Importance of body type?

[Littleblondeone]

Whilst I would typically go for a guy taller and stronger than myself I find eyes to be one of the most important things. In order for me to see someone specifically as a 'daddy' type they have to be able to make me melt with that certain stern and authoritarian look that no amount of height/build can convey.

 

I'm 5 foot 8 and I could easily find myself attracted to someone my height or shorter if they were able to demonstrate the above ability (speaking stricly in terms of finding someone attractive as a daddy).

 

I suppose as I've come to embrace my little side it would be nice of my body matched how I feel, but it is so much more in the mind. Plus I was nearly as tall as I am now when I was 10.

[Guest SUeB]

It matters to some people. It matters to me. I cannot be with a man shorter than me, or who is more than a little overweight. I do not apologise for my preferences. Health and fitness is very important to me, as is self respect. And I'm simply not attracted to short men.

[Guest itsybitsyfairy]

I don't judge people immediately based on appearance, meaning if someone isn't attractive to me at first site, I don't become automatically closed minded about chatting. 

 

However....appearance and physical qualities is mildly important to me. I couldn't see myself dating someone shorter than me, or someone who was extremely obese. I guess it's just personal preference. 

[Guest infinitecases]

I don't think looks count for much after you've gotten to know the person, you end up thinking they look great anyway. I don't see the point of caring too much about whether they look amazing or handsome by societal standards if they're really not going to look like that when we're older. As long as it's not to an extreme where they're morbidly obese or.. extremely thin and unhealthy.. 

 

Everyone has personal preferences though, I have many, but that doesn't mean you can't forget most of them just as easily when you love them for who they are. There are things that can't be overseen, but overall, I think the majority of attraction on my side is based on personality and then I come to love their appearance. I find it hard to love people's appearances at first sight in general anyway whether it's someone's face or someone's body :') A lot of celebrities people seem to think are good looking look pretty average to me or whilst they look nice, I wouldn't date someone who looks like that so.. I guess it depends. 

[happy daddy]

personality is paramount. i'm more interested in finding someone that carries herself in an attractive way. clothing choices, hygiene, willingness to let daddy spoil her...etc. it doesn't hurt if you look like kate upton lol but being committed to dd/lg is what attracts me the most about a potential partner.

[Guest aphroditelaughs]

I generally agree with the people who say looks aren't the most important (although attraction matters a little).

 

For example, I have size difference kink, but my Daddy and I are around the same size both in height and weight. Us being similar sizes doesn't change anything though.

 

I definitely have my preferences, but I tend to be more open when it comes to Cgl partners. It's really difficult to find the right match in this kind of community and at the end of the day, how we make each other feel matters more than how we look.

[HampshireBloke]

I think the only relevance of height and weight is, are you attracted to each other? For some people that will depend a lot on appearance, for others (Including myself) appearance is less significant.

I suppose a related situation is when if a Little's weight is unhealthy (whether physically or mentally) and is due to controllable lifestyle choices. In that situation, their CG might want to guide them towards gaining/loosing weight.

[Guest Ignea]

To me the cliché   true beauty sits within, is a absolute truth , but the eyes want to be pleased also in a way. For my self i dont care much for size or legth, colour etc. Its the person that matters. as long as that person looks like a sparkling star im fine.

 

Ofc everyone has preferences in one way or another, not only in bodytype or appearances. As a man im kinda short if i look at the average heigt   1,74cm   bout 5,7ft if im correct  and i've bene a few times "rejected" due to that. so i know it can feel a little ignorant, my advise: dont let it get in your head.

[Guest TrueDaddy]

I personally am not concerned with body type/appearance. What matters to me is how the person makes me feel; the connection. Looks don't make relationships work.

[DreamingDesire]

Height and weight as a first question? Naah, even people proud of their looks would usually feel awkward with that one. First impressions should just be about casually finding a connection.

 

That said, of course body type is important, because it's very much related to personality. I actively work out and do my best to eat great to maintain my body, so I'd prefer someone who's on similar terms. It also shows ambition and commitment to the long term.

Edited November 9, 2017 by DreamingDesire

[Wolfycheeks]

To me looks do matter, and I don't believe it when people say it doesn't matter at all. Just like loads of people prefer Petite or fit girls over a chubby or fat girl.. Maybe people here are different and just want to find that special DDLG partner, not caring about looks as much. I would date someone I think is a little unattractive if we had what I feel is something special though. As long as they're healthy. I'm 5'5ft and 95lbs and toned and having someone to work out with or eat semi healthy with really helps!

 

TLDR; Each their own. And don't call people who care about looks shallow.

Edited November 9, 2017 by Wolfycheeks

[Guest littlelisafrank]

It's a touchy subject to be sure, but I think body types matter to an extent for most if not everyone. That's just how biology works. However, that doesn't mean that the majority of people are attracted to one specific body type. So, there's someone out there for everyone.

[Guest cocobunny]

My used-to-be Daddy told me that he wouldn't be attracted to me if I was big...

As someone who struggles with an ED things like that are triggering to hear, however I think it is a reasonable thing to say. Everyone has their preferences.

[Foxcatcher]

Appearance is very important. Do you really want to be with someone that you don't want to look at?

For me, I like tiny-petite to chubby-wubby.

Why lie? Be honest.

[Baby_Kota]

I'm pansexual so personality always come first

[Guest Spen1108]

Personally body type doesn't matter at all. I just love the way girls look tbh

[Littlest_Bee]

My guardian and me met online, having no idea what the other looked like and it really didn't matter.

 

Once we had become rather intimate and with the whole "care giver / little" dynamic, height seemed to suddenly play a role (not from my side but if it matters to my significant other then it matters to me).

 

Plus, I've once been in the situation that I met someone in reality and being a bit taller really mattered to that person when we spoke about it. But I didn't remember and I actually wore boots that had a little platform for our first meeting. Even without the platform I probably would have turned out to be taller - I don't know if it was a mistake with the measurements or what, anyway, after that first meeting there were no responses to my calls or messages anymore. Going from contact almost every day that was pretty painful to me so when it became clear that my guardian just really wanted to be taller than me, I started sweating buckets. The panic that we would meet and I would be judged as unacceptable was overwhelming sometimes.

 

I'm not especially tall for a human but compared to my D&D characters (halflings, gnomes, pixies) and the way I feel - I mean I definitely have a harder time shopping in the kids' section than I wish to be the case -

I still sometimes wish there was a method to shrink me. Maybe even down to pocket size. That would be pretty cool.

[Guest daddy_B1ue]

I don't think there's anything wrong with establishing whether there's any attraction up front, it's always awkward but it's a lot better than going through a lot of chatting and then one of the people seeing a pic or getting a description and being like "oh nevermind...". For me if there's a physical attraction there's a lot of different personalities I can get into 

[Guest Andyy95]

Well while there is a really small minority that trully doesen't care about outward apperance, the rest are mostly lying to themselves when they say they don't. Do I care about looks? YES. While looks are a really really small part of what makes me like a girl, it is what makes me approach her. They say that it doesen't matter what's on the surface, it's what's on the inside that counts, but C'mon, it's what's on the surface that makes you wanna get to see the inside as well, or not see. Ofcourse looks are a subjective thing , so EVERY person is attractive to some and unattractive to others.

 

I'm not going to get into what attracts me on girls looks wise like most people have, but i have a preety wide range looks wise, and I'm sure that most people do. It's usually the personality that makes u dislike a person , at least for me . I either get annoyed or bored with people. 

[Guest KorgFoehammer]

In all relationships that come from personal choice, appearance takes part, even if not in the aesthetic sense.

I myself am not tall by some standards, and I am by others (5'10 - 178cm). My little is shorter and have a thin build, which is defo not like me, I am 242lbs - 110kg, some good fat, I do powerlifting. I know my little do not like actually big dads, but she said I can "pull it off" for her.

Regardless of the reason, appearance will be a positive or negative influence in the overall thing, no matter how high the importance is placed.

[TeddybearCandyfloss]

I can't say people are lying when they say appearance doesn't matter. How the heck do I know what people think.

 

I CAN tell you what I think. I do have preferences. I prefer very butch women, masculin transgendered (Daddy *swoon*) and cisgendered men. I prefer men my height up to about 6'2-6'3. I detest big bushy beards and long stringy hair. Yucky!!! There are a few other preferences. HOWEVER, I am open to having my mind changed. I met a guy who I wasn't the least bit attracted to. As I got to know him better I started to find him incredibly sexy - like really REALLY sexy. I ended up falling in love with him. It didn't work out but we're still friendly. I met another guy through a dating service. We initially connected, but I couldn't get past his appearance. (He also ended up being a bigoted jerk.) So it can go either way for me.

P.S. Daddy is very handsome and sexy!

See I agree with this, I do have "preferences". I like taller guys, and I'd like my daddy to be healthy (no need to be a male model but just a healthy weight for your height). As someone who recently lost a bit of weight to stay healthy, it matters to me that my daddy cares about his health as much as I do. I know I'm not a victoria secret model, but I know that I'm at least healthy. With that in mind, I've dated short guys, tall guys, chubby guys, gym rats, etc. and in the end it's how they make me laugh and how good our conversation are.