Getting over shyness? :(

[LittleKay97]

Hi there. I want to be more involved in the community and make friends and have a nice Daddy but i'm just so shy and I find it hard to keep conversation moving. I know the problem is me, I usually run everyone off because of my shy and awkward nature. What are some things I can change about myself? Please help 

[Guest]

Hey

 

I don't think you should feel like you need to change anything about yourself, because I'm sure you have a wonderful personality!

 

I can be pretty shy too sometimes and what I've found that works for me when I'm talking to new people is 1) focusing on the reason why you want to talk to that person (e.g. making friends or potentially finding a Daddy) because hopefully it outweighs your desire to avoid the conversation completely and 2) having some questions to ask that person that you have thought of beforehand (e.g. what drew them to the lifestyle, how they're liking the site etc.)

 

Try not to worry too much, I'm sure when you're talking to the right person they will understand if you find it hard to keep a conversation moving and will hopefully be able to help you out

 

Anywhoo, I really hope this helped at least a little bit and please feel free to message if you wanna talk about anything!

[Hot loving dom]

For why it's worth. I don't think people should change unless they want to or t will help parts of their lives. I've trained people over the last 15 years to become less shy and more confident. I'm proud to say they did t and it had a positive impact on other aspects of their life such as promotions etc

[wanderer]

I would echo the sentiment here that you do not need to change yourself. If you want to try being less shy I recommend practice. In the context of an online community or chat room session, I recommend writing down a list of common questions or questions which you get asked and are too shy to answer. Then take your time thinking through an answer for each one. When you need them you can reference your document and copy the answer or you can do this multiple times until you feel confident in the answer. 

[Atwooki]

I can say from my personal experience you should not feel like it's you there will be conversations where it's hard to think of what to say but it's not you being shy, one way to look at it is that when you are talking to someone new they don't know who you are and it's an opportunity for them to get to know you and you to know them there is no pressure on you in anyway take your time and ease into little conversations at a time and you will find in time you will be in lots and not think of being shy this is how I approached me being shy when meeting new people at work and when with friends I am still quite but it gets easier in time.

 

It has nothing to do with your personality I'm sure you are an amazing person, you should not feel like you have to change something that makes you who you are

[AliciaCrunk]

Nununu nu changing yourself. I don't want to use the word improvement but if you feel like shyness might be holding you back... Aim for friendships with people who seem really sweet to start with. And trust is a big thing so if you get vibes you avoid because usually vibes are right.