Older/Mature Littles/Middles

[SweetLu]

I ask myself this every time I enter the site. 🤷‍♀️.  I have hope, though, and I've met some incredible people along the way. No matter what, that's always a good thing. 😊

[Guest BeesCees]

DaddyMarin, Kittyara207, & SweetLu, thank you for you comforting words, believing is difficult but I keep trying. Appreciation to you all.

"Dreams don't care about your size, color, age, or financial status so why not indulge yourself?"

[Sicarie]

4 hours ago, Kittyara207 said:

Never let your age a define who or what you can be.  Always be true to yourself 

This right here is what I am trying to live by, but it is so hard. Being 42 and coming to terms with this lifestyle that I relate to now is so difficult for me. I try to live by the idea of not caring about what other people think, but I do. On top of that, I am coming out of a long marriage, I feel like if I define myself as little, im now limiting my options to find someone to love and care for. It's been incredibly hard for me to find my little space and be accepting of it when I try to live my live by what you stated. I don't know...it's just hard.

[DaddyMarin]

17 hours ago, Sicarie said:

This right here is what I am trying to live by, but it is so hard. Being 42 and coming to terms with this lifestyle that I relate to now is so difficult for me. I try to live by the idea of not caring about what other people think, but I do. On top of that, I am coming out of a long marriage, I feel like if I define myself as little, im now limiting my options to find someone to love and care for. It's been incredibly hard for me to find my little space and be accepting of it when I try to live my live by what you stated. I don't know...it's just hard.

Never cut yourself short or hold yourself back. That doesn't make going to be happy.. being happy is the most important thing  and mandatory to be, before one can make someone else happy

[Salmario]

On 12/28/2023 at 6:15 AM, Sicarie said:

This right here is what I am trying to live by, but it is so hard. Being 42 and coming to terms with this lifestyle that I relate to now is so difficult for me. I try to live by the idea of not caring about what other people think, but I do. On top of that, I am coming out of a long marriage, I feel like if I define myself as little, im now limiting my options to find someone to love and care for. It's been incredibly hard for me to find my little space and be accepting of it when I try to live my live by what you stated. I don't know...it's just hard.

I think it's important that you concentrate on what makes you happy right now, before any other consideration.

If you try to restrict your true nature, just to improve the chances of finding someone, are you likely to find contentment or even the right person?

[littlespace_cadet]

So much great discussion on this thread!

It can be a challenge when your outside doesn't match your inside. Sometimes I get jump-scared when I see that big five-oh on my profile. Am I really that old? How did that happen so fast??

Back when I was just a lurker, I was very comforted to see so many people close to my own physical age on this site. It made me feel better about my interests and gave me the confidence to find like-minded people.

I will admit, CG/l and BDSM as a whole do reflect the real world. Young, able-bodied, thin, white, cis, het people will always have an easier time finding dates. And at the same time, the things that make you different can make you a fetish, which is a whole other can of worms. Getting into this lifestyle at my age has some advantages. I know myself and I like myself. I like my own company, so I will choose being alone before being in a toxic relationship. 

The best we can be is true to ourselves. You are worthy and lovable just the way you are ☺️

[Guest BeesCees]

Wouldn't it be awesome if instead of dying, whenever that time would come, that instead we transitioned to reverse aging.  We would age backward, but have all of the life experience we gathered along the way?

Instead of regrets for the things never done because now we are too old, or didn't know we wanted till it was too late, we get that second chance?

Imagine how the world would change! I think there would be so much more acceptance for individual diversity.

Realizing you are a little at age 65 would be nothing more than a change in direction rather than an unrealizable and unfulfillable yearning. 

All because we would have time, and "hopefully" more wisdom and self satisfaction in just being who we are.

[Guest Little Princess KittenRose]

On 12/28/2023 at 1:15 AM, Sicarie said:

This right here is what I am trying to live by, but it is so hard. Being 42 and coming to terms with this lifestyle that I relate to now is so difficult for me. I try to live by the idea of not caring about what other people think, but I do. On top of that, I am coming out of a long marriage, I feel like if I define myself as little, im now limiting my options to find someone to love and care for. It's been incredibly hard for me to find my little space and be accepting of it when I try to live my live by what you stated. I don't know...it's just hard.

I have come to the realization that before I can even think about a partner/Daddy I have to be right inside myself. Most of us older littles haven’t been in good healthy relationships because we are needing something that a vanilla person can’t understand fully. An we know we are people pleasers so we push our needs to the back and give our partners 110% when they won’t even give 1%. Before looking for a partner understand yourself who you are as both the Big you, the little/middle you, and the person you are in between these sides of yourself. I was always told growing up that if you are in the right mindset and place than you won’t have to look for someone they will find you when you lease except it. I wish I could be younger going through this discovery of myself, but I understand that the person I was in my twenties and early thirties wasn’t ready to do what I needed to do so I wouldn’t push my needs back just to keep someone else happy and stay miserable. I do believe there are older Daddies out there who is looking for a older little to have as there own. So just keep doing you and to GuestBeesCees rock out your little self weather you dressing up or coloring stay true to you and the rest will fix itself. I have always been of the Philosophy that we should always live our truth whatever it may look like. An if you need a coloring buddy or if you want to play with dolls or if you just want a older little friend than I got your back and I know that the people on this forum will always be there with the best advice and are super supportive.

[NeyNey]

1 hour ago, KittenRoseDream said:

I have come to the realization that before I can even think about a partner/Daddy I have to be right inside myself. Most of us older littles haven’t been in good healthy relationships because we are needing something that a vanilla person can’t understand fully. An we know we are people pleasers so we push our needs to the back and give our partners 110% when they won’t even give 1%. Before looking for a partner understand yourself who you are as both the Big you, the little/middle you, and the person you are in between these sides of yourself. I was always told growing up that if you are in the right mindset and place than you won’t have to look for someone they will find you when you lease except it. I wish I could be younger going through this discovery of myself, but I understand that the person I was in my twenties and early thirties wasn’t ready to do what I needed to do so I wouldn’t push my needs back just to keep someone else happy and stay miserable. I do believe there are older Daddies out there who is looking for a older little to have as there own. So just keep doing you and to GuestBeesCees rock out your little self weather you dressing up or coloring stay true to you and the rest will fix itself. I have always been of the Philosophy that we should always live our truth whatever it may look like. An if you need a coloring buddy or if you want to play with dolls or if you just want a older little friend than I got your back and I know that the people on this forum will always be there with the best advice and are super supportive.

I love love love this post...  Thank you for sharing!

[Kittyara207]

It's true.  When you feel like you're about to give up on finding someone or thing they seem to find you.  And it's amazing.  Just the thought of them awakens all parts not just big you or little you.  Or the shy, or the brazen.  All parts.  You don't seem to worry about how you sound or act just able to be you.  

when you have lived your whole life being perfect or the everything for people in your life.  Admitting and accepting you don't have to be something or that you can be something more is difficult.   I am not saying everything is like a perfect ending or that it will all fall into perfect place but it will feel amazing when you find your happy.  No matter what your happy is.  

The red flag posts here will be helpful and will keep you somewhat better off.  Being patient is hard to do after all the time of not being your true self.  But hopefully everyone gets their happy.

[bigkidagain]

On 8/2/2017 at 9:57 AM, Guest daddy_zach said:

I wish Admin would set up a forum group for us. That would help a lot.

Admin.. are you listening ??

 

I've been here a few weeks now, and trying to find more mature little/middles from the UK has been impossible.

Starting to think they don't exist. Or are already taken, so not looking for anyone.

 

I've only just come into ddlg. I thought finally.. I've found where I belong;

but without a suitable partner, it just feels hopeless (sigh)

They have older little/middle club. And you might can start a discord for it. Apparently I'm vanilla type little/middle with switch side of a mommy/CG since I'm new I don't know what that entails. And I'm a mom and I seen some younger daddy don't want little or middle to have kids or want kids

[Munin]

I'm little in my 30s and prefer younger Daddy's tho. But it's hard to find them

[Little kaiya]

They're definitely out there, I'm 45 and my Daddy is 24.

[Salmario]

On 1/7/2024 at 4:01 AM, Little Princess KittenRose said:

I have come to the realization that before I can even think about a partner/Daddy I have to be right inside myself. Most of us older littles haven’t been in good healthy relationships because we are needing something that a vanilla person can’t understand fully. An we know we are people pleasers so we push our needs to the back and give our partners 110% when they won’t even give 1%. Before looking for a partner understand yourself who you are as both the Big you, the little/middle you, and the person you are in between these sides of yourself. I was always told growing up that if you are in the right mindset and place than you won’t have to look for someone they will find you when you lease except it. I wish I could be younger going through this discovery of myself, but I understand that the person I was in my twenties and early thirties wasn’t ready to do what I needed to do so I wouldn’t push my needs back just to keep someone else happy and stay miserable. I do believe there are older Daddies out there who is looking for a older little to have as there own. So just keep doing you and to GuestBeesCees rock out your little self weather you dressing up or coloring stay true to you and the rest will fix itself. I have always been of the Philosophy that we should always live our truth whatever it may look like. An if you need a coloring buddy or if you want to play with dolls or if you just want a older little friend than I got your back and I know that the people on this forum will always be there with the best advice and are super supportive.

If you don't mind me saying, that is such a lovely, thoughtful answer.

[Guest Little Princess KittenRose]

On 2/11/2024 at 10:34 AM, Salmario said:

If you don't mind me saying, that is such a lovely, thoughtful answer.

Thank you, it’s taken a lot to get to this mindset that I deserve to put myself first and I should stop running for a relationship that is disrespectful at the beginning. So now I’m taken me out so to speak have a respectful interaction within and without myself. 

[wissing]

On 7/31/2017 at 3:10 AM, Guest daddy_zach said:

Apologies from me for entering this Little place, but..

 

 

There should be a thread for the more mature little i.e 30s, 40s and over.

 

It's not easy for daddies to find you at all

I can imagine. I am 41 and married just found a couple of days ago that i might be a little so I am reading a lot. so far you all seem very nice. 

[wissing]

On 12/28/2023 at 1:57 AM, DaddyMarin said:

In my opinion your age given on your legal id has nothing to do with how you feel..

Being 89 in the as I call it "outside world" or 21 doesn't matter if you're a little/middle or whatever age you think or feel you are is ok, as long as it makes you happy, comfy and safe . Myself I am a 54 year old DaddyDom and struggled with that just due to the fact that I encountered lots of people in the DDlg life that were between 18-30 .. so here I was feeling to old , but little did I know, pun intended, and now I can finaly feel ok with being older and connect to older littles Wich is totally awesome.. just let your inner person be what it needs to be

Easier said then done. It is way to scary but you are ofcause right. 😊

[wissing]

Hey new in here so reading and looking a lot.  I have replied on some posts and thought it was about time to afficially say hi. I believe I have always been a little just did not knew there was a word for it i am 41 years old and married. So hi all daddys and littles 😊

Edited March 9, 2024 by wissing
Forgot half the words don't have a daddy to remind me and hubby is sleeping 😉

[krazygirl]

Is there somewhere where everyone usually goes to find the dd part of the ddlg? Cause I can't find a good site for it that is used recently. I'm tired of being the LG part without the DD part. It's exhausting!!!

[krazygirl]

Is there somewhere where everyone usually goes to find the dd part of the ddlg? Cause I can't find a good site for it that is used recently. I'm tired of being the LG part without the DD part. It's exhausting!!!

[Little kaiya]

There isn't a specific site or way to find a DD, they are people and individuals and have different interests, likes, like goals and everything else included. The best way is probably to connect with folks with similar interests, get to know people, find someone you connect with and go from there. It really isn't something that can be rushed or found on a website 

[lil Mo]

Yes, as @Little kaiya said it can't be rushed.. 

Do you know what you're looking for in a DD? 

Here are Personals so you could have a look there and maybe post your own one. 

But then really take the time to get to know each other and see if you're a good fit.. 

[krazygirl]

5 hours ago, lil Mo said:

Yes, as @Little kaiya said it can't be rushed.. 

Do you know what you're looking for in a DD? 

Here are Personals so you could have a look there and maybe post your own one. 

But then really take the time to get to know each other and see if you're a good fit.. 

I know it takes time.  Everything good always does. I just meant there are so many websites and chat places for everything out there except us. It's frustrating is all. 

[Guest little joestar]

Hi everyone, it's so nice to see other older littles. I don't feel so alone anymore 🥰

[IdkWhatImDoingLittle]

Yay! 35 little!! So glad I’m not alone! ☺️😂