angelxcidbaby Posted August 17, 2017 Report Posted August 17, 2017 So what's the difference between little space, sub space , and head space? What's the difference to you ?
Oldaddy Posted August 17, 2017 Report Posted August 17, 2017 I'm in no way speaking for every persons experience as I would say each individual has their own definitions and understandings as applicable to them. With that said I have thought of Little Space as a time, place and/or activities specifically "little centric". By this I mean it's meant as a fun, relaxing, safe and loving place to enjoy, separate from other pressures or stressors. Being Little focussed, it helps if they are able to share this often hidden side of them with someone. Sub space appears to have the reverse flow of the dynamic, where the Littles behaviours, actions and affections are directed toward their chosen Care Giver or Big (Daddy or Mommy/Mummy) With the intention being for the Little to communicate their thoughts, feelings and so on, through submissive "service" for lack of a better term. It can be as simple as small gestures to remind their s/o they they are eager to cheer them up after a rough day or fulfill requests asked of them. I'm unclear on your specific use of the term head space but I could guess that you mean which personality traits, thoughts, actions, dialogue etc. are more present at a particular time. For example Little head space for bed times or being Big while doing things like working. From what I've read so far, some people are very much aware of their transitions or needs for Little or Big time. Others can slip in and out of each without neccessarily needing to acknowledge the change. 2
Guest Blushangel Posted August 17, 2017 Report Posted August 17, 2017 I'd say that firstly, they all fall into the "inner-self" category, meaning even if you are not necessarily presenting as whatever space you are in, you can still be in whatever state of mind. To me little space is when I'm feeling, well, little. Its my innocent state of mind. My happy place, where I don't have to worry about the outside world, and where I want to be held and protected (figuratively and literally). I'd also say that my little space self is also somewhat the "angel on my shoulder". The loving optimist in me. Head space, on the other hand, I would consider to be the space in which my "adult mind" resides. Its where I analyze everything, where I process serious thoughts and emotions. I'm an introvert and a thinker so I spend a lot of time "in my own head" so to speak. And lastly, I'd say sub space is the state where one gives up there control their dominant. When you give your trust completely to them, with no questions asked and no hesitation. Its kind of giving up my head space in away. For me sub space and little space can coincide, and maybe sometimes little space can whisper in head spaces ear, but for the most part the others can't really coexist. Head space is kind of the reason I need to go into the other spaces. They are like xanax for my worrisome soul.
angelxcidbaby Posted August 17, 2017 Author Report Posted August 17, 2017 I'm in no way speaking for every persons experience as I would say each individual has their own definitions and understandings as applicable to them. With that said I have thought of Little Space as a time, place and/or activities specifically "little centric". By this I mean it's meant as a fun, relaxing, safe and loving place to enjoy, separate from other pressures or stressors. Being Little focussed, it helps if they are able to share this often hidden side of them with someone. Sub space appears to have the reverse flow of the dynamic, where the Littles behaviours, actions and affections are directed toward their chosen Care Giver or Big (Daddy or Mommy/Mummy) With the intention being for the Little to communicate their thoughts, feelings and so on, through submissive "service" for lack of a better term. It can be as simple as small gestures to remind their s/o they they are eager to cheer them up after a rough day or fulfill requests asked of them. I'm unclear on your specific use of the term head space but I could guess that you mean which personality traits, thoughts, actions, dialogue etc. are more present at a particular time. For example Little head space for bed times or being Big while doing things like working. From what I've read so far, some people are very much aware of their transitions or needs for Little or Big time. Others can slip in and out of each without neccessarily needing to acknowledge the change. Thank you for your feedback ! Your explanation was extremly helpful.
angelxcidbaby Posted August 17, 2017 Author Report Posted August 17, 2017 I'd say that firstly, they all fall into the "inner-self" category, meaning even if you are not necessarily presenting as whatever space you are in, you can still be in whatever state of mind. To me little space is when I'm feeling, well, little. Its my innocent state of mind. My happy place, where I don't have to worry about the outside world, and where I want to be held and protected (figuratively and literally). I'd also say that my little space self is also somewhat the "angel on my shoulder". The loving optimist in me. Head space, on the other hand, I would consider to be the space in which my "adult mind" resides. Its where I analyze everything, where I process serious thoughts and emotions. I'm an introvert and a thinker so I spend a lot of time "in my own head" so to speak. And lastly, I'd say sub space is the state where one gives up there control their dominant. When you give your trust completely to them, with no questions asked and no hesitation. Its kind of giving up my head space in away. For me sub space and little space can coincide, and maybe sometimes little space can whisper in head spaces ear, but for the most part the others can't really coexist. Head space is kind of the reason I need to go into the other spaces. They are like xanax for my worrisome soul. Thank you for opening up It means alot to be able to get feeback from this community! I love your take on head space
LovesSparkles Posted August 18, 2017 Report Posted August 18, 2017 I slip between these often and even multiple times a day. For me head space is what I call big space. I describe these spaces as very distinct sides of my personality and there are times when I am very aware of each side "speaking up". So much so that Big and Little me will speak of each other as if they are a seperate people. Big Space when I am in full adult mode. Either I have to get things done that only the grown up side of me can do or I am somewhere when being little is inappropriate. Frequently I have my little side bouncing inside for attention if I am not somewhere I can let that side slip out. Little Space is where there aren't grown up worries, where it is ok to color, play, squeal do anything that lets me feel child like again. Although I am a sexual little. Sub space. I should say that I am a 100% sub, meaning I don't have a side of me that isn't submissive so i am always in some level of sub space . So for me I think of it as deep sub space. That is when I let go completely and totally giving all control and power over. When I don't have to think, but to listen, obey and react. Big space is the best at acknowledging the others as being there. Little Space doesn't always want to stop playing. I am always in some level of sub space, but deep sub space is so encompassing of the energy that the others get a little holiday. I have found that although i can slip between them rather easily that if I dont have some little space time my big space can seem more stressful. Like the others just is just my experience and everyone will have their own unique views and experiences. Hope it helps
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