Older/Mature Littles/Middles

[Daddyslilprincess17]

[MiAcushla]

It does seem like an inordinate about of the people here are under 25, Bigs and littles alike. Makes me feel super old at 32.

[BonBeau]

Hi All,

I'm a middle (14 year old boy). I just joined the site today and the first thing I went looking for was "middles" "LGBTQ" and "30+" (I'm 33). lol

 

My ability to relate to people is more about how old they are as a middle/little verses their chronological age. Sometimes I feel awkward or bummed when everyone around me is under 21. I'd like to know some middles who are closer to my age. It's not exclusively about what ages are more intellectually mature - it's about being at similar places in life.

 

I agree that it that there's a difference in how caregivers respond/act toward us. I know some of it is in my head and ageism is a real thing. I admit that sometimes I feel less cute or desirable than people physically younger than me. I know that's not necessarily true but it doesn't change how it feels. Plus, I'm an angsty teenage boy. I need someone who's experienced enough to handle me and the average 20 year old Daddy won't fit the bill. lol 

 

On that note, anyone who is interested in connecting, either as friends or with interest of being a CG, please do! I'm new here and don't know anyone.

 

thanks for hosting this thread.

[Daddyslilprincess17]

Hi bonbeau ive added you as a friend x

[DaddysGhoul]

I'm a 31yr old middle, I feel you Bon Beau with the teenage angst.

I've never actually talked to let alone me another little/middle.

[BonBeau]

Speaking of care givers that can meet our needs / handle us...

 

What do people do when it comes to finding care givers that are older? I seems like every CG on here is under 25 (lol not even as high as 30!) it blows my mind a little. When I think of CGs or bigs I definitely think of people much older.

[Guest bad_apple]

I'm a 34 year old little.

And while it seems the majority of the forum is quite young, there are a lot of "old" littles and caregivers around.

I just often feel like the younger crowd is more present and participates more on a daily basis.

[little_at_heart]

i agree with Keks.

 

However, i also think the Big/little dynamic is even more complex and misundestood than D/s or M/s. i know dominants who have no problem being, well, dominant, but who are distinctly uncomfortable or become unsure of themselves in a Daddy/Mommy/CG role.

 

And, depending on your location, it can be very difficult to find an older, mature, somewhat experienced CG. Online is hard b/c it takes a bit to figure out if someone is a poser, scammer, creeper, douchebag, or actually a Daddy.

 

And all these challenges are multiplied if you are 30+

 

However, i love my little side and indulge her as often as i can even without a Daddy, because....sparkles!

 

xox

[Guest itsbabygirlbean]

I'm 33. I don't feel "old". I'm all for a 30+ section here,though . All legal ages should be represented here.

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

However, i love my little side and indulge her as often as i can even without a Daddy, because....sparkles!

 

Best. Reason. Ever!

[BonBeau]

I'm a 34 year old little.

And while it seems the majority of the forum is quite young, there are a lot of "old" littles and caregivers around.

I just often feel like the younger crowd is more present and participates more on a daily basis.

It's funny. Someone i know said the exact same thing today. I think you're right. Lol all the more reason to have more defined spots for us because someone who isn't on as often will be able to check in easily.

 

I don't know. It seems that from what I've seen the admins feel that threads like this do the trick but I don't think it does. To work well it's turn into a huge never ending thread which would be hard to keep up with or connect with folks. Same with lgbtq+ I hope they will reconsider it.

[Guest bad_apple]

The thing about an extra section is, it has easily the chance to create the feeling of exclusion.

Because it has a possibility of policing. How will under 30 years old be kept from posting? Should they? And so on and so forth.

Which is not something I'd be in favour of.

[BonBeau]

I think it'd need to be a both/and. Littles visit the big forum. I think what I actually want is more structure around whatever thread or outlet might exist. A whole forum space would likely. E too big. There could be a small handful threads that on similar 30+ things just so we aren't looking at an endless thread for everything. That would be hard to connect because there would be so much in it that people would struggle to find things Edited August 16, 2017 by BonBeau

[Ikneelonly4Daddy]

It doesn't EXCLUDE all other ages it just waves a flag saying "hey! We're here!" So we're easier to find. It's not an exclusion, it's just a large arrow pointing to a place where we'll be in more concentrated numbers.

 

It's just so we can find one another. Like a point on a map.

[Ikneelonly4Daddy]

No one can be kept from posting, nor SHOULD they. Edited June 27, 2020 by Ikneelonly4Daddy

[Guest bad_apple]

I'm relaxed. Just saying it has the potential to get problematic. That's doesn't mean it will happen...

[Guest bad_apple]

I think it'd need to be a both/and. Littles visit the big forum. I think what I actually want is more structure around whatever thread or outlet might exist. A whole forum space would likely. E too big. There could be a small handful threads that on similar 30+ things just so we aren't looking at an endless thread for everything. That would be hard to connect because there would be so much in it that people would struggle to find things

That makes sense. I think I misunderstood the section part when I replied which is why I said it could be problematic. When this topic came up in the feedback section there was that worry as well. Probably why my thoughts went there.

Sorry for misunderstanding.

[Littlejacob]

I completely agree, I get tired of being passed over for the barely models, it's not fair.

[Guest Pacify_Her420]

[Guest autumnlove]

I'm Autumn, I just wanted to make a thread for any middles bc I've had a bit of a time connecting with other people who connect with that spectrum.

 

A long time ago, when tumblr was better, I was in the Nymphet community (yes, v v v problematic, 17 y.o me was dumb) and that was when I realized I was a "little" but I just didn't identify with the baby-ish-ness. The "widdle tawk" the pretending to be 4  (nothing wrong with that! Just not me!) wearing onesie p.j's and drinking from bottles etc. 

 

That community made me realize my sub headspace is a "middle" range, and I wanted to have more freedom.  I still love Disney, have a bunch of stuffed animals I cuddle with, and wanna be babied (constantly) by my Daddy.

But I also wanna get tipsy, wear short tennis skirts and crop tops, buy(steal) cherry lip gloss, shamelessly flirt and do it all with a pale pink ribbon in my hair. 

 

So, if there are any others that identify this way I'd love to chat! & talk about your interests too!

If you're a middle, what's your fave middle activity or...something that you just love doing in general? 

 

 

[Raven2evil]

I feel like im more of a middle too especially since i cant give up my gothish style even when in little space. Black and purple will forever be my go to colors. I like coloring sometimes, i like watching disney and horror movies. I love video games, and listening to music. I also love to get tipsy and shamelessly flirt but purple ribbon . I do have a stitch onesie that makes me feel cute but its one of those big like adult hallowen costume type onesie. 

[Guest autumnlove]

Right! There's just a line that's more on an.."older" spectrum where you're still little but not little-little lol hopefully that makes a little sense. 

 

What're your fave horror movies? I love anything paranormal, vs gore, that just bores me. But like ghosts n demons n stuff? Yes, all day. 

Who're your fave musical artists?

 

 

 

EDIT - Don't like that this was moved here, I don't identify as "older/mature" I made the other thread specifically for middles, and this is super inactive so. If anyone reads this and you identify as a middle (and idc about your age so long as you're over 18) message me <3 lets be friends.

Edited February 14, 2020 by autumnlove

[Guest QueenJellybean]

moderator note:

combining this topic with our bigger collective, Older/Mature Littles/Middles.

[Guest PrincessSparkles35]

Hey all! I'm a little and in my 30s. It's fun, confusing and different. If anyone wants 2 be friends lemme know. Message me and if we become friends I can share my discord id. K....bye all

[Daddy’s Hunnibunni]

I agree as well, I get frustrated when I think of my age and all of the younger littles posts. I almost feel like I can’t relate to the younger littles. It’s hard to explain.