Older/Mature Littles/Middles

[Cabbitgurl]

Hello.. I found this thread thanks to a topic actually asking for a special page for older Littles. I am new here. I am trying to make new friends about my age... Feeling alone as an "older" Little makes me feel very anxious. I have always shifted to what is called "Little Space" naturally but finding out about DDLG a month or so ago has actually made things bit more complicated as I tend to over analyze everything... I am 44. I'm super awkward at these things so.. not sure what to say... I am French. The DDLG community is no-existent or very well hidden in France. So far I only completed my profile and posted an introduction post... I had joined a FB group but older Littles were being ignored so I left. I am in a relationship. We're exploring.. So, if you want to interact with me, please go ahead. Thanks

Hiya! My license says I'm 37, Im a middle too

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Hiya! My license says I'm 37, Im a middle too

 

Hi Cabbitgurl! I am 44 and my Little age is 4 to 6.

I read your post about feeling scared and confused.. ♥ Are you feeling better?

Maybe we could be friends? Would you like to send me a friend request?

[StrngButSweetDD]

Hi everyone, just wanted to say hi!  It's great seeing a place for older littles to meet and introduce themselves, talk about life and ddlg.

 

I'm a 41 yo Daddy, which is just the best age I think, since it makes me a completely official Daddy in every way!   I've seen others talk about a preference for younger littles to the exclusion of older ones, but I've never felt that way.  Older littles are great and I love them!  I feel there's some differences in what younger and older seek and want from ddlg, but it's a Daddy's job to figure that out and make sure she gets it.

 

I've found older littles to actually go deeper into littlespace and get more out of it.  When you have the responsibilities of adult life, parenting, etc. it is a very powerful thing to be able to let that go, not have to overthink, and just have Daddy guide you and love you and make you feel small, cute and special

I have some experience with helping girls find their littleness, so this subject is near and dear to me if anyone needs help or wants to talk about it.

 

Hope you lovely littles have a lovely little day.

[Angry_mouse]

I am totally into this idea. I haven't been very active on here because i am older. I didn't find my little side until i was 40 i am now 42. I would love to make some friends that are my age and little..

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I am totally into this idea. I haven't been very active on here because i am older. I didn't find my little side until i was 40 i am now 42. I would love to make some friends that are my age and little..

 

Hi !   You know, when I first joined this community, that was exactly my idea! Make Little friends that are my age (I'm going to be 45 in June) because I needed to feel more confident about myself and not so alone all the time... So far, I stick to the DDLG discussions, Little Space and Creative Corner. This is my comfort zone and I feel happy this way and I found people there are so friendly and encouraging!!  It has been easy to make friends/interact with Littles my age, or younger than me or older and even other caregivers who are not necessarily looking for a Little but who just want to be friendly and helpful.

 

I hope you are going to be more active so we get to know you better!! What kind of activities do you like? Do you like coloring? The April coloring contest was a lot of fun! I also found super fun activities posted by the S.M.I.L.E club, that's always a great opportunity to share and interact with people. I can send you a friend request if you want but you're not talking much about yourself on your profile... Are you really a... "Angry" little? Or just shy?   Thank you for reaching out!! XXX

[Kittykat83]

I got comfortable today and let daddy see more of my little side. Not just some little traits. He got me feeling little, I find u have to trust someone lots before my little comes out. Wish we did some more little activities, but he washed my hair for me and washed me and I think that whole shower experience got me in little space. I loved it.

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I got comfortable today and let daddy see more of my little side. Not just some little traits. He got me feeling little, I find u have to trust someone lots before my little comes out. Wish we did some more little activities, but he washed my hair for me and washed me and I think that whole shower experience got me in little space. I loved it.

 

Ooooooh!!! ♥ ♥ ♥ Thank you so much for sharing this, I'm so happy for you!!! 

[Guest Daddasookerbaby]

Does anyone here have a special for keeps ring from their Dadda or other thing? I dont like wearing jewelry but I do think that I'm going to get owned for keeps this summer and I think we are having a special party.

[Little kaiya]

My Daddy collared me and gave me a silver day collar that I wear 24/7. It is a constant reminder not only that He's my Daddy Dom but it also let's others in the community know that I am taken. We had a private and very special and intimate collaring ceremony we will both remember and treasure for the rest of our lives.

[Guest Sweet_sb88]

Me:Exploring wondering if I’m really a middle/little. New to the site. Posting drawings and having a good time.

Also Me: Finding discussion for “old 30+ Littles”

.....looks around....wait...I’m old?

[Lambchop]

 I am in a relationship. We're exploring.. So, if you want to interact with me, please go ahead. Thanks

 

I think that it's great that you said "we're exploring", I'm in a relationship and adding a new dynamic like this... having to communicate my needs... is really hard.  I feel like I'm going against the grain of my own tendencies and nature.

 

 

 

 

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I think that it's great that you said "we're exploring", I'm in a relationship and adding a new dynamic like this... having to communicate my needs... is really hard.  I feel like I'm going against the grain of my own tendencies and nature.

 

It's always complicated for me to voice my needs, it makes me feel shy, vulnerable and a bit embarrassed with myself… But for some reason, it is part of the dynamic and I would lie if I said I don't find ways to enjoy this as well somehow. My partner is older than me and has always been very caring, and I have always been a "kid at heart" so when I started sharing about the DDLG dynamic, I was super shy!!!! But we talked about it and realized it was already there, we just didn't know there was a word for it. We are exploring and learning together, we want to see if details can be added here and there, and how we feel about it. It has to be fun too, you know? Being called Princess, the pink sippy bottle, talking about things that will make you blush like a tomato (spanking, diapers) even if you never go that far!!!    We don't want to "fit in" the DDLG community per say, but we want our DDLG dynamic customized to our specific relationship and needs. As soon as we started our DDLG adventure more openly.. BAM! I started fretting and struggling, what was once so natural made me feel super self-conscious and ashamed. I am going to be 45 very soon, it had never been a problem, now it was problem number one. It was a dreadful rollercoaster of emotions ... and only communication with my partner made me realize how supportive he was, how patient and now I try to open up and communicate as best as I can because, yes, we're still exploring, and he is not a mind-reader. 

 

I do understand that having to start this conversation with your partner can be really complicated. It can even be scary. But think about it that way : what is the hardest..? Having to get out of your comfort zone and communicate your needs now? Our spending the rest of your life with your needs being unmet? Our "nature" is not carved in stone. We live, we experiment, we change. Today you have different needs than yesterday. How can you open up and express them safely? I would lie to you if I said I have a magic formula to make everything better. I know it's hard, it is REALLY hard. But, unless you take that special time with your partner to try and start sharing about this new dynamic you're interested in and why you want to explore that with him/her, I don't see how you could decide if yes or no this type of dynamic is what you need and what you were looking for. I encourage you to just give it a little try. Talk about a Little activity that you enjoy and explain why it's something you're interested in, how it makes you feel, what response you enjoy from your partner, see if it can lead you to another subject, and another.. for example, releasing stress, feeling cared for, etc. Start with "neutral" subjects and from there, see if you can navigate through the conversation and bring DDLG topics to the surface.

 

I hope this helps a little. I am fully aware that I can't do much to help you right now, but the one thing I know is that you can do it. ♥

[Lambchop]

I hope this helps a little. I am fully aware that I can't do much to help you right now, but the one thing I know is that you can do it. ♥

I think in any situation, having someone who is also vulnerable and willing to be vulnerable with you makes it feel like you have a support network that wasn't there before they shared their story.  I truly appreciate your openness.  You make such specific points that I can relate too.  

 

Your right about the dynamic being there without a name.  Under normal circumstances he cooks me breakfast everyday, does our laundry each week and a lot of other things just naturally because he retired.  He's the one who decided that it was time we needed to get healthy and quit smoking.  He is the one who bought me my first lego set; replacements as my last three teddy bears that I sleep with got worn out; my arts and crafts desk and coloring supplies.  Brushing and braiding my hair for me...just examples but this is a perspective I haven't even realized!

 

Right now we are in a weird place because of the pandemic and don't get to see each other every day, some days we don't even get to talk more than a few moments.  I'm sure this is making it harder than it would be if we had more daily interaction.  I've also been on a mental health journey over the last year (thanks to again the pandemic forcing me to face things) and the "me" of a year ago would have happily chosen to not express my needs because of whatever reasons still buried inside my head.  Your right though, what kind of life is that and how happy would I ever be...

 

I feel so much better knowing that I'm not alone in these feelings and insecurities, I thought I was in some sort of strange and unique situation that no one else was facing!   

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I feel so much better knowing that I'm not alone in these feelings and insecurities, I thought I was in some sort of strange and unique situation that no one else was facing!   

 

Feel free to pop in and message me in private any time you need please I may not be able to answer right away because of work + time difference but I will answer when I can and enjoy helping and/or supporting. Take your time. There is no need to rush. From what you're saying, the dynamic is already there, so I'd say you're already off to a very good start!  

[LeeLee1]

Hi I’m 48 I’m very new to really.I swing from 10 to 15 sometimes younger if I’m very stressed .

I worry a lot about what outside the DDlg think.I think most of us do as we are sooooo very misunderstood.

And I’m still learning to let go and enjoy being me

Edited May 15, 2021 by LeeLee1

[Kittykat83]

Hi Leelee! I'm 37 and still all new to this too. My age seems to be more 4-6yrs old, I think???! I don't often regress as life tends to get in the way and I find it tricky to just let go. But there are plenty of things that I enjoy doing. How or in what ways are you worried about those outside the community? I must admit I can't be out and out little and cant regress when out and about, but I do have little traits that are just part of my make up that people who know me know they are just part of me. They maybe slightly weird, but then so is everyone. Hope you find this forum useful and erm, 'hi'!!!!

[Guest Leanne]

Yay, happy to see others my age. I'm 48. But middle age is like 11. I sometimes feel younger but that's rare.

[MusicNoteGirl]

I'm happy seeing there are other people in this community around my age. It was one reason I joined to be honest. Being 31 and still trying to figure out my Middle age has been tough, especially when sometimes I feel younger. Anyway, hi everyone ^.^

[Sweetlittlebear]

Older little...im 2...im Sweetlittlebear21. I don't have a daddy but I'm scared to. This is new

[Guest Crystal_Kitty1]

Its wonderful to see this thread. I honestly thought I was alone, which makes it so hard to express myself and be little. I'm Crystal, 39, but my little age is 8. Its lovely to meet everyone

[Guest Crystal_Kitty1]

Its wonderful to see this thread. I honestly thought I was alone, which makes it so hard to express myself and be little. I'm Crystal, 39, but my little age is 8. Its lovely to meet everyone

[Sweetlittlebear]

I started a new account. This is my second time here so Hi again! So glad there is a thread for those of us who are older but not old. My little age is 3

[Maialeesa]

I'm a little/middle with real age 58. I really haven't been able to find an older Daddy that doesn't mind his little being this old.

[LOKittenTexas]

I'm a little and middle (6 and 15). My real age is 35. I love seeing this thread. I've been doing ddlg for YEARS but for some reason never looked to see if there was a forum online for it, much less for "older" Littles. ❤

[BadKittenBelle]

Nice to see im not alone in the little world that doesn't go away once you hit a magic number. *huge hugs for all*