Older/Mature Littles/Middles

[Redneck-Kitty]

On 9/25/2022 at 7:50 AM, Little kaiya said:

I've found for older littles it is often easier to find a caregiver through interactions offline. It's not to say that websites and forums can't be useful but littles of different ages are often looking for different things. I found my Daddy at 39 at a furry conference. I just find often times younger littles are looking for something quick and older littles are looking for something deeper which is easier to find through in person interactions than on a virtual platform.

But it's hard to get out and go to events if you're like me and you have agoraphobia and severe social anxiety AND you don't drive. 😩 I feel like I might as well give up on trying to find a Mommy 💔

[Little kaiya]

Just because something is easier doesn't mean it's the only way. If you want something go after it. There are I'm sure a lot of folks out there who would look at me being forty- four, genderfluid, pansexual, polyamorous, neurodivergent, having chronic pain and chronic depression and OCD as a non viable parter, well, their loss. It hasn't stopped me from finding an amazing Wife and incredible Daddy/boyfriend.

The only thing giving up guarantees is not succeeding.

[pryhncess]

I get sad thinking about how I wasn't brave enough to try to explore this side of me when I was younger. But I'm here now. I'm happy to see spaces like this for the older littles.

[Guest]

On 11/21/2022 at 10:48 AM, Redneck-Kitty said:

But it's hard to get out and go to events if you're like me and you have agoraphobia and severe social anxiety AND you don't drive. 😩 I feel like I might as well give up on trying to find a Mommy 💔

 I've learned that if you dream it and want it bad enough, you just can't give up!  It took me two and a half years to find the right Daddy. You'll find the right Mommy, it just takes time. Ups, downs and stuff in between. She's out there and when the time is just right, you'll find each other. 

[Nymph]

21 hours ago, pryhncess said:

I get sad thinking about how I wasn't brave enough to try to explore this side of me when I was younger. But I'm here now. I'm happy to see spaces like this for the older littles.

When you were younger the label might have not existed! I was on BDSM forums when I was 19 and the term "Daddy Dom and Soft Dom" were usually thrown around as insults, pet was a highly demeaning kind of slave as to now it's usually cute cat ears or something like that most of the time. The lifestyle has evolved so much, in all kinds of ways.

You can also be targeted when you are younger by creepos, they usually go for the youngest they can get so we don't have to deal with that at least XD

So yay for being here now!!

[San Antonio bitty]

I agree as well. I am new to dd/lg but single and don't feel I can relate to 40 and under. I feel 40 but don't we all? Lol. Recently came into my second wind and loving life!! I am one happy little.. Yay!!!

[San Antonio bitty]

I got really excited to find this thread, then looked at dates....Jimmy Crickets!! Last post 2020?? That was 2 years ago and most from 2017!!  Ugh  I'm depressed.  

[Guest]

3 hours ago, Little210 said:

I got really excited to find this thread, then looked at dates....Jimmy Crickets!! Last post 2020?? That was 2 years ago and most from 2017!!  Ugh  I'm depressed.  

Maybe we can get it going more regularly now😊

[Skeezix]

On 11/21/2022 at 11:48 AM, Redneck-Kitty said:

But it's hard to get out and go to events if you're like me and you have agoraphobia and severe social anxiety AND you don't drive. 😩 I feel like I might as well give up on trying to find a Mommy 💔

You and me both. It's so hard to be social when you're filled with dread. 

[Sloth Fairy]

There's been a lot of older littles who post in this thread when they first find the site but unfortunately people come and go here. I think partly life just keeps everyone busy.

I know there's also a 30 plus dsicord for ddlg by @WigglyBun also. I unfortunately can't seem to get back on discord because I don't remember my log in info. Lol

[Redneck-Kitty]

I created a club on here for 30+ Littles/Middles, but it hasn't been approved yet. I'm hopeful that it will be soon and lots of us older littles can have fun with it! 

[Kittykat83]

On 8/10/2022 at 4:13 PM, Sloth Fairy said:

Hi, I'm approaching 50 yikes ! But little age is sort of fluid between 5ish and older little/middle.  I've always been like  that.  I tend to feel like I don't quite fit as a little because I'm not into some of the things littles are into,  but also don't have the kink aspect in my life either. So I'm just kind of floating in the in between. It gets a bit lonely. 

Oh, I'm sorry to hear that your feeling as if you don't quite fit in. I'm 39, and a little/middle. I'm not into a lot of stuff that some littles/middles seem to be into, but I do have that sense of joy, curiosity and playfulness that I find for my little/middle is important.

It doesn't matter if you have a kink side. I do, but I don't tend to talk to anyone on here about that, as it doesn't seem to be the place to do it. For kink there are other sites. Don't worry, just keep being you x 

[Sloth Fairy]

3 hours ago, Kittykat83 said:

It doesn't matter if you have a kink side.

Oh , ha ha. I didn't quite mean it like that. I just don't have a DD. I can see how it got interpreted that way.. But thanks.

Edited November 28, 2022 by Sloth Fairy

[krisosaur]

33 here! I've thought aspects of age play were cute for a few years now. I liked the idea of praising/taking care of a partner so I was like 'yeah if my partner wanted to be a little, I'd down to be a caretaker' and kind of left it at that. But a couple months ago I realized I wanted to be the Little instead. Funny how things turn out. 😅

[San Antonio bitty]

On 9/25/2022 at 6:15 AM, Guest kea said:

I'm certainly finding it difficult to find a Daddy. At 52, i do not think Daddy's are wanting someone older. Certainly feels like it on this site. 

Maybe i am wasting my time here

I feel the same. I'm 66 but look 42 .I'm having a hard time finding the age that would consider me a babygirl/ little. 

[Guest]

1 hour ago, Little210 said:

I feel the same. I'm 66 but look 42 .I'm having a hard time finding the age that would consider me a babygirl/ little. 

I know how you feel but there is hope! I'm a little. Realized I was about 12 years ago. Daddy found me about a year after I realized that. I about gave up. Wrote a public message / Journal type thing and didn't really expect anyone to message me. It was basically me being realistic (or so I  thought) with myself. Not long after i posted, I got a message from a Master (at that time I was a slave. Stating he wasn't a Daddy, but would sure like to try to be mine. I answered back. We've been together ever since. 11years and counting. We learned together. So, it's not impossible. There is hope. Someone will find you. It just takes time and patience. No matter what your age or gender, or dynamic. Don't settle for less then what you expect your partner to be but also don't expect perfection either. 🤗 I hope this helps lift your spirits a bit. ❤

Edited December 11, 2022 by Lil Juju

[Guest Enchanted_MoonFlower]

I'm a middle and I've found it harder to find a Daddy. It seems as many Daddies want someone who's younger. I'm 39 years old, yet I still carry all those qualities that make me a middle. I discovered it when I was looking for a Daddy when I first discovered things about myself. Sadly things didn't turn out but I loved the way I felt inside. I was very close to giving up, but I thought this place would be helpful for me. ☺️

[Kuri_Rose]

As an older little sometimes its hard to find Caregivers because most of the forums or other places like Discord seem to be geared or full of users who are 18-30. 

[Redneck-Kitty]

21 hours ago, Kuri_Rose said:

As an older little sometimes its hard to find Caregivers because most of the forums or other places like Discord seem to be geared or full of users who are 18-30. 

yup I agree with you that most places are geared towards "younger" Littles, and it really makes me sad. "older" Littles need love and affection too!

[Nymph]

I think as adults we just have less free time. I have been around this forum for years and go on long hiatus sometimes, up to a year almost I think.

You know what really feels like a slap to the face though? personals with "seeking older X" it can be just friends or in the personals section, and older means someone their age which is 25... hun, if you are older we are what? ancient? XD

I used to be in the most amazing discord server that was 35+ but because they wanted more members they kept bumping down the age... and we did get more members, lots of drama, and it all fell apart. I still miss it.

I'm 40 now and not much has changed.

[Redneck-Kitty]

20 hours ago, Nymph said:

I think as adults we just have less free time. I have been around this forum for years and go on long hiatus sometimes, up to a year almost I think.

You know what really feels like a slap to the face though? personals with "seeking older X" it can be just friends or in the personals section, and older means someone their age which is 25... hun, if you are older we are what? ancient? XD

I used to be in the most amazing discord server that was 35+ but because they wanted more members they kept bumping down the age... and we did get more members, lots of drama, and it all fell apart. I still miss it.

I'm 40 now and not much has changed.

That sounds like an awesome Discord

[thelasteiko]

I don't know if this applies to anyone here but for those feeling alone and unworthy...

Sometimes we can do everything right and try as hard as we can and still fail to gain what we want. That's not a personal failure, that's life. We aren't less because fate didn't put the perfect person in our path. And we aren't less because we couldn't find them no matter how hard we tried looking.

There are people who go their entire lives without an SO of some sort, and there is a lot of societal pressure that says we are failures for it. But life is full of wonderful, joyful things, outside of intimate relationships. I can't spend my life miserable because no one wants to join me. No one should feel that way. Love yourself; take time to enjoy the small joys. No one can love you like you love you, not even that perfect person you are looking for.

Not that you should give up hope of finding someone. Just that your inner joy and peace shouldn't be dependent on the actions of others, especially complete strangers from online forums.

[Daddies-Princess]

Hi everyone. I'm 58 and live in The Netherlands. The problem for me is that it's all new to me. I had one nice man send me pictures that I didn't fancy. I didn't know what else to do but ghost him. I did not feel good about it. Any suggestions how I say: "I don't want to go any further?" Thanks. 

[LoverEcho]

2 minutes ago, Daddies-Princess said:

Hi everyone. I'm 58 and live in The Netherlands. The problem for me is that it's all new to me. I had one nice man send me pictures that I didn't fancy. I didn't know what else to do but ghost him. I did not feel good about it. Any suggestions how I say: "I don't want to go any further?" Thanks. 

If he sent you pictures you didn’t ask for, he was not a “nice man.” Don’t feel bad about ghosting people who do stuff like that, it’s entirely justifiable. I can understand you don’t want to do that, though, so you can simply state: “Due to your behavior, I am no longer interested in speaking to you.” Or something similar, and then don’t respond to further messages from them or block them. 

[Little kaiya]

If they are going to act in an ignorant way then they shouldn't be surprised when people don't waste time replying. You don't owe someone like that anything, including an explanation. Maybe if more people who act inappropriately just get cut off they'll learn to act in a more respectful way.