Older/Mature Littles/Middles

[beanbean]

I don't know I think the older you are it makes it special .it helps you look at life with experience but with a twist of have fun and make up for lost time keeping things real but enjoying the little stuff

[HugsR4bears]

omgsh I love dino nuggets and making a mashed potato volcano with gravy lava 

@beanbeanyes, totally, I feel like I find joy in the little things that most people overlook or think are mundane.

Does anyone follow Nathan Pyle? I feel like his cartoons and posts on Instagram are quirky and look at the world in a unique way.

[thelasteiko]

Yes! I love Strange Planet 😄Makes you think about all the ridiculous stuff we've been programmed to do without thinking. Not that any of it is bad or good.

[sweetgirl222]

On 2/24/2020 at 8:33 PM, Guest LostFox said:

I would love to meet older Littles/Middles/Daddies....

I'm 43 and kinda feel like I don't fit in real well sometimes, even though everyone is so nice here.

ME!

[Redbottompunkin]

Hello!!   I think it’s actually awesome that we are all a little older. We are staying true to ourselves and meeting our needs. I’m 44 and always knew this about myself but never had the courage to explore it until my late 30s!!  At heart I’m still 24-27 and I think I always will be!  I think I’m a catch.. I’m intelligent, we’ll established, know how to regulate my emotions (for the most part lol), and I’m at age where I realize it doesn’t matter what others think. Wish there were more real Alpha type males in the world for us!  Even on here you can feel there’s a lot more women then men and it’s just sad. The  “older” women on here, I feel are wanting to stay in their feminine energy/space and be loved while submitting to someone that knows what to do with all of that, or atleast we can hope!  But the older men are running towards the babies which is fine.  Lets be strong and lets be out there more, commenting more and responding more.  See this is def not my more submissive side lol. This is why I need an alpha to tame me hahaha

[Redbottompunkin]

On 3/11/2023 at 6:10 PM, Little kaiya said:

There are definitely differences for those of us in our forties and younger littles in their twenties. Being in my 40's and my Daddy being in His 20's we represent a bit of an unusual blend ourselves.

Hey how is that going for you.  I had someone approach me today this is a bit younger and wondering if you have any advice.  

[Little kaiya]

It really depends on what you're comfortable with, their maturity, long term relationship goals, commonalities, etc. For my Daddy and I it has worked well, we're going on 5.5 years strong and counting 😁

[BrassyBabyGirl]

Anyone else find fancy appetizers kick them into little space lol. They are just so cute...and tiny...and yumyum? I am living on Martha Stewart appetizers.

[lil Mo]

Oh yes, I like to cut my food in little pieces and eat it with my fingers.. makes me feel Little, too.. 🤗

[Harlee-qwinnie]

On 3/14/2023 at 5:52 PM, HugsR4bears said:

Hello 👋,

I'm 30 yo and located in the Midwest - I grew up in a conservative Baptist home so I feel like I can relate to what some of you have posted 😅. 

Hi there, thought I'd share a few things I do for my little self, maybe help you find things you can do. 

When I have had a tough/long day, I take a bath - with toys and bubbles!! YAY😄  To decompress my mind, I color and have on cartoons. Sometimes I watch cartoons for a few hours when time permits, or an animated movie. I have special snacks and clothes that help my mindset, too. I do other things as well, but these are readily available for most of us.   Good luck and enjoy being little!

[HugsR4bears]

Thanks @Harlee-qwinnie, I've started trying to implement some of these things in the past few weeks. Especially the bubble baths after work!! 

I also recently started following Sad Nuggie on IG which give me a giggle throughout my day - They have recently come out with a coloring book too! 

What sort of clothes/brands have you purchased from? The only little clothing I have are pjs, I'm looking to expand but also am fighting my logical side telling myself I don't need any more clothes 

 

 

[spookymushroomy]

I'm 36 and am happy to keep exploring my little side for as long as I want. Ages smages

[jazmynMyddle_]

On 8/1/2017 at 4:41 PM, Ikneelonly4Daddy said:

I don't feel to old to be here, but I don't feel like some of the concerns, questions, ideas, and goals are quite the same as those of a person in their early 20s. I value their input and insight and I enjoy hearing about their experiences as littles and CGs but I'd like to see more from people in my own age bracket.

 

Edited April 27, 2023 by Jazmyn Myddle

[Nixie]

I'm 36, new to dynamic relationships but I've known about my little/kitten side for a while (i just didnt realize thats what it was, like the terms). I just also feel permanently like a child even if I'm not in little space 😅 (that's probably on the trauma lol)

[BrassyBabyGirl]

On 4/17/2023 at 10:10 AM, HugsR4bears said:

Thanks @Harlee-qwinnie, I've started trying to implement some of these things in the past few weeks. Especially the bubble baths after work!! 

I also recently started following Sad Nuggie on IG which give me a giggle throughout my day - They have recently come out with a coloring book too! 

What sort of clothes/brands have you purchased from? The only little clothing I have are pjs, I'm looking to expand but also am fighting my logical side telling myself I don't need any more clothes 

 

 

I love Little for Big, you can find them on Amazon. If you look around it is not to much. I love onesie jam jams. I live in onesie jam jams and footed jams. They have all kinds of clothing, not just jams. Also if you are worried about packages going to the wrong house (and they open up your adult sized onesie jams and binky...reallife) you can have it go to an amazon locker.

[carebear946]

On 4/25/2023 at 3:35 AM, purpledarlinka said:

I've been a little/sub all my life, but didn't know there was a name for it let alone a community for it till last year (2022). In fact, what clued me in was my first exposure to Age-Play fictional books (Pepper North, Laylah Roberts and L.G. Knight).
Now, I'm eager to connect with little's, as I desire to grow my social circle with like-minded/like-living folks. I don't have a daddy, my hubby isn't my daddy and is 100% vanilla. So because I'm trying to grow into this fully, I'd like to connect with other Little's.
I'm 42 (bio-age : recently turned early April 2023) and my little age is 4-6 (once in a blue moon teeters on age 7-8). Please (if you're comfy) reach out and let's connect!
Thanks,

PurpleButterfly

Lovely to hear your story. I'm almost 35 and have known for a while that I'm submissive people pleaser and middle usually somewhere between 4-8. I don't have any littles in my life and don't know of clubs or anything in my country so it's nice to know there are others out there and this forum is a great idea.

[little_me.]

Hi , I am new to this forum. I'm 16yo little, by birth certificate I am 44. As long as I remember I always felt this way, but only just find my DD recently. My Daddy is more experienced than me and is being absolutely fantastic at guiding me. We are in long distance DDlg relationship, we already met in person and we will be meeting on monthly basis. 

I guess that I joined this forum out of curiosity to learn more about DDlg lifestyle, to help find answers to my countless questions, and to educate myself so I can become the best lg that my Daddy deserves.

Edited May 11, 2023 by little_me.

[PRMari]

Hi there:

I'm kinda disheartened seeing that a lot of littles think they are older when they are 25 or even 40.  I don't know if I will ever find anyone to be able to talk to about what I am experiencing.  To me, any one under 45 is just starting out, so much life to life, places to see and people to meet.  Honestly, with the utmost respect, I don't think an 18 years can really know - I use my own 18 year self (a long, long, long time ago) as a reference.  You are usually shallow and self-absorbed and have no sense of your real self.  Please pardon if I offend anyone - it is not my intention.

From my experience I view relationships like this - when you are young, its like your running a train at full speed.  You don't think much and a lot of it is quick, rough, anxious, hot and can easily burn out.  Loving when you are mature is like the languorous stretching of a cat.  Its quiet, smooth and deliberate.  Its more consistent and determined because it is laced with wisdom and knowledge.  At least that's how I view it.

Everything I feel is overwhelming and distressing, but only because I recently JUST realized what I really am, what I need and want.  I feel that it is too late to ever be able to do anything about it.  I guess they is why I feel this pressure in my chest and I want to cry all the time.  I feel so alone with this knowledge of realizing I am a little with no one is really hard.  At night I fantasize about having a daddy (albiet silver haired) that would feed me a bottle, give me a paci and hug me until I can sleep.  I can't sleep very well and haven't been able to sleep much for a long time. 

Then once I fantasize, I feel ashamed and guilty that I am this old and feeling this way.  It's like I can't win.

I've had to "suck it up" so many times in my life, take the lead and resolve everyone's problems and I'm tired.  My dream would be to able to spend some time in little space, where I don't have to worry about adult things and someone is looking out for me instead of the other way around.  To make matters worse, I lost my father last summer and no one understands the depth of my grief.  I lost my mom 35 years ago (she was only 58) to cancer and with Mother's Day coming up, that grief is choking me and I don't have a shoulder to cry on.

I'm sorry I have thrown all this out here but I feel like I'm going to explode with all these feelings.

Thanks for allowing me to set this all down.  I will shut up now.

Blessings and Blessings

Mari

[lil Mo]

Mari, I'm sorry for your loss and struggles.. life can sometimes be really hard and facing it alone feels like it is 10 times worse.. 

I've also just recently discovered or better accepted my Little (looking back I see many signs where she's secretly shown herself). And part was also the belief that I'm an independent and mature woman and shouldn't want those things. But it's part of who we are and it doesn't make us any less of the person we are as 'Big' person. 

I gave myself time to explore my Little (and am still doing it). At first it wasn't easy, I wanted to color but it felt so weird and I somehow couldn't get myself to do it. But I surrounded myself with things I thought I might like as Little, bought myself a new stuffie (my Little side had somehow already managed to have 'decorative stuffies' all around the apartment), tried doing my hair as I might like it and slowly got more and more into it. 

I'm not Little all the time but I really enjoy my time in Little space and it helps me to destress and recharge my energy. My stuffie sleeps with me now every night and I actually sleep better.. 

Finding out more about my Little helped me to accept this side of me and I'm really glad that I did.. 

And now I'm looking to find a Daddy but I'm glad that I first gave myself time to explore this side before being ready to share it with someone..

Maybe you should try to explore your Little, too, find out what she likes or doesn't like, give yourself time for her and how she fits into your life. This might also help with finding a Daddy because the Daddy has to be right for your Little.

I send you hugs and hope you'll feel a bit better.. If you want to talk more feel free to reach out.. 

[PRMari]

Thank you lol Mo, for such kind words.  

I really appreciate you responding to me - I have felt so alienated from everything and everyone since I discovered my true self.

I think I understand what you mean by exploring by myself - I can certainly try!  I guess my only fear is that once I get into Little headspace, I may want to stay there, lol.  

With all I have said, I am glad that I can at least "download" what I feel here and not be shamed for it.  I really need a good cry, I suppose I can get a cool stuffie and hug it too.

Thank you again.

Blessings and blessings,

Mari

[Kittyara207]

I guess I am still starting out then.  But, this place is pretty nice.  And the people here are for the most part awesome. 

 When you realize after so long of thinking and being told to do or be one way vs how you feel is not simple.  Realizing how you could be happier if you could just change things.  But also knowing it isn't easy after so long.  Always on your mind wanting to tell people close but also knowing the way they may react.  

Exploring yourself and mind.  Finding out how to be what you need to be for others but also for yourself.  So many things are changing for you and will continue until you settle into things more.  Little space is amazing.  It is hard to pull out of it once there sometimes.  Some have a hard time getting there at least at first I've heard.  I am not one of those.  Just remember everyone is different.  Never let anyone tell you your too old to be what makes you happy.  But I am sure you notice that on your own.

[Vampiress]

On 5/11/2023 at 9:35 AM, PRMari said:

Hi there:

I'm kinda disheartened seeing that a lot of littles think they are older when they are 25 or even 40.  I don't know if I will ever find anyone to be able to talk to about what I am experiencing.  To me, any one under 45 is just starting out, so much life to life, places to see and people to meet.  Honestly, with the utmost respect, I don't think an 18 years can really know - I use my own 18 year self (a long, long, long time ago) as a reference.  You are usually shallow and self-absorbed and have no sense of your real self.  Please pardon if I offend anyone - it is not my intention.

From my experience I view relationships like this - when you are young, its like your running a train at full speed.  You don't think much and a lot of it is quick, rough, anxious, hot and can easily burn out.  Loving when you are mature is like the languorous stretching of a cat.  Its quiet, smooth and deliberate.  Its more consistent and determined because it is laced with wisdom and knowledge.  At least that's how I view it.

Everything I feel is overwhelming and distressing, but only because I recently JUST realized what I really am, what I need and want.  I feel that it is too late to ever be able to do anything about it.  I guess they is why I feel this pressure in my chest and I want to cry all the time.  I feel so alone with this knowledge of realizing I am a little with no one is really hard.  At night I fantasize about having a daddy (albiet silver haired) that would feed me a bottle, give me a paci and hug me until I can sleep.  I can't sleep very well and haven't been able to sleep much for a long time. 

Then once I fantasize, I feel ashamed and guilty that I am this old and feeling this way.  It's like I can't win.

I've had to "suck it up" so many times in my life, take the lead and resolve everyone's problems and I'm tired.  My dream would be to able to spend some time in little space, where I don't have to worry about adult things and someone is looking out for me instead of the other way around.  To make matters worse, I lost my father last summer and no one understands the depth of my grief.  I lost my mom 35 years ago (she was only 58) to cancer and with Mother's Day coming up, that grief is choking me and I don't have a shoulder to cry on.

I'm sorry I have thrown all this out here but I feel like I'm going to explode with all these feelings.

Thanks for allowing me to set this all down.  I will shut up now.

Blessings and Blessings

Mari

I really love how you described thte differences between young love and mature love, I think you are spot on with that. I've noticed over the years that there are fewer littles in the upper age ranges, and I think sometimes it's because the younger littles "grow out of" it. I know in some cases it may be that they found a life partner who shares the same interests and maybe after that they no longer feel a need for community, but in general in the upper age ranges there are fewer of us for sure. I think that also happens at times because some of us older littles can be really insecure about it thinking maybe we're too old or silly being this way.

I'm sorry that you're going through those struggles. I know it can be really hard to go through it alone. It can be hard if you have a partner, but much harder when you have nobody to guide you. I know it isn't a substitute for what you're desiring, but I know some littles have posted resources about how to be your own caregiver until one comes along. I think that if you are open to that it can be very helpful, and at least you can get a good sense of who you are as a little so that when you do meet someone you know what you want.

Ultimately, I want you to know it is more than okay to be little at your age and as you continue to get older. There are definitely caregivers out there who are more than okay with that, some maybe be your age or older, and some may even be younger. Being a little doesn't hurt anybody, and if it makes you happy and feel more fulfilled then what can be bad about that? Give yourself permission to explore these feelings and desires, and take it at your own pace.

[PRMari]

You'all have me crying with your kindness. 

I'm so glad I found this group. 

Thank you from the bottom of my heart (both adult and little) 🙂

Blessings and blessings 

Mari

[Guest Little Mina]

I find it’s really difficult (at least for me) to find Daddies that don’t mind having an older Little. I’ll be turning 32 and I’m very insecure about that, especially seeing all the younger littles around.

[Guest Runa]

2 hours ago, Little Mina said:

I find it’s really difficult (at least for me) to find Daddies that don’t mind having an older Little. I’ll be turning 32 and I’m very insecure about that, especially seeing all the younger littles around.

I know how you feel.  I was mid-30s when I joined the forum and dove into DD/lg but there are so many Daddies out there that are older too!  My Daddy is a few years older than me and he was so happy to find someone closer to his age that was also a little.  The Daddy for you is definitely out there!

Edited May 21, 2023 by Runa