Disheartened Little

[Guest calamitous-kitten]

Thought I'd use this to vent/get some stuff off of my chest as I'm finding it quite hard to cope without having a caregiver in my life.. which I know probably sounds stupid but I can't help it.

 

I'm starting to lose hope in finding a daddy who actually cares about me and doesn't lie to me. And unfortunately I'm having no luck on here when it comes to finding someone who's looking for the same thing.

 

Is anyone else in the same boat?

 

I hate to be this person but meh. Feeling very lonely and I don't really have anywhere else to talk about this.

 

Hope everyone else is having a better day than I am!

[Guest memelord240]

Don't lose hope! The worst thing you can do is just to give up! Look at me for example: I'm a "daddy" that's been searching for a little that would stay for a while, but I never lost hope!

[Guest calamitous-kitten]

Don't lose hope! The worst thing you can do is just to give up! Look at me for example: I'm a "daddy" that's been searching for a little that would stay for a while, but I never lost hope!

 

I know, I'm trying hard to keep a positive mind-set. Thanks for the words of encouragement, I really appreciate it ^^ I hope you find your perfect little soon~

[peter6111]

You're form the UK right? Don't worry, it seems like there's a lot of people in the UK who are into ddlg, so I would just give it time (although you must have heard that a million times already) 

[Guest calamitous-kitten]

You're form the UK right? Don't worry, it seems like there's a lot of people in the UK who are into ddlg, so I would just give it time (although you must have heard that a million times already) 

 

I am yeah! I do appreciate the encouragement. Although there are a lot of people from the UK on here, it still can be hard to find someone to connect with and is looking for what you are as people in dd/lg can have lots of differing preferences. 

[DavCentral]

I can relate. I made a thread asking for opinions on what i could do, to help my daddy/CG frame of mind when i don't have a little to do that with.

 

maybe if you search through some posts youll find some ideas so you can focus on just being happy on your own in little space

 

but yeah, you wont be on your own forever! sounds like you had some bad luck but not all daddies are like that. take your time, its worth waiting for something special!

[Guest calamitous-kitten]

I can relate. I made a thread asking for opinions on what i could do, to help my daddy/CG frame of mind when i don't have a little to do that with.

 

maybe if you search through some posts youll find some ideas so you can focus on just being happy on your own in little space

 

but yeah, you wont be on your own forever! sounds like you had some bad luck but not all daddies are like that. take your time, its worth waiting for something special!

 

Thank you! I'll definitely have a look for those posts. ^^

[shortNsweet]

Do you have any little/middle friends? 

Maybe they can give you a sense of community and acceptance as a little until your forever Daddy comes along to fill in the gaps.

 

Sometimes when I'm really depressed about not having a Daddy I like to fantasize about what they look like, where I might meet them, or maybe we'll find each other later that night. Then I like to think inwardly (and I get kind of excited thinking about the possibilities of meeting my forever Daddy)..begin to think about all the things I would want to do to prepare. Things like face and hair masks, working out towards my healthiest and best-looking body, saving money for vacations, cleaning and making sure my home is ready for company, even doing art work for someone you don't know yet. These are all ways to feel like I am personally working on myself and towards a specific goal of pleasing someone who deserves it whether I know them now yet or not. 

When I meet my forever Daddy I want to be ready

 

I wish you the best of luck; I think tons of us are in the same boat. Keep hope 

 

I'm personally hoping to find a better sense of community with others in my area for the same reason.

 

       

Edited August 5, 2017 by shortNsweet

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

You are definitely not alone. 

 

TwilightSparklez posted an adorable little poem about this subject last week:  https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/23420-its-tough/  This also seems to be a common complaint in status updates.  The struggle is real.

 

Fortunately, you happen to have at your disposal the biggest repository of knowledge regarding all things DDLG - this forum.  Unfortunately, the sheer volume of posts makes it hard to navigate.

 

For advice on "finding a daddy who actually cares about me and doesn't lie to me", check out:

How to know if a daddy has serious intentions: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/22350-serious/

Disappearing after a day or two: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/21435-disappearing-after-a-day-or-two/

Advice to littles seeking a caregiver: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/22086-my-advice-to-ls-seeking-cgs-a-discussion/

Daddys asking for nudes: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/22367-important-quesion-bout-daddys/

 

Here are some posts regarding what to do when you don't have a caregiver:

Tips for littles/middles without a caregiver: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/21098-tips-for-littlesmiddles-without-a-caregiver/

Huge list of little activities: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/74-huge-list-of-little-activities/

Things to do when you don't have a Daddy: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/23075-things-to-do-when-you-dont-have-a-daddy/

Little Self-Care: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/23598-little-selfcare/

Little space journal: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/21766-little-space-art-journal-ideas-here/

 

Good luck!

[Guest Princessaj]

Thanks so much for bringing us along for your DDlg adventure.

 

You are in the right place...the only place I have found that is consistently supportive and ever so trying to be safe.

 

That being said and I have said this before....I met my new...yes, new again...lets all join hands and throw glitter.... New Daddy on a vanilla dating site. HE FOUND ME...just changed my status an hour ago...

 

No, I did not come right out and say....OMG I am a middle and am looking for a Daddy.

 

YES, I did write that I am into DDlg...and wrote "please look it up." Yes, I wrote exactly that. Two guys knew, 3 other guys looked it up and mostly all of them, hundreds, didn't even read the profile at all. This is out of hundreds of messages I received.

 

I included the "things" that I like to do in DDLG, making sand castles, playing with Barbies,....MIXED into all the other things that I like to do travel, shopping, cars, museums...

 

The other thing that I did on purpose is I specifically took pictures looking "middle." Me, myself, being middle...not in a costume, no dummies, bottles...I just happen to look very young for my age, Thank you Jesus...

 

Keep your chin up, little smile on, don't be a doormat and

 

PLEASE take this anxiety, stress, depression and..... 

 

HELP SOMEONE THAT NEEDS HELP WITH SOMETHING, anything!!!!  

 

Its the best mind altering drug that is free and legal. Hugs!

[Little Illy]

May I be blunt?

 

You're 18 - there is SO MUCH MORE of the world you havent even glanced at yet. I dont mean that in a condescending way, but rather as way to hopefully make you realize there is DEFINITELY hope of finding your CG.

 

Right now would be the perfect time to start focusing on how you can feel comfortable on your own. I know it is SUPER hard to do, especially when you are feeling lonely and down. But those are times to turn towards family, friends and your passions in life. That way you grow into a secure person who doesn't feel so badly and lonely when you don't have a CG.

 

Your life is just beginning, there is no need to give up. The world is wide and the opportunities are vast. To give up now would be a shame. Live your life for YOU, not simply in  search of a CG. And when you are loving life and being YOU, you will stumble upon the CG of your dreams.

Edited August 6, 2017 by LittleBree

[Guest littleloveslars]

You dont know lonely til youre 32 cats deep.

 

But really. What Bree said.

[Guest calamitous-kitten]

Thank you so much to everyone who took the time to reply.

 

However, if by my post it sounded like all I care for in life is searching for a caregiver then that's really not the case. I was feeling lonely and disheartened after a certain situation - and I really don't think age has to have anything to do with it, even if I'm young or not. I posted this because like I said, I have nowhere else to vent about this topic when I am feeling down about it. However it's not the only reason I'm ever sad. I am more than happy with other areas of my life right now, I would just enjoy having a caregiver to guide me through that - but I know it is a waiting game to find the person who is right for you.

 

Again, thanks so much to everyone that replied. I greatly appreciate it

^^~

[Hellokittylisa]

I'm sorry I lost my Daddy too. Feeling heartbroken because I thought we were really connected.