Bedtimes?

[KelseyKarebear]

Hello everyone!

I was wondering how you all stick to your bedtimes (if you have one)? Daddy wants me to go to bed when he does (anytime around 10-11) but I have insomnia, which really messes up my sleep schedule (usually I fall asleep at one but on my bad nights, it can be 3:30 before I can go to bed). I try not to take sleeping pills so I won't get addicted. I only take them if I know I'm gonna have a bad night. Daddy and I do not live together so he can't exactly "make" me go to bed. So I was wondering how you all stick to your bedtimes (if you have one)? I need new ways to calm down my mind!

Thank you!

[ashwee]

I need a bedtime too. I stay up way too late for similar reasons (insomnia mostly).

[Xia]

Don't have a bedtime, although considering it's almost 2 am and we are still playing Minecraft, I know I could benefit from them. I'm good during the workweek Bout sleepy times but the weekends get worse each week. But Daddy has bad insomnia, so that doesn't help either.

 

Also, Kelsey, have my ever taken Melatonin? It is a sleepy time chemical your brain produces, and you can find the pills with the vitamins in a store. They're not addictive, and can be really helpful whether used as an all the time thing or when you really need to get to bed one night.

[LittleGlenn]

Don't have a bedtime, although considering it's almost 2 am and we are still playing Minecraft, I know I could benefit from them. I'm good during the workweek Bout sleepy times but the weekends get worse each week. But Daddy has bad insomnia, so that doesn't help either.

 

Also, Kelsey, have my ever taken Melatonin? It is a sleepy time chemical your brain produces, and you can find the pills with the vitamins in a store. They're not addictive, and can be really helpful whether used as an all the time thing or when you really need to get to bed one night.

 

Was thinking of trying Melatonin as well. for those nights where I just can't fall asleep at all. ( like last night >.< ) 

You can start with really low dosage and see if it works. there are a wide variety of dosages available on the market ( at least where I am from )

[KelseyKarebear]

Don't have a bedtime, although considering it's almost 2 am and we are still playing Minecraft, I know I could benefit from them. I'm good during the workweek Bout sleepy times but the weekends get worse each week. But Daddy has bad insomnia, so that doesn't help either.

 

Also, Kelsey, have my ever taken Melatonin? It is a sleepy time chemical your brain produces, and you can find the pills with the vitamins in a store. They're not addictive, and can be really helpful whether used as an all the time thing or when you really need to get to bed one night.

Daddy always tells me I just gotta lie down and relax my mind but he just doesn't understand that it barely works. He has such an easy time falling asleep and I'm so jealous! I'd love to be able to go to sleep that early. But I'll be sure to try some Melatonin. I've been told it works but haven't exactly gotten around to getting some! I'll pick some up soon! Thank you! ^.^

[Baby_Bows_]

Was thinking of trying Melatonin as well. for those nights where I just can't fall asleep at all. ( like last night >.< ) 

You can start with really low dosage and see if it works. there are a wide variety of dosages available on the market ( at least where I am from )

I have to take medication for ADD so I have trouble resting too. I have tried melatonin but it causes me to wake up in the middle of the night. I tried upping the dosage and same problem.  I use something called Xquill. It's in liquid form or pill form. I like the liquid form because it adds to the little It's non-addicting if melatonin doesn't work for you.

 

My bedtime is 8:30 on weekdays and 11 on weekends.

[Xia]

I have to take medication for ADD so I have trouble resting too. I have tried melatonin but it causes me to wake up in the middle of the night. I tried upping the dosage and same problem.  I use something called Xquill. It's in liquid form or pill form. I like the liquid form because it adds to the little It's non-addicting if melatonin doesn't work for you.

 

My bedtime is 8:30 on weekdays and 11 on weekends.

I've noticed if you take too much Melatonin, usually it will keep you up. If upping it didn't work, halving it may.

But regardless, I'm glad you found something that works.

 

Also, that's amazing you can stick with those bed times, what time do you usually wake up, then?

[Guest Sae]

Maybe you should go talk to a doctor, or prep for bed even early than your real bedtime.  Like start to shut down stuff, eat your food around dinner, keep your snack healthy and if it has sugar natural ones, not added, lay in bed and stuff like that.  It might help. Not all sleeping pills are additive. I'm on sleeping meds because if I don't I'll be up all night until the morning because of my anxiety.

 

As for me, right now, its not really a bed time, but I'm getting into a sleep schedule for school. Its not really enforced by Daddy because its a personal choice to go to school and that's what I'm paying for and wanting to go too.   (

[Baby_Bows_]

I've noticed if you take too much Melatonin, usually it will keep you up. If upping it didn't work, halving it may.

But regardless, I'm glad you found something that works.

 

Also, that's amazing you can stick with those bed times, what time do you usually wake up, then?

Oh wow! I'll try half and see!!

 

Usually around 6:30/7 am but daddy gets up @ 5:20 am so I start waking up then and go back to sleep until I have to get up. And that first bedtime should say 9:30. And it helps that daddy goes bed-night then too. We always say prayers and read devotions before we go to sleep so o am never asleep by that time, that's just when we lay down. Plus daddy let's me keep the TV on until I fall asleep because it helps my anxiety. (I get anxious about going to sleep and then I get a headache from trying to go to sleep and then naturally I can't fall asleep and am stressed out. The TV helps mW drift off to sleep. It doesn't work for everyone.)

[Greenegirl]

Have you tried listening to relaxing music or maybe checking out the ASMR channels on youtube? They are great ways to keep your mind busy while you fall asleep and it helps a ton of people.

[PrincessSublime]

Melatonin is great and natural. I use the liquid form. However you need to remember you can't have lights on and all that because it will wake you up.

 

I have a bed time. In bed by 11 and to sleepies by 11:30. I have insomnia but lately I have been Fallon to sleepies before 10. Of course I do a work out before bed so it helps a lot.

[Baby_Bows_]

Yes it's really important that you don't have many lights on when taking melatonin. Melatonin is naturally produced by your body as the hormone to make you sleepy, it's released more at night time or in darkness because dark is what we naturally associate with bed time. So if you take melatonin and keep many lights on while trying to fall asleep, it kind of defeats the purpose.

 

I would also suggest learning how to meditate. I don't have a bed time (Daddy has threatened to give me one though) but I deal with anxiety and I learned that it's a great way for me to calm down and relax.

And this is why it never works for me. I did not know this.

[KelseyKarebear]

Have you tried listening to relaxing music or maybe checking out the ASMR channels on youtube? They are great ways to keep your mind busy while you fall asleep and it helps a ton of people.

Music doesn't really work for me because I have the tendency to "groove" to it.

[Guest curious-babydoll]

My bedtime was originally 11 on school nights but Papa and I would Always stay on the phone until at Least 12... So he moved it to 12. I have to be in bed and ready for bed when he calls at night which is normally somewhere between 11 and 12... As long as I'm in bed and laying down he doesn't mind if we stay on and talk. A lot of the time it will be around 12:30ish and he will say something like "okay baby it's late and you have school, time to go to sleep" he will stay on and talk to me until I am mostly asleep so I feel safe which is really nice... Sometimes we just sleep on the phone... I'll get up for school with the call still going... On the weekend he doesn't mind to much when I go to bed- unless I'm in trouble and he says I have to go to bed early.

[Guest thatlittlerebella]

It's usually lights out when Daddy wants to go to bed but I tend to stay up a bit after he falls asleep. We tried the whole bedtime thing when we were long distance but we stopped because sometimes I just couldn't fall asleep due to discomfort/pain from my knee and I'd feel really bad and get upset that I was letting him down because I wouldn't be asleep by the time he set. So we swapped that out for a time I had to be in bed with the lights out and then let my body just drift off from there. 

[princessbabykoala]

I don't have bedtime but I keep asking Daddy to give me one because we both stay up super late and then I can't wake up early in the morning and am grumpy all day So far no enforced bedtime  

 

My brother is autistic and has ADHD so he sometimes has a lot of difficulty in getting to sleep. He takes melatonin half an hour before bedtime and that used to help calm him down. I used to take it too the night before I had a big exam so that I could get a good night's rest. If some of you don't like to take melatonin/other sleeping pills and stuff you could always try some yoga before bed. There are some really nice and non-stressful yoga flows specifically designed to do before bedtime and because you focus on your breath whilst you do it, yoga can relax your mind and body too! It always makes me sleepy anyway hope this helps!

[LittleLolette]

Usually me and Daddy are already talking through Whatsapp, and Daddy usually reminds me. My bedtime is mainly just when I need to get into bed and try to relax ready for sleep, not when I actually fall asleep. My bedtime is 10pm on weeknights and 11pm on weekends But I suffer with insomnia and sometimes I take Zopiclone to help with that, so I try to take my medication around 30 minutes or so before I need to head up to bed to try to make it effective.

[Guest Rainbow]

some were mentioned above, but the ASMR videos are absolutely fantastic for relaxing. they have some 'try it' type videos where you can find what your relaxing sounds are. my favorite for instance are page turning, reading, and water running.

 

you could try a lavender spray. put it on your pillow when it's time for bed. it helps to relax you.

 

remember you shouldn't be in bed when it's not sleeping time. for some people that can mess up the brain for it. and no naps. and try to have a regular schedule. you can train the body to be sleepy and wake up at certain times if you keep up with it. have a routine

 

good luck!

[pouty princess]

Daddy and i talked about a bedtime, He is for them and i am not happy about it. He was talking about me going to bed early and alone, while He stays up and does Big things. i already do not get a lot of time with Him and night time is really all we have. So bedtime is still in discussion. Of course if He put His foot down and said i had too and that it wasn't a discussion anymore, i would be obedient. Daddy get 100% decision making in His house. He almost always asks my opinion, but ultimately He is boss and will do what He thinks is right, even if it upsets me. i have struggled with insomnia since early childhood and have a prescription for sleepy pills. Currently Daddy lets me know when He is starting to get sleepy (11pm or 12pm) and i take my meds so that we fall asleep around the same time. Hopefully that doesn't change, because i HATE falling asleep alone and get scared easily. i am glad that Daddy is taking all of my objections into consideration, but we will see.   

[KelseyKarebear]

Well I now have a bed time. Daddy said I had to go to bed at 10 on the weekdays and 11 on weekends (don't tell him I stay up on the weekends sssshhh). I've had an alright time sticking to it. Usually I fall asleep around 11 unless I'm having a horrible night. Lying there and thinking about little happy scenarios in my head (eg. Marrying Daddy or doing nice stuff in the morning). Sometimes I gotta take pills but it's all better now.

[Cherry41]

I don't have a bedtime, but Daddy starts to worry about me if I stay up later than 1 a.m. I try to go to bed at around 10-11pm, but sometimes I can't sleep...then other times I crawl in in the mid afternoon.

[LilleMissar]

I don't have a caretaker, so that means no bedtime. I take melatonin though, and I can really recommend it! 

[BabyNala]

Daddy gave me a bedtime of 8:30 everyday

[The Perennial Princess]

I see going to bed whenever my papa bear goes to bed as perfectly natural. Why would I want to be awake when he is asleep or vice versa? The thought of that makes me uncomfortable. In general, it's never a good sign if one partner is sound asleep and the other needs to get up in the middle of the night just to preserve some 'alone time.' Papa bear and I have the same sleeping and waking up schedule. Every night, I brush my teeth first, and then he goes into the bathroom to do the same before we go up together. When he was on a night shift, and worked from 4 PM - 1 AM, I kept his hours and would go to bed at around 5 AM. That wasn't much of a stretch for me because I've been a night owl since I was around ten. Now, papa bear works from 10 AM - 7 PM which was initially a stretch but I knew it was a step that I needed to take both for and with him. It's been over six months and we're happy on our new schedule. We go to bed around 1:00 AM and in the morning, no matter how tired I am and whether or not I have work or not, I will accompany papa bear upon waking and go downstairs to make his lunch, do the dishes, etc. Once he leaves, I will go back to sleep for a bit while he's at work but that's about it. Waking up is strength of will and wanting to please papa bear. Going to bed on time was initially hard, but, we always chat while curled up together in bed anywhere from thirty to fifty minutes before falling to sleep which relaxes me. We also keep a jazz station on which likewise serves to lure me to sleep. When all else fails I take doxylamine succinate tablets, which are over the counter sleeping pills which send you into a peaceful sleep and really don't make you feel too groggy the next day. 

[Amazing君子]

Have you tried changing your wake time?

 

A few months ago I was dealing with insomnia, which was exacerbated by both depression and anxiety. It would take me three two or hours to fall asleep, meanwhile I was so depressed that I didn't switch positions in bed because I just didn't want to move. I tried to avoid this situation by going to bed later and later, hoping this would reduce the amount of time I spent lying there. I allowed this situation to get out of control, and I found myself going to bed at 4 PM then waking up in the middle of the night. At this time there was no structure in my life - I was a PhD student with six hours of class per week and no motivation left to study. Whenever I tried using my alarm I would wake up, turn the alarm off, and go back to sleep. This is hardly a conscious decision - it's a decison that we make in the course of a few seconds while still half-asleep.

 

This changed when I quit this academic program and found a job that I look forward to, which means that I can set the alarm to 6 AM and know that I'll respond to it. Even though I can't control when I fall asleep, I at least know that I'll be sleeping during the night rather than the day. Everyone's different, but to me there's something about being a creature of the night that made this experience a lot more miserable than it needed to be.