Little Space is Real

[Guest daddy_zach]

Hi everyone.

 

I'm fairly new to ddlg and am a dd.

I'm still very much learning

 

Originally I thought being Little/Middle was role-playing.

It may be for some, but I've learnt that for many.. it's a real regression. Wow!

 

I'm still not 100% sure I understand Little/Middle Space; but I am learning it's more complicated than role-play/pretending. Wow again !!

 

I'd love to hear how you feel/think while in your Space. So keen to learn.. Thank you all

[Guest LeftyGuitar]

Well I think everyone has their own opinions on it. For some people it may be pretending. For others it is a way of life. Some people live like this 24/7. Regressing for some may be a way fro them to cope, while for some others it helps them get more in little space. It can be a form of roleplaying, but for others it is a way of life. I think I'd be ok being a little 24/7. Again though everyone has their own preferences and opinions.

[Waffles]

What I feel in little space in vulnerability, which means that if I am in my little space near you, I trust you...A LOT! Being in little space *for me* is a way for me to escape the world; it's not roleplaying, it's more of me letting my inner child out and not having a real care in the world. Not everyone is going to feel the same way because not everyone feels the same way while in their little space. Like what LeftyGuitar said, for some its a 24/7 lifestyle, for others it may be roleplay and others it may just be an escape. It all depends on the little that you're with and how they feel about it really. I hope this helps!

[Guest daddy_zach]

What I feel in little space in vulnerability, which means that if I am in my little space near you, I trust you...A LOT! Being in little space *for me* is a way for me to escape the world; it's not roleplaying, it's more of me letting my inner child out and not having a real care in the world. Not everyone is going to feel the same way because not everyone feels the same way while in their little space. Like what LeftyGuitar said, for some its a 24/7 lifestyle, for others it may be roleplay and others it may just be an escape. It all depends on the little that you're with and how they feel about it really. I hope this helps!

'vulnerability' suggests to me that you may not feel completely safe & secure ? Sorry if I'm misunderstanding you x

[Guest daddy_zach]

Well I think everyone has their own opinions on it. For some people it may be pretending. For others it is a way of life. Some people live like this 24/7. Regressing for some may be a way fro them to cope, while for some others it helps them get more in little space. It can be a form of roleplaying, but for others it is a way of life. I think I'd be ok being a little 24/7. Again though everyone has their own preferences and opinions.

Hmm.. Regressing to cope would worry me as a daddy.

I'd be thinking some form of therapy may be more appropriate to help this person (?)

Such a Little would be very vulnerable I think, to being abused by unscrupulous men (and women).

 

I'm sure there are littles who have tried therapy, and will say it's ddlg that has helped them.

It still worries me though.. thinking I may be unintentionally harming someone

 

Such a complex topic...

[Waffles]

'vulnerability' suggests to me that you may not feel completely safe & secure ? Sorry if I'm misunderstanding you.

Think of it like a dog. When a dog rolls on it's back and shows you their stomach, they are vulnerable. Why would they do this if they knew this? Because they trust you. Same thing goes with a little. If they are going to feel vulnerable near and around you *Such as them being in such a little space* they must trust you a lot. You should never take that for nothing. It's special and an important aspect of the relationship. You know that if they are never in little space near you, then something must be wrong and you guys should talk about it. Hope this cleared it up some ^_ ^ 

[Guest daddy_zach]

Think of it like a dog. When a dog rolls on it's back and shows you their stomach, they are vulnerable. Why would they do this if they knew this? Because they trust you. Same thing goes with a little. If they are going to feel vulnerable near and around you *Such as them being in such a little space* they must trust you a lot. You should never take that for nothing. It's special and an important aspect of the relationship. You know that if they are never in little space near you, then something must be wrong and you guys should talk about it. Hope this cleared it up some ^_ ^ 

It does help.. despite comparing a little to a doggie.. lol But I understand where you're coming from. Thank you x

[minahbird]

I'm only recently learning what little space is to me, but for me it's a way of letting go of the restraints of being adult. I look after my parents so I always have to be strong and grownup. Going into little space, for me, means allowing myself to feel things I've always had to repress. Want to sut and sulk for no reason? Grownups can't, but I can in little space. I can let myself indulge in stupid amounts of joy over a fruit cup or talk to my stuffies or use words I'm far too old for. I never got ti be a kid much, and my parents aren't very affectionate, so it's kind of my way of making up for it.

[rbbrducky73]

I'm only recently learning what little space is to me, but for me it's a way of letting go of the restraints of being adult. I look after my parents so I always have to be strong and grownup. Going into little space, for me, means allowing myself to feel things I've always had to repress. Want to sut and sulk for no reason? Grownups can't, but I can in little space. I can let myself indulge in stupid amounts of joy over a fruit cup or talk to my stuffies or use words I'm far too old for. I never got ti be a kid much, and my parents aren't very affectionate, so it's kind of my way of making up for it.

[lavenderxdoll]

 I'm a little and I don't age regress or roleplay. I just choose to embrace my more innocent and vulnerable side which is a natural part of my personality that I don't normally get to express.

 

It helps with my anxiety/ social anxiety because when I'm with my cg or in my home I can forget worrying about being judged or not being good enough and indulge in a happier, more innocent headspace. Think back to before you first started school and hadn't yet learned that others might make fun of you for being yourself, so you just did whatever you felt like. It feels safe and free and fun. But it's voluntary, I choose when and where to act like this and I know that I'm still an adult.

[Daddyslilprincess17]

Ok so for me as a big girl i have 2 jobs, one of which people class as highly proffessional. A teenage son, 3dogs. Im so independant, reliable, strong both emotionally and mentally. I can hold my own in any situation and generally am the go to person when others need help and advise. Im a qualified teacher nurse and counsellor so im pretty much "together". However, for me being a middle... All of the above reaponsabilities go out the window. I can sit and colour, bake, make no decisions, deal with no drama cuz my daddy does it all and deals with everything. Is that a switch in myself im describing or escapism as a middle? Thats more of a rhetorical question as i have no desire to find the answer. I guess we all have our reasons for being younger.. X