! I've seen a few different asexual topics. I'll link them below (sfw). I wrote on a different post how this affected me and my relationship, but I'll just copy/paste it here for ease:

My daddy is very sexual, but he's very good about understanding my needs and wants. We've talked a lot about sex and how it makes both of us feel. Even though we don't see eye-to-eye on everything, we can still talk about it and try to understand each other. Relationships are not without struggles, and this is ours, but it doesn't stop us from loving each other! In that sense, cgl is no different than a vanilla relationship. As long as you clearly communicate everything, it'll be fine. It might not be without difficulties, but that's with anything.

 

Being different from the status-quo is hard. For a while I almost felt as though my daddy and I wouldn't ever figure it out. We were constantly hurting each other's feelings and making the other person feel bad. I felt as though all he wanted was naughty stuff, and he felt like I didn't find him attractive. It wasn't as though we wanted to be so different, and it wasn't like we were trying to hurt each other, but we were wired differently. When he wanted to do naughty stuff and I wanted to cuddle, it would hurt both of us when we didn't get what we wanted. It could have been something that we broke up over, but we didn't. We talked about it. We sat down dozens of times and said how we felt, explained to the other person how our brains worked. After a while things started to click more, and we compromised. I don't think either of our needs will be completely met. If he got his wish, we'd be doing that stuff twice a day; but I'm not okay with that, and he understands now.

 

Don't give up. Being asexual can be hard, but it doesn't make dating impossible. Lay your cards down on the table right away when going into a relationship so there's no false beliefs. Don't ever feel guilty for being who you are. Compromise if you have to. Never be afraid to talk if things aren't going great.

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/22984-asexual-littles/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/16549-asexual-little/

(and one for demi-sexuals) https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/12530-demisexuals-in-the-lifestyle/

There's probably more. Check the search engine. Lastly, check out THIS sfw post titled "LGBTQ+ Littles?" and search for "asexual" you'll find a bunch of different people. You're not alone!

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

Hello! I've seen a few different asexual topics. I'll link them below (sfw). I wrote on a different post how this affected me and my relationship, but I'll just copy/paste it here for ease:

My daddy is very sexual, but he's very good about understanding my needs and wants. We've talked a lot about sex and how it makes both of us feel. Even though we don't see eye-to-eye on everything, we can still talk about it and try to understand each other. Relationships are not without struggles, and this is ours, but it doesn't stop us from loving each other! In that sense, cgl is no different than a vanilla relationship. As long as you clearly communicate everything, it'll be fine. It might not be without difficulties, but that's with anything.

 

Being different from the status-quo is hard. For a while I almost felt as though my daddy and I wouldn't ever figure it out. We were constantly hurting each other's feelings and making the other person feel bad. I felt as though all he wanted was naughty stuff, and he felt like I didn't find him attractive. It wasn't as though we wanted to be so different, and it wasn't like we were trying to hurt each other, but we were wired differently. When he wanted to do naughty stuff and I wanted to cuddle, it would hurt both of us when we didn't get what we wanted. It could have been something that we broke up over, but we didn't. We talked about it. We sat down dozens of times and said how we felt, explained to the other person how our brains worked. After a while things started to click more, and we compromised. I don't think either of our needs will be completely met. If he got his wish, we'd be doing that stuff twice a day; but I'm not okay with that, and he understands now.

 

Don't give up. Being asexual can be hard, but it doesn't make dating impossible. Lay your cards down on the table right away when going into a relationship so there's no false beliefs. Don't ever feel guilty for being who you are. Compromise if you have to. Never be afraid to talk if things aren't going great.

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/22984-asexual-littles/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/16549-asexual-little/

(and one for demi-sexuals) https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/12530-demisexuals-in-the-lifestyle/

There's probably more. Check the search engine. Lastly, check out THIS sfw post titled "LGBTQ+ Littles?" and search for "asexual" you'll find a bunch of different people. You're not alone!

 

Cuppycakes, I was just going to write a similar post!  I swear we should apply for an "Archivist" position with this site...

 

Chelsea, as a demi I would highly recommend LittleBree's post on the subject.  You are not alone.  There are definitely times when I feel like there are only sexual people on this site, but they just tend to talk a lot more about sex and sexuality.  Welcome to the community, you are in a good place.

[Guest PrincessAliCat]

Hey! I'm a grey ace little and it has definitely made it harder to find a caregiver since everyone that I've seen has been very sexual. It's also made it harder being in relationships with sexual people. They expected too much from me that I just didn't have. One even assaulted me when I said no.

I'd like to connect with more ace people because I've been feeling so alone.

[cuppycakes]

Cuppycakes, I was just going to write a similar post!  I swear we should apply for an "Archivist" position with this site...

(Not to go off topic, and I'm not trying to offend anyone) but lately I've been a lot less active because most of the new posts have been done before. This one's an example (I've seen it 3 times), but there are a lot of others. Usually now when I do post, I send the person to an earlier post (or three) and 3/5 times I've replied to one of those, too. A lot of posts that say "I'm ___, is it okay?" or "My daddy ___, is that okay?" or "Are there other littles that are ___?"

I guess it's kind of like a "you've seen it once you've seen it all" kind of thing. I'd totally be an Archivist if that was a thing, though haha! 

Edited August 23, 2017 by cuppycakes

[Guest EmTheDemiFairy]

. Edited September 27, 2017 by EmTheDemiFairy

[CharChar]

I'm on the asexual spectrum as well!