need help with my ex-daddy please

[sweet.creature]

so i had a daddy for a good six months, and then last week we broke up because he says i was too clingy and cried too much. i just need help, i tried talk to him tonight and i just ended up in tears. i feel stupid for crying, but i miss him so much and i don't know what to do to get over him. he says he doesn't want to get together, please help me. i'm desperate 

[Antoinette]

There's not a lot you can do. He said he doesn't want to be with you - that means, unfortunately, he doesn't want to be with you. If you two did get together it wouldn't be real anymore, it'd be a forced relationship to keep yourself happy. 

 

When you're in the midst of a break up being 'okay' or feeling 'good' again seem impossible, but it's not. One day you will be okay again, you won't hurt over this. I know you feel desperate and perhaps alone right now but trust me, the best thing to do is to just block him completely out of your life. Continuing communication with him gives you a false hope and that's unfair on you. You need to focus on yourself right now, focus on doing things you enjoy - being around people you love, friends and family. But allow yourself to grieve over the relationship, allow yourself to cry and be sad but don't let that sadness consume you. You will get over this, you will be okay in the end. Trust me. It's better this way, at least now you know that it wasn't mean to be. 

[Ruetta]

well...

 

it is sad to say this but most of vanilla guys want happy, cheerful and independent women. but Daddy is different, if he is real daddy he would stay no matter how clingy, needy, cry baby you are, he would be there to comfort you, he would be there even if the he cant be a Daddy for 24 hours. but a Daddy need rest too, a daddy sometimes need us to take care of him and cheer him too. its not a bad thing to also take care of him in a baby way :3 like you cheer him with your coloring, your drawings, record yourself sing a song for him and many more.

 

just talk to him that you wanted to understand him and nothings wrong with being a strong little baby, cutie pumpkin <3 

i once was a pile of sadness and almost make my daddy bored because everyday i was always crying and sulking, but then i realized daddy is a person too and he needs happy life and see his baby happy too! 

 

only you that can answer is he worth the second chance or find another better daddy in your life that would accept your tears and everything.

[DavCentral]

im sorry to hear that

 

dont feel bad for crying, these things hurt and its a lot to deal with.

 

sadly there's very little you can do, if he is certain this is what he wants :/ i dont know if his reasonings are accurate, only you do. either way, it sounds like some time out to just heal yourself and be happy in yourself would be a good thing right now. 

 

theres no instant fix, truly only time will help, but the best advice i can give is to keep yourself busy and distracted so you think about it less often.

when ive been in your shoes and my thoughts make me sad, i talk to myself out loud about what i need to be doing right now and how to do it, what do i need etc. do different things, break some of your routines, or focus on some hobbies you have.. just try to fill your day with happier vibes if you can. see friends and family, even just a phone call with your mum talking about nothing. 

 

time will heal.. learn what you can, you'll be ok..