Older/Mature Littles/Middles

[Huggybear]

As a 35yo Ddy I still feel like im too young sometimes. Theres still so much to learn and experience that even though I got my life in check, I still sometimes feel like a school boy trying to take this all in. I dont know if its the same for some of you ladies, but finding myself has definately taken alot of time and im still far from ready here. I still need more time :D.

By that logic I wouldnt feel selfconcious at all about being an older little. An older little tends to know who they are and what they want, have life somewhat under wraps and are capable of mature emotions. I regognize the difficulty in finding someone as we men often think that younger is better (lizardbrainthings), but thats definately not the case when building life long relationships where both parties need to carry some weight of the world. As you get older you start to appreciate age-brought-wisdom more and more, works the same for both sexes I would imagine.

Atleast personally I search qualities in women that would help us both move forward first and foremost. Younger girls often cant really even grasp what that means (there are exceptions of course). Nurture and guidance with practical goals and positive achiements feels amazing, so it helps if both parties have already laid some groundwork in life, and figured out what they want to achieve and who they want to be :). Nothing brings that except age and maturity, no matter who you are.

Sorry to sneak some male opinion into your safe space, I hope you dont mind ^^.

Edited August 29, 2024 by Huggybear

[Guest weirdunicorn]

hey, im 37! i move through life feeling like a late teen/early adult. congrats on restarting your life sans judgment.
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[Sadistic_Nursing_Mommy]

    Well truthfully, age really does not have anything to do with it...

 

   We should all know, that this type of relationship is built on connection and unity, trust, deep giving of self, on Both Sides.

     "Older" Littles are Obviously valid right? It is all in the actions you take, the feelings you experience, isn't it? I Do Not Know how one tell themselves that people who have been here longer, experienced more and matured internally in, -hopefully a very beneficial and uplifting way, are to MUCH,.. ... THIS, OR THAT ... IT'S THE INTERNAL F.I.R.E... ALL.

    We experience the world internally,... and HOPEFULLY the internal desire and drive grow more and more into the beautiful individuals that we strive to be. Learning and moving in this world with more and more pure           Honesty, we are able to focus fire 🔥nothing to do with the skin on the outside.... 

 

   I sure hope people start to disregard this type of disrespect, because if you keep on with it, you will definitely ok your Latter Years.... And I don't think anything is worth that ever do you? 

 

    Hurray and hurray for mature littles, and mature Daddies and Mommies ..... Experience can be such a turn on..... TRULY... And blowing even an experienced littles mind, is such a HARD, TURN ON.

   And sometimes people who are more mature, maybe later in life, they know what they want, they go after it in a very step-by-step way....With Much More Precision.

   Devotion to, and the understanding of this dynamic, and it's internal, and external lifestyle changes, challenges, highs, even Lows... is priceless.

 

   Mature or older littles, are likely to be much more dedicated, focused, and end up pleasing their dominant much more than a child like youngster running around and looking at life as their personal little playground, LOL...

..... Not that that's not awesome too...

 

   But a mature little will probably show you devotion in a very intense focused way, and their submission can be so much more intense, and much deeper, just from the Challenge Of TIME.

 

    It's all about the push, .. and pull, that SWEET, ...  SLOW, ..... DANCE. 

 

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    So, Dance On, ... All you Perfect Perfect Individuals....

 

ON AND ON AND ON.......

[samar_]

Hi, I am Samar, I am 30 years old. I have known about DDLG for a long time, but I did not know about this site until now. I'm a little/meddle I'm not sure.I thought I was the only old little who liked this but I don't care now I'm happy I found this site  .

Edited October 4, 2024 by sammar

[CrimsonComfort]

Gosh, I'm 31 and reading that my age fell under "older/mature" made me shiver a little bit. However, I do fall under this thread I suppose so hello to all! I'm a little new to this site but certainly not new to the lifestyle. Hope to make some little friends and have some pleasant conversations. ~Happy holiday season!~

[Josey Wales]

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to all ! 

[BJZ]

I have been quiet lately. Thinking, learning, trying to process middleness. 

I hope yall had a fantastic Christmas. Anyone have New Years Eve plans? Resolutions for 2025?

[Little kaiya]

My Wife Daddy and I will be doing our usual New Years which is a movie out together, followed by Chinese food and ringing in the New Year on the couch with cuddles and kisses.

[Guest CareBearCloud]

Hello! I'm new here and I'm glad I found this! Here I was thinking I would be the oldest one on here and I was wrong. I hope everyone had a lovely holiday! 

[Guest enby princess Churi]

something a bit sad about looking through this thread, seeing it's existed for so many years, but many people that posted are very likely not around even if their accounts still exist. I was hoping to make some connections here, but idk if I'm gonna find much of anything. was maybe a bit too hopeful! this forum seems pretty slow in general, that's a bit unfortunate tbh. I checked this place out because I find that within a strictly sfw strictly agere community, they're really arbitrary about who can be a member. it also tends to lean too heavily in that 18-24 category, which is silly. agere doesn't stop happening once you turn 24 or whatever. I think part of that limitation imposed is a heavy dose of ageism tho, which is disappointing.
I'm really shy, so I do tend to rely on the push of others approaching me. I never know who exactly is going to accept me trying to get to know them. I'm not going to introduce myself for a third time within this thread, but I will say I'm down for any 30+ friends. I am a middle but I enjoy littler things from time to time. I don't have any restrictions on who I will talk to beyond preferring people closer to my age.

[Baby Manda]

My birthday is coming soon and I really don't feel older, but my pregnant, college educated,  assistant at work informed me that her mom is 5 years younger than me!  She followed that statement with "Wow! I didn't think you were that old!" Maybe it's my littleness, my ability to still see the world as a child in my 40s, but I refuse to be old until I choose. So it will NOT happen ever!

Welcome to all the new "older" littles and middles! Life gets busy but there's always some of us (older in physical age) littles around! It's so nice to have your wisdom and fun added to the group! 

[Sicarie]

I want to say, that I think the hardest thing for me is having to hide my little side to those around my because my age means I shouldn't like cute things anymore. I shouldn't have stuffies, or like hello kitty, or want to by coloring books. I live with my mother currently and she knows I love hello kitty, but she gives me weird looks when I freak out over a cute stuffie I can't not buy, or a cute pen. I have had to buy discreet items to wear or use so she doesn't ask questions. Things like a portion plate in pastel colors when I really want a cute cartoon character plate. I can't use a sipppy when I want to, and I have cute socks I hide in my boots so she doesn't see. All I want to do is like the things I like and I don't think age should matter.

Sorry lol, might have been a bit of a rant added in there, but it's been so challenging. Why should my age matter what I like?!

Edited February 23 by Sicarie

[Baby Manda]

@Sicarie I totally understand! My oldest child moved out a year ago and i was able to buy some stuff dishes, pacifiers, and clothes and use them more openly, but recently she's started working in town, in the same place as I am! She stops by the house frequently and I'm constantly checking if my stuff is put away! My youngest accepts my explanations of portion control dishes, paci to help with my snoring, diapers for incontinence, stuffies for everyone, coloring for stress relief, and pigtails or braids in my hair as normal. Sadly, most of the world isn't as accepting. It is really hard living with other adults who don't support being little. My heart goes out to you, dear. 

[liddledame]

I just want to say hi to everyone. Liddle/middle here. My favorite things are onesies, tippy cups and pacies when I can’t have a daddy thumb. I also love love love to color, listen to audiobooks, play with my pup and watch fun series on Netflix. Excited to make new friends! 🎀

[Birdie_12]

Hihi...I'm a 35 yr old little. Just want to chat

[PrincessFloraandFauna]

Morning, I’m new and after shaming myself (and others shaming me) for what I like after a few years of sex therapy I’m starting my journey. I’ve now got some language to fit what I am but I’m not really sure what age I show up as but I don’t think it’s really young. 
 

I am Finding in myself questioning when a much younger guy chats to me, I’m nearly 40, how that dynamic works and if it would feel like a DDlg for me. 
 

what are others experiences ? 
 

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[BigMeat]

I’m not sure how I stumbled across this thread, but I have read through many, many comments from littles who are “older,” let’s say 30’s, who feel like they can’t be in little space anymore simply due to their “current age.”

This, I see as not only a problem, but very sad and as a Daddy myself, it weighs heavy on my heart. Age does not define a little - this is why we call you littles! The age regression is the “little part,” so your actual numerical age should not even be a factor. Most littles from what I’ve seen, do not grow out of little space because being a little is part of their identity and who they are. What I do see right now, is that as littles get older, they start to have fear over being able to be little or slip into little space.

Being little, is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. Being little is something you should be able to embrace, regardless of your actual age because being little is a part of who you are as a person.

As a Daddy, I would encourage those who are having these fears to set aside some alone time to have some self reflection and find out what is making you feel this way. If you find that it’s just your actual numerical age, I would encourage you to grow and move past that, as it is not of any importance. What is truly important is to nurture your little self and stay in touch with who you are and not feel like you need to lock your little self away. Think about your little’s feelings…!!! Your little would not like that and they would be very heartbroken…

This has been a very tough read for me and I have truly found it very sad. I hope that the littles out there who are struggling, run across this comment and find it encouraging and helpful. My heart goes out to all of you who are struggling with this obstacle. I hope you are able to get back in touch with your little selves and find peace. ☮️ 

 

-Axl / BigMeat

[Baby Manda]

Thank you @BigMeat for your post. It warms my "little" heart to read these words from a caregiver. I have a happy story to share:

I am in grad school and needed some practicum hours in a toddler classroom, so I visited this week and I was way older in physical age than all the other staff (in fact I could've given birth to most of them 🤭)! But I'm definitely a little and very much a toddler age myself,  so I sat down on the floor and sang nursery rhymes, played blocks, pretended to eat fake food, even laid on my tummy and read books! I ignored the "grown-ups " in the room and embraced my little self through play! One of the best gifts my little self has given me is the ability to reach children on their level and teach them through play! I just need to appreciate my perspective more often. Thank you for the reminder!

Baby Manda 

[BigMeat]

@Baby Girl Miss Amanda You are very welcome! Also, congratulations on being in grad school!

This was such a beautiful story to be shared not only with me, but for others to have the opportunity to read as well! (Especially littles!)

You know, over my lifetime I have noticed that some people just have a way with children; in specific, being able to reach them and connect with them on their level. Although your physical age might have been much older than the other staff members, as you have said yourself, being “little” yourself gives you quite an advantage. It seems as everyone grows older in society in general, people lose their connection with their imagination and creativity. Being little absolutely helps in this regard on so many levels that are important to younger children. These children have no idea what part of yourself that you reach and get in touch with as you sit and play with them, but that’s part of the beauty of being a little. Nobody there needs to know and it also gives you the opportunity to reach your little and nurture your little as well all the while, you are just doing your job! As I have said before; being little is nothing to be ashamed of. I feel that there are very positive aspects to it including the story you have shared, it helps keep your creative side alive and allows you to continue to use your imagination when others have long lost this ability as they have grown older in physical years themselves. This has a great, positive impact on the children you are surrounded by while you are working, as they can connect with their teacher better and feel more at ease while they are enjoying their time with you.

In fact, some of your other staff members may have even been silently envious that you have this hidden ability that they are unaware of.

I am very glad that you have found my words to be supportive and uplifting. That’s what caregivers are for. We are in a community here together, this is a great place to find positivity and support. I’m so glad to have made a positive impact with you, however big or small it may have been - that is the goal. I am here to help others and to continue to learn and connect with others as well.

Best wishes! I am glad you are here with us.😊

-Axl // BigMeat

[Aikko]

Just popping in on one of my fave threads to remind y’all that YOU ARE VALID. YOU ARE STILL LITTLE EVEN IF YOURE 105! Don’t let anyone tell you any different. 💜