Newbie questions from a little.

[Princessmanda20]

I'm new to the lifestyle. I want to be a little so bad. I'm trying to find a daddy for me. I'm a little weirded out telling vanillas what I want. Mostly because I'm 28 years old and I want to role play being a little. So where are my littles who are nearly in their 30s or more??? Am I alone? I'm so intrigued by this lifestyle. But I'm not sure how it works between being a responsible adult and then regressing and to my little space. I need little friends to talk to!

[Daddyslilprincess17]

Hi im 35years old and im a middle. First and foremost being a little or a middle is who we are its not a role play. If its age play you want then u dont need a daddy just a partner who has the same kink...maybe im wrong but thats my opinion. Im sure theres plenty people on here who experience being a little /middle without a daddy x

[PrincessKittenCupcake]

Hey! I'm also 28 and a little. It's totally find to be older and a little! No two littles are exactly the same, and no two DDLG relationships are exactly the same. 

 

As far as relationships go, I was with my boyfriend for many years before I learned that I was a little, and I introduced him to it slowly over another few years. He doesn't necessarily identify as a Daddy, but we found a happy middle-ground where we are both comfortable. On the flip side, just because someone identifies as a Daddy or Daddy-Dom, doesn't automatically mean that they will meet your specific needs. Keep an open mind. 

 

I can regress at the drop of a hat, so it IS a struggle to handle my responsibilities at times. My boyfriend isn't really interested in the rules or discipline aspect, so I'm working on a chores/reward system for myself. 

 

Feel free to add me if you'd like to talk more! 

[TwilightSparklez]

Hiya. I am thirty, a full-time college student and a little. For me it's not roleplay and I wrote this a while ago on Fetlife: 

 

It's not easy trying to explain what being a little means. I don't have multiple personalities and I'm not looking for someone to call "Daddy" during sex. I don't and won't participate in ageplay. To me being a little is a state of mind and a deep part of my personality. It's who I am in my purest most natural form under all the defenses I've had to build up. It's me without all the heartaches pain, regrets, and traumas. Being in little space is beautiful and innocent and allows me to see the world for all the joys, wonders and curiosities it holds. In littlespace I'm truly myself.

 

I can regress unconsciously at times but I do understand the struggle or managing all those responsibilities. Take time in finding a Daddy and learn about what you absolutely need in a relationship and what you're looking for in a partner as there is no one true way of doing DDlg. Feel free to add me as a friend and message me if you have any questions.

[Princessmanda20]

Thank you all for your replies! I did not mean to offend anyone by calling it a role play. I do feel like being a little or middle is part of my personality. That's why I say I'm new and learning what being little means to everyone and how you handle the transition from big space to little space and what that means for your CG.

[sparklerainbowunicorn]

I'm new to the community and really enjoying it, and learning along the way just like you. Also I'm 25! It's nice to know that there are older littles on here. I would be glad to be friends and just chat about things if you ever want to ! 

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

I'm not sure how it works between being a responsible adult and then regressing and to my little space.

 

Welcome to the challenge.  The world views us as adults and expects us to have our shit together, but most of the time I feel like hiding under my bed and screaming, "I don't wanna!"

 

For me, work is where I am responsible and spend all of my "adult energy".  When I get home, I don't want to do chores or be responsible, I want to spend my time coloring and watching cartoons and chatting with friends.  This makes getting personal tasks much harder to do.  One workaround is that I sometimes do responsible adult type personal tasks at work, hehe.

 

The one thing that helps most is making time, each and every day, to be me and do the things I want to.  When possible I put this time onto my weekly planner, so that I know when I can relax and indulge.  Otherwise I become a royal B-I-T-C-H.