Older/Mature Littles/Middles

[Guest Enchanted_MoonFlower]

5 hours ago, Little kaiya said:

If they are going to act in an ignorant way then they shouldn't be surprised when people don't waste time replying. You don't owe someone like that anything, including an explanation. Maybe if more people who act inappropriately just get cut off they'll learn to act in a more respectful way.

100 percent!  I'm sure overtime people will learn from their mistakes and act more respectful towards people. I don't waste my time responding to people who treat me poorly. I don't have time for that. 

[blacklake]

This guy loves older littles.

[Poppet]

Hello. 37yo middle here. Still learning how to better incorporate into my regular life aside from just piling the cute things around me. I do like to color sometimes. Didn’t really learn about all of this until 6 months ago while going through a… thing. Fell down a rabbit hole and here I am. Quite content. 

[Sloth Fairy]

 

On 12/29/2022 at 11:52 AM, gigisweetheart said:

I have been a little for ages but didn’t realize it until last year. I was so excited about being a little, but my age is absolutely triggering and making my journey less pleasant than I hoped it could be. 

I don’t know how it is for others but turning 40 is freeing in a lot of ways (I care less about certain things that I was hung up on when I was younger), but it is also challenging. I actually worry about death now, lol. I feel more aches and pains. I think about how I would have less of a chance of having children (I don’t want a kid but if I did). Less time to develop the career of my choice. It’s like a countdown timer begins… 

But my physical appearance is most triggering. The fine lines and new little imperfections. Trying to take cute selfies for a potential daddy is a nightmare for me. I‘ve always hated how I look but now that I look older I can get so discouraged.

The only thing that doesn’t bug me personally is my greying hair. I’ve had premature greys for a while and I actually adore how it looks, but it might be annoying or jarring to potential caregivers. I debate dying my hair again just to be more appealing in this dynamic. 

I met a slightly younger daddy online recently and I often worry if he will be in that more 30s mindset or if he is more mature already. Once I hit 40 I was kind of like “I don’t have the patience for you youngins!” LOL. My life is “here” and your life is “there”… not to draw harsh lines or anything but age does factor in a bit in terms of life views and priorities. 

I also worry that if we ever meet in person he might be disappointed or that my natural appearance will take him out of his ddlg fantasy. People often tell me that I look young for my age but it makes me sad that I cling to those comments in the hopes that I don’t disappoint a potential daddy. 

Anyway, just thought I would finally add to the topic of older littles as I’ve been struggling with this for a while. Maybe others might relate. 😊

The thing that gets to me as far as getting older and littlespace is dealing with health. I have some back and neck issues. Then  It's getting harder to keep weight off, and having a genetic predisposition for high cholesterol and high blood pressure I worry about my health going down hill. That all makes me feel old. So my body is telling me I'm approaching 50 and my mind wants to be young. I'm doing what I can for my health with diet, exercise and meditation. 

[Sloth Fairy]

3 hours ago, gigisweetheart said:

Oh absolutely! The physical reminders that I’m not actually young anymore are difficult to ignore. Well, not ignore because, like you, I make sure to tend to my health and wellness… but there is a definite disconnect between my younger mind and aging body. It’s one reason why I wonder if I should find an older caregiver sometimes so we could physically fall apart together, lol! 😂

Lol. Falling apart together. Sounds so romantic. 🤣 

[Nymph]

I am a bit weird, I am not too concerned about my age, it really is just a number to me. I do not feel old, I am so disconnected with the thought of being old that I in fact sometimes forget that with age comes health issues.

And boy I have those, it all started with back issues when I was 25 lol

The other day someone mentioned menopause and of course I know what that is, but it's kind of something that I don't feel the need to worry about, even at 40 when for all I know it could be close 😕

I have always thought of death as just part of life and don't connect it to age, there was only a couple of years where I was concerned about it. An alarming number of women on my dad's family, including his mother, have died between ages 34-36 and at that age my son was still a toddler so it was a bit scary. Now I am just dreading I will live as long as my grandmother, who just turned 102 a few days ago and I am focusing on getting there in one piece or as close as possible XD

[lil Mo]

On 4/4/2022 at 8:38 PM, Feeria said:

Deep breath, here goes...  I am a 44 yr old submissive with middle tendencies??? I am not sure.  I just know that I find the aspect of a care giver that wants to take care of me, help me be the best me, who is proud to call me theirs is verrrrrrry attractive to me.  So I joined to see if all those romance novels that drew me in with this wonderfull world of Daddies and Doms and how they love their littles, middles, pups, kittens, and subs is real or just another story.

 

I am shy and the wallflower/people watcher that justs peeks out at the world.  However with time and getting to know people I am that weird friend who is loyal, gets indignant on your behalf, and likes to cuddle next to you.  I also have a very small brain to mouth filter that is faulty...so I say off the wall things and I cuss, I am a mom to a 20 yr old boy as well....I am rambling but this is me. 

 

Soooo.....Hello all!  

Thanks.. feel like that, too.. 

Read in books about it, sounds really good but have been too shy so far to see myself like that and to admit it.. 

I'm 41 and life is busy and stressful and at times I just want to turn out the world and be in my own little world and have someone taking care and looking after me.. but it is so hard to be brave and go looking for that.. easier to just read about it.. 

But I had a bad accident 2 weeks ago and even though I didn't get hurt too badly, I want to be braver and start living my life and not only read or wish for it.. 

So this is me admitting to being a little, exploring this side of me and trying to be brave.. 

[PetitChocolatPrince]

On 7/30/2017 at 9:10 PM, Guest daddy_zach said:

Apologies from me for entering this Little place, but..

 

 

There should be a thread for the more mature little i.e 30s, 40s and over.

 

It's not easy for daddies to find you at all

I agree with the yellow highlighted completely, but I know it depends on what others are looking for.  I stopped looking at the timespan and the "what ifs" and started to enjoy life and just let things happen more naturally without looking at time per se.  I know for me it can be tough or hard to not look at time but at the end of the day I started finding new ways to make memories in my life and getting an understanding of the things that make me happy.

[UniCat]

Hi everyone,

I’m a middle, actual age 38 (turning 39 in a couple months), but forever 14 inside. 
 

Hope to make some friends here. 

Edited February 27, 2023 by UniCat

[UniCat]

On 12/27/2022 at 7:54 PM, Poppet said:

Hello. 37yo middle here. Still learning how to better incorporate into my regular life aside from just piling the cute things around me. I do like to color sometimes. Didn’t really learn about all of this until 6 months ago while going through a… thing. Fell down a rabbit hole and here I am. Quite content. 

Hi, we are similar in age. I am still trying to figure it out. Lol. 

[Kittyara207]

I agree.  I have not met much for the older littles/middles.  It would be nice to communicate with others that are older that understand what differences there are and what we deal with.

     Not saying they do not deal with things but the older ones feel out of place sometimes.  Also we were brought up that different things are not acceptable.  Being in the 40 range and trying to be yourself is...

[Little kaiya]

There are definitely differences for those of us in our forties and younger littles in their twenties. Being in my 40's and my Daddy being in His 20's we represent a bit of an unusual blend ourselves.

[Cebakes]

I wish there were more older middles here……ugh

[honeydew]

Hi guys!

I'm new here and I'm a very ancient "little"

I'm 32 years old but still feel like I'm 10 and I'm actually happy to have found this thread with people within my age group! I legit thought I was going to be the only one who was in my 30s

I've actually been pretty down about my age simply because I feel like time has gone by too fast and it just keeps going faster that I never felt like I had the time to enjoy my youth and mentally grow up. Also, my appearance just keeps plummeting downwards as I get older especially since I have PCOS and alopecia ;u;

My 20s went by in a flash, I still can't believe how quickly those 10 years went by and now I can literally feel my 30s slipping away quickly. 

Also doesn't help that I went back to college for a career change and all of my classmated are between 18-24 so I've been pretty down abt aging.

I've always been a little but never knew there was such a term or that it was an actual thing, I just thought I was weird lol

So far, I've been seeing a lot of DD that are like a decade younger than me and I'm just like... man I was born too early xD

 

[HugsR4bears]

Hello 👋,

I'm 30 yo and located in the Midwest - I grew up in a conservative Baptist home so I feel like I can relate to what some of you have posted 😅. As someone kinda new to this...I personally struggle with knowing how to have a healthy balance of handling the responsibilities of life while also doing things for your little/middle side. Hope to learn over time what yall have done to work that out in your lives! 

[KaoticKuuala]

Hi. I'm new here and new to the idea of being a little as well. I'm 30 years old. And I'm currently in a D/s relationship and have been for the last year and a half. I've had more and more urges to do childish things and engage in childish behaviors lately. I seem to have more urges since being on antidepressants. I'm not sure why. Right now the urges that I've had are things like, putting my hair in pig tails and curling up in my soft blanket with my stuffies and watching cartoons, I've also had some urges to drink from sippy cups and use a pacifier or suck my thumb. These are all somewhat new urges for me. They seem to come out more as I tell myself that these urges are okay. I have zero idea of what it means to actually be a little though and how that works in my relationship.

[Guest Runa]

*waves hello*

It's nice to see all the older littles and middles in one place!  Yay!  I'm 38 years old and a Middle.  I can get very little sometimes but only with my Daddy.  Umm... it would be really nice to find others my age who are Middles so here I am looking for exactly that!  I'm pretty shy but I do tend to chat quite easily... and a lot... hehehe...

😊

[PocketDove]

I'm in my 30's. I think it's really special to be able to connect to myself in my adulthood. It's hard for adults to let themselves enjoy things and have fun with all the social pressure to BE one way or another. When the only thing that really maters in life is the golden rule and your own happiness, it's so important to find a source of joy. This is mine!

CGL can be seen through the lens of shame and embarrassment. Every time I meet another age-player it's like a win! Someone else discovered a part of their true self like me! Hooray!

As for me, I like to say I'm safely in the 7 age range nowadays. I get really small a lot of the time though.

[Queenwarriorprincess]

On 2/26/2023 at 6:50 PM, UniCat said:

Hi everyone,

I’m a middle, actual age 38 (turning 39 in a couple months), but forever 14 inside. 
 

Hope to make some friends here. 

I'm forever 13 inside!! But according to my birth certificate I'm 32. I'd love to be anyone friend but especially all y'all older middles. ♥️ We're a different breed and it is a struggle sometimes lol

[Littlekitten1990]

I hope to find people to talk to me, the real age does not really matter for me, but I am sure there is more to talk about when you are in the same age

 

[Sloth Fairy]

Being older I discovered ddlg at age 47 and it's been an interesting and sometimes lonely journey. It's hard to connect with people online as it is. Plus being really introverted. I  understand where everyone here is coming from, feeling out of place as a little and middle. I'm now 50 and finally found a daddy. So don't get discouraged.

[Guest LittleHaley]

I really like the idea of this! Being in my thirties & also feeling like I'm 2 some days is a strange dynamic all on its own. I like the idea of older littles/middles sticking together ♡ 

[Vampiress]

I just turned 34 at the end of March and it makes me die a little on the inside. I wish I had discovered my little side a lot sooner than I had. I can't believe I'm almost halfway through my 30s already, time is just flying. Before I was a bit more sure about myself as a little, but the older I get the more I start questioning myself and I hate it.

[HugsR4bears]

It is difficult when society tells you to act a certain way . What are some things you all do to embrace your little/middle? 

I started watching Powerpuff Girls again  I forgot how much I enjoyed that show growing up!

[Kittyara207]

Watch my favorite cartoons, coloring.  I even bought Dino nuggets and smiley fries.  I claim it's for my 16yr old and I share them too.  Dress in comfy pj's with care bears and nickelodeon characters.  And when no one is home I do the real fun make blanket forts and hide from the world.