No Mommy's or Daddy's for older littles? Why is that?

[Littlejacob]

As an older little I can say without a doubt that it's near impossible to find a Mommy or a Daddy that's wants me. It's very confusing as I'm shy but very kind and caring, I'm also a submissive and I would go out of my way to please my Mommy or Daddy. A Proud Parent is a happy one. So why is it that nobody wants us? When we get older we get tossed aside for younger models, the thinks and barely legal littles.mits down right rude and unfair, we devoted ourselves to you only to be replaced.

 

So explain it to us, why don't you want us anymore?

It's a strong bond that a big and little form and if done correctly will endure anything.

 

Like all older littles I only ask for an honest answer and maybe a Big to give me a chance, thats all,

 

Jacob

[AliciaCrunk]

little to little i wish i could erase any hurt you feel <3 you're in my thoughts! and you're right it is a strong bond which makes the feels a thousand times more. you are loved little jacob, message me if you need to talk  <3

[Antoinette]

First of all, as a younger little I want to say while I don't understand how you feel I can definitely say I feel sorry for you and you have my sympathy. But, at the same time calling younger littles and I'm assuming you're referring to perhaps the 18-21 year old range 'barely legal' is kinda hurtful because that's almost like you're trying to take a dig at us just for being younger. 

 

I don't think, personally, that it's rude or unfair. People have preferences. Nobody is entitled to want you or want to be with you - in my opinion expecting that of people is rude and unfair. For some people being too old is a deal breaker, just like for some people being too young is a deal breaker. At the end of the day everybody is different and has different preferences. Honestly if you can't acknowledge and accept this - that's childish and kinda immature not to mention it's unfair to somehow blame the younger littles for this. 

 

In my opinion, with regards to this specific dynamic, DDs or MDs tend to go for younger littles because it's all a part of the 'aesthetic' or whatever you want to call it. It just helps that image I guess. Also, large age gaps will most likely always start off with a power imbalance, which again furthers the enjoyment of the dynamic for certain people. 

 

Everybody gets old. That's a fact of life. If you can learn to come to terms with that and not complain when people don't want you, but instead just accept that and say to yourself 'okay that person doesn't want me, but somebody will. It just means that person wasn't the right person for me.' because come on, really, at the end of the day would you rather be with somebody who yearns for a younger little but settles for you or be with somebody that wants you despite age yet is harder to find? Trust me, there are MDs and DDs who want older littles. They're just harder to find because that's just how it is. As long as you stay true to yourself, you will find somebody who works with you and makes you happy. 

 

Good luck. 

Edited August 21, 2017 by Antoinette

[LittlePupRune]

There's a disparity between the online cg/l community and the local cg/l community (at least from what I've noticed from my experience). Online there is definitely an idea of an "aesthetic"and a prevalence of, dare I say it, "superficial" cg's and littles. However in local communities there is a larger variety of people and many of them have no problems with older littles or cg's. I think online its easier to push an ideal, but in person there are opportunities that get overlooked online. My suggestion would be to see about getting involved in your local community and find the cg/l group. There would definitely be people there you could connect with that wouldn't have an issue with age, and maybe if there isn't one in your immediate local community, they can help you network with the larger community in your region and that would likely result in finding others.

[Little Illy]

  On 8/21/2017 at 1:16 AM, Antoinette said:

First of all, as a younger little I want to say while I don't understand how you feel I can definitely say I feel sorry for you and you have my sympathy. But, at the same time calling younger littles and I'm assuming you're referring to perhaps the 18-21 year old range 'barely legal' is kinda hurtful because that's almost like you're trying to take a dig at us just for being younger. 

 

I don't think, personally, that it's rude or unfair. People have preferences. Nobody is entitled to want you or want to be with you - in my opinion expecting that of people is rude and unfair. For some people being too old is a deal breaker, just like for some people being too young is a deal breaker. At the end of the day everybody is different and has different preferences. Honestly if you can't acknowledge and accept this - that's childish and kinda immature not to mention it's unfair to somehow blame the younger littles for this. 

 

In my opinion, with regards to this specific dynamic, DDs or MDs tend to go for younger littles because it's all a part of the 'aesthetic' or whatever you want to call it. It just helps that image I guess. Also, large age gaps will most likely always start off with a power imbalance, which again furthers the enjoyment of the dynamic for certain people. 

 

Everybody gets old. That's a fact of life. If you can learn to come to terms with that and not complain when people don't want you, but instead just accept that and say to yourself 'okay that person doesn't want me, but somebody will. It just means that person wasn't the right person for me.' because come on, really, at the end of the day would you rather be with somebody who yearns for a younger little but settles for you or be with somebody that wants you despite age yet is harder to find? Trust me, there are MDs and DDs who want older littles. They're just harder to find because that's just how it is. As long as you stay true to yourself, you will find somebody who works with you and makes you happy. 

 

Good luck. 

 

Really - I agree with almost all of this.

 

Im 25 (going to be 26 in 2 months) so I know I am not "old," but I definitely DO NOT fit in with the "young" crowd. But, my question is this - what have you done in regards to looking for a CG who is actively looking for a little in any age group? Like what is said above; people have a RIGHT to their preferences, even if it hurts us. And it sounds like you were hurt by someone and age was the main reason. But there ARE CGs out there looking for littles of all ages, but you have to be willing to put in the effort to find them. Have you looked into joining groups for older littles? Gone onto Fet (because I know there is a massive community there), looked into your local DDlg/kink community, etc? 

 

We all have a responsibility to "label" ourselves accurately (I had to tell Daddy I was more than 100lbs before we met because I know, my size can be a deal breaker to a lot) and we also have the responsibility to look for CGs/littles in a correct search (like I had to find a Daddy who suited me more on a mental level because of my own standards). If you are looking for a CG in a young crowd, fact of the matter, they will probably be looking for a younger little. And THEY ARE NOT RUDE FOR THAT! And it is quite rude to say they are. 

 

It does suck that most CGs flock towards the younger crowd, it really does and I am so sorry for the older littles that have to go through it. I can't imagine it, it must be frustrating and stifling. But that doesn't give anyone the right to black list anyone because of their age. When you do this, you are no better than the people accusing older littles of being undesirable. No one has a right to judge anyone by their age, old or young. It cuts both ways.

 

I truly hope you find someone who accepts you for you. And at the same time I truly hope you are able to remove the bitterness from your outlook. For your own sake. Best of luck.

[Daddy'sBrity]

I promise they are out there. Don't lose hope. I'm almost 30 my Daddy found me. I almost gave up cause seemed like they all wanted younger that were tiny, but that's not all. Everyone has their preferences. There is someone out there for you.

[Guest ShyDaddyDom]

I must say, out of a matter of preference that I prefer my Littles no older than 25, on the exception though.

 

I just prefer a younger little, as I can imagine a lot of little prefer an older daddy.

 

I get you though.