Older/Mature Littles/Middles

[Guest Little Princess KittenRose]

I have felt so ashamed in myself when I first discovered I was little it's been now going on 4-5 yrs now. I've accepted this part of myself, even though I can't fully submerge into Little Space. I had tried joining so communities on Facebook, but most of the Daddies where way younger and more sex-minded than really wanting to get to know me. So I stepped back and stayed to myself. But this year I promise myself I will be better and find happiness, health, and safety/peace I have been looking for. Being 38 almost 39 come July it is hard for me to relate to other littles who are under 30. I try, but besides music and movies/TV shows we really have nothing to talk about. They usually use me as a listening ear for their problems and/or just someone to pass the time talking to until someone they really like to talk to contacts them. I feel silly trying to find a Daddy when I can't find one over 29. But I dream still to find a Daddy that I can feel totally safe with and finally be the happy Little I need to be instead of being forced to play mommy to younger Littles and sometimes younger wannabe Daddies.

Well I have ramble enough now,

Have a Blessed day

~Kitten

Edited May 21, 2023 by KittenRoseDream
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[sweetgirl222]

Man, do I relate. I'm 52. I see exactly the issues with finding a Daddy who accepts an older person who is a Little. In my case, Middle. Conversely, I have to say it's hard to find an older Daddy, period. So I think it does go both ways. But I keep thinking - there is SOMEBODY out there for me!

[PRMari]

3 hours ago, KittenRoseDream said:

I have felt so ashamed in myself when I first discovered I was little it's been now going on 4-5 yrs now. I've accepted this part of myself, even though I can't fully submerge into Little Space. I had tried joining so communities on Facebook, but most of the Daddies where way younger and more sex-minded than really wanting to get to know me. So I stepped back and stayed to myself. But this year I promise myself I will be better and find happiness, health, and safety/peace I have been looking for. Being 38 almost 39 come July it is hard for me to relate to other littles who are under 30. I try, but besides music and movies/TV shows we really have nothing to talk about. They usually use me as a listening ear for their problems and/or just someone to pass the time talking to until someone they really like to talk to contacts them. I feel silly trying to find a Daddy when I can't find one over 29. But I dream still to find a Daddy that I can feel totally safe with and finally be the happy Little I need to be instead of being forced to play mommy to younger Littles and sometimes younger wannabe Daddies.

Well I have ramble enough now,

Have a Blessed day

~Kitten

My dear, I can totally relate with how you feel. I am significantly older than you and just realized I was a Little a few weeks ago. 

I know there are some older Daddies out there, even though many of them will look to a younger Little instead of looking laterally. But still, I believe that there are some that recognize the worth in looking beyond chronological age. 

I am still dealing with my own feelings of embarrassment but this community has been incredibly supportive. I am trying to learn more about who I am and becoming more comfortable with my Little. 

Dream on, because dreams sometimes come true. 

Blessings and blessings 

Mari

[daddyswiss]

I’m amazed at the maturity younger people have these days about understanding their identity and wish I would have understood myself better at that age.

I think it’s a case of ‘better late than never’ to accept your innermost desires and be at peace with who you are.

Being a DD/LG is a mindset and can arrive at any biological age

[LilLamby73]

It is so wonderful to see so many like minded Littles/Middles that are chronologically more “mature”.  I am married to someone 14 years younger than I am and he always tells me to grow up. If it hasn’t happened and I’m gonna be 50 this year, it’s most likely not going to 😂

I also love hearing from those of you who have also recently discovered your smaller side and the struggles of wanting your needs met. I can say with a fair amount of certainty that my husband has no interest in being my Daddy. He would rather I wait on him and he gets very frustrated if he feels like I’m being immature (want my hair in pigtails, wear overalls or cute shoes). 

Though I’m not looking to end my marriage at the moment, I fantasize about what it would be like to have a Daddy that truly loves me for me and wants to take care of me.  And I’ve had those thoughts that even if I was looking, what Daddy would want a LG my age?  So I appreciate knowing I’m not alone and also incorrect. 
 

Love and hugs!

[PRMari]

10 minutes ago, LilLamby73 said:

It is so wonderful to see so many like minded Littles/Middles that are chronologically more “mature”.  I am married to someone 14 years younger than I am and he always tells me to grow up. If it hasn’t happened and I’m gonna be 50 this year, it’s most likely not going to 😂

I also love hearing from those of you who have also recently discovered your smaller side and the struggles of wanting your needs met. I can say with a fair amount of certainty that my husband has no interest in being my Daddy. He would rather I wait on him and he gets very frustrated if he feels like I’m being immature (want my hair in pigtails, wear overalls or cute shoes). 

Though I’m not looking to end my marriage at the moment, I fantasize about what it would be like to have a Daddy that truly loves me for me and wants to take care of me.  And I’ve had those thoughts that even if I was looking, what Daddy would want a LG my age?  So I appreciate knowing I’m not alone and also incorrect. 
 

Love and hugs!

Oh no LilLamby73, you'd be very, very surprised. 

I have some years on you and can tell you that there are me out there looking for a Little and actually prefer more mature women. AND, many of them are younger, ranging from 26 and older. 

I have been struggling with the realization that I was a Little all along.  How can this be? Well, there are more than we know. 

I love this community because you are not alone and there is no judgment here. I can tell you that I completely understand your feelings. What you feel is real, what you need is real, what you want is attainable. 

I'm scared of what my little may be, but I'm going ahead anyway. You should too. 

Blessings and blessings 

Mari

[AspiringDaddy]

6 hours ago, LilLamby73 said:

It is so wonderful to see so many like minded Littles/Middles that are chronologically more “mature”.  I am married to someone 14 years younger than I am and he always tells me to grow up. If it hasn’t happened and I’m gonna be 50 this year, it’s most likely not going to 😂

I also love hearing from those of you who have also recently discovered your smaller side and the struggles of wanting your needs met. I can say with a fair amount of certainty that my husband has no interest in being my Daddy. He would rather I wait on him and he gets very frustrated if he feels like I’m being immature (want my hair in pigtails, wear overalls or cute shoes). 

Though I’m not looking to end my marriage at the moment, I fantasize about what it would be like to have a Daddy that truly loves me for me and wants to take care of me.  And I’ve had those thoughts that even if I was looking, what Daddy would want a LG my age?  So I appreciate knowing I’m not alone and also incorrect. 
 

Love and hugs!

 

"he always tells me to grow up"

Don't grow up. Grow into who you want to be, or who you are.

I'm certain you've done more than enough grown-up stuff, and still doing so, looking after your kids and a husband (who are kids too 😁).

 

 

[Guest Runa]

@LilLamby73  You're not alone!    There are plenty of Daddies here that would like to meet someone their own age or younger (that includes being 49!).  I know there are also Daddies here looking for something platonic if that interested you.

Like @AspiringDaddy said, don't grow up!  Be yourself, grow into who you want to be.

We don't stop playing when we get old, we get old when we stop playing!

I think it was Bernard Shaw that said that! *does a quick google* Yup, it was!   

[LilLamby73]

6 hours ago, AspiringDaddy said:

 

"he always tells me to grow up"

Don't grow up. Grow into who you want to be, or who you are.

I'm certain you've done more than enough grown-up stuff, and still doing so, looking after your kids and a husband (who are kids too 😁).

 

 

Yes, lots and lots of adulting. I was a single mama for many years after leaving an abusive and narcissistic ex. 
 

I love that, grow into who I am. It is what this next phase of my life is about I believe 🥰. Thank you!

[LilLamby73]

5 hours ago, Runa said:

@LilLamby73  You're not alone!    There are plenty of Daddies here that would like to meet someone their own age or younger (that includes being 49!).  I know there are also Daddies here looking for something platonic if that interested you.

Like @AspiringDaddy said, don't grow up!  Be yourself, grow into who you want to be.

We don't stop playing when we get old, we get old when we stop playing!

I think it was Bernard Shaw that said that! *does a quick google* Yup, it was!   

Thank you sweets!  I don’t want to lose myself again trying to shove myself into someone else’s box. I am finally really loving myself again and that happens when you decide to be authentic. 
 

🤔 a platonic Daddy…..  

[Guest Runa]

I was a single parent too after I escaped a bad situation.  Took me a few years to even get to place where I was able to start finding myself!  🤣  I'm so happy you're learning to love yourself again!  DD/lg turned out to be a big part of that journey for me.

And, yeah, plenty of Daddies that are looking to be a Daddy/Caregiver without seeking a romantic/sexual relationship.  That can be super helpful at times.  

[BrassyBabyGirl]

23 hours ago, LilLamby73 said:

 

I also love hearing from those of you who have also recently discovered your smaller side and the struggles of wanting your needs met. I can say with a fair amount of certainty that my husband has no interest in being my Daddy. He would rather I wait on him and he gets very frustrated if he feels like I’m being immature (want my hair in pigtails, wear overalls or cute shoes). 

 

I am in no way saying leave your hubby, I know things are complex in situations like that. I just wanted to say I did leave mine who shamed me for who I was as a woman and a little/middle. I ended up with an old friend who is a switch-my Daddy and my playmate. The dynamic ebbs and flows as we need it to. It comes with its own challenges but I can say I am 100% authentic and no longer feel split in two. I am an older middle and I have a Daddy older than I am. They are out there. But way before we connected in that way, I took the journey on my own to know, love and nurture the little I am on my own. I hope that is what every older middle does...celebrate who they are, spoil who they are as a little/middle/switch. I love this phase of my life, my own place, my own money and the say so in my life to spoil who I am. But I will say when I was first learning and embracing, I was sad at how many younger littles there were and how few older ones. I feel at home now in this community and in myself :0).

[PRMari]

So true, it is so reassuring to me to see older Littles coming out, but I've got you all beat in years 🤣😂🤣

I've had a hard time exploring my little by myself, but I know exactly who she is and why she is. Incredible thing for me because I've lived a lot of my life already and the physicality of it (for those who are seeking nonplatonic) is a HUGE challenge for me. I'm not a prune yet, lol, but I am not perky 😁

But I love my little and I am in the midst of an emotional and sexual reawakening.  How Collis that?! And how scary, lol. 

Come on out wherever you are, you have a home here! 

Blessings and blessings 

Mari

[LittlePrincessBunny]

I am 36 and I was 18 when I realized I was a little. But this is the first time I have ever joined a community where there are others like me it’s nice. I understand how y’all feel. But I just tell my self that age doesn’t matter that you are only as old as you feel.

[LilLamby73]

On 5/26/2023 at 8:30 PM, BrassyBabyGirl said:

I am in no way saying leave your hubby, I know things are complex in situations like that. I just wanted to say I did leave mine who shamed me for who I was as a woman and a little/middle. I ended up with an old friend who is a switch-my Daddy and my playmate. The dynamic ebbs and flows as we need it to. It comes with its own challenges but I can say I am 100% authentic and no longer feel split in two. I am an older middle and I have a Daddy older than I am. They are out there. But way before we connected in that way, I took the journey on my own to know, love and nurture the little I am on my own. I hope that is what every older middle does...celebrate who they are, spoil who they are as a little/middle/switch. I love this phase of my life, my own place, my own money and the say so in my life to spoil who I am. But I will say when I was first learning and embracing, I was sad at how many younger littles there were and how few older ones. I feel at home now in this community and in myself :0).

This is extremely inspirational, thank you!  We have had problems for a few years now and lots of not nice things of been said in that time period. The difference now is that I don’t absorb them like I used to. I don’t know what the future holds but I’m no longer afraid. I’ve lived on my own before and I know I can do it again. Time will tell. 😉

[BrattyAngel]

Hi, I’m new to being a little and have been fighting with my guilt, shame, and insecurities for a long time. I’m over 30, married, and I do feel to old to be letting these suppressed feelings out. I want to make little/middle friends and understand myself more and maybe figure out what age my little/middle is. I also apologize in advance for anything I do and don’t realize I am doing it or saying.

Edited June 10, 2023 by BrattyAngel

[Guest Little Princess KittenRose]

18 hours ago, BrattyAngel said:

Hi, I’m new to being a little and have been fighting with my guilt, shame, and insecurities for a long time. I’m over 30, married, and I do feel to old to be letting these suppressed feelings out. I want to make little/middle friends and understand myself more and maybe figure out what age my little/middle is. I also apologize in advance for anything I do and don’t realize I am doing it or saying.

Don't feel ashamed, I truly understand the feelings. I'm looking for friends as well. If you really want to I would like to be friends. Only if you want that is...

[LittleNyx]

19 hours ago, BrattyAngel said:

Hi, I’m new to being a little and have been fighting with my guilt, shame, and insecurities for a long time. I’m over 30, married, and I do feel to old to be letting these suppressed feelings out. I want to make little/middle friends and understand myself more and maybe figure out what age my little/middle is. I also apologize in advance for anything I do and don’t realize I am doing it or saying.

Hi Angel

Please don't feel too old...the soul doesn't age the way the body does. I totally get your feelings and I know it can be difficult but think about this...you're on your way to truly get to know a side of you that is important and will help you in every way possible. I'll send ya a Follow request. I hope that's ok.

[BrattyAngel]

On 6/11/2023 at 12:05 PM, KittenRoseDream said:

Don't feel ashamed, I truly understand the feelings. I'm looking for friends as well. If you really want to I would like to be friends. Only if you want that is...

Of course I would love to be friends and thank you so much! 🥰

[BrattyAngel]

On 6/11/2023 at 12:31 PM, LittleNyx said:

Hi Angel

Please don't feel too old...the soul doesn't age the way the body does. I totally get your feelings and I know it can be difficult but think about this...you're on your way to truly get to know a side of you that is important and will help you in every way possible. I'll send ya a Follow request. I hope that's ok.

That’d be amazing! 🤩 Thank you ❤️

[Cebakes]

Why are there no older middles in the Philadelphia area?? Ugh…..😞

[StrayKittenNZ]

42 year old autistic 10 year old middle here 😺 I like having 3 decades of experience of being 10 year old, although a bit annoyed how much I had to spend undercover. And most of it as a hermit, since I could never connect to adults, they are weird and alien to me 🐱

Now the problem is, how do I find other big kids to connect to? Should I try to organize an event? I have plenty of time now that I'm on disability. But how it should look like?
If you were to attend an event to get to know other middles (or littles), how would you like it to look like? Go on bigger playground? To the beach? I would happily go even to the splashpad. There would definitely have to be something to do, otherwise kids will get bored... 🐱

[HugsR4bears]

@StrayCatNZ The beach would be a great location if that's close to you! I feel like playing on the beach is pretty widely accepted for all age groups so it's a little more inconspicuous in case some people are a little more nervous to show their little side. But it's also a wide open space so people can sit and chat instead to get to know one another better!

[Guest Little Princess KittenRose]

On 6/12/2023 at 4:28 PM, BrattyAngel said:

Of course I would love to be friends and thank you so much! 🥰

Yeah!!! I'm Kitten, what do you want me to call you???🤔🤔🤔💓💓💓

[BrattyAngel]

22 minutes ago, KittenRoseDream said:

Yeah!!! I'm Kitten, what do you want me to call you???🤔🤔🤔💓💓💓

You can call me Angel 😇 I love your name Kitten 🐱 it’s beautiful 😻