My daddy said he didn't want me anymore.. and I don't want to be alone

[bubblybaby]

Me and daddy got into a big fight because I didn't want to go nap, and he started yelling. I cry when I'm scared so I started crying and he said he hated and walked out the house, the next day all his clothes and things were gone..I can't be alone by myself. I need a daddy.. Edited July 28, 2017 by bubblybaby

[Guest Mr.Stuffykins]

I'm really sorry things escalated so quickly that it got to that point. I'm not sure if his temper was a reoccurring factor in your relationship, but from this situation alone I can say that this was for the best. If something so minimal, as you not going to sleep, led to yelling and anger than what can we can expect from something more severe?

 

Now, since I dont know all the details i can only make assumptions. So PLEASE keep in mind everything i say is strictly from the information you provided. I'm not saying hes a bad daddy or anything of the sort. I'm simply giving my opinion and approaching this from different angles.

 

So, perhaps, he was just stressed and this little event just caused him to break down and he chose to leave so as not to make matters worse.

Or

He was just tired of the whole relationship and this was the final straw.

If this is indeed the case then in time you will find a new daddy. Dont rush into anything just because you need a daddy.

 

If his anger was something that came up a lot in your relationship then please dont go crawling back to him either! The last thing we want is for you to end up in some abusive relationship.

Edited July 28, 2017 by Stuffykins

[DavCentral]

:( it sounds like a lot happened. You can't fix this in 5 minutes, try to take your time and tell him you want to talk calmly, clearly and openly. There is no space for tempers if you want to work things out, you might need to be big and not little, so he understands this is a grown up talk about making things work.

Good luck! 

[Guest Mittens]

I don't think the crying was why he left, nor fighting on taking a nap really. I have a few thoughts of what could of happened, but I don't want to give any personal information like that out on the forums. It would be best to calm down first of all and then try to take a step back and don't lose faith. Find out if he is gone for good or if he just wanted to stay at a friends house for awhile to calm down.

[Antoinette]

From one person who hates being alone to another, take this piece of advice - sometimes being alone is the best thing for you. I know it sucks. It hurts like Hell and you can't shake the loneliness but you know what, it gives you a chance, a real chance, to reflect. Without outside interference. What did you do that was wrong? What did he do that was wrong? Allowing yourself to reflect honestly and wholly is a really, really good start to mentally getting over something like this.

 

And perhaps, and I'm not trying to give any false hope, but perhaps you two just need a break. Maybe a week, two, etc. just to reflect. Sometimes people just aren't compatible, sometimes people just need space, or they get overwhelmed. 

 

What I will say though is the way he acted... It doesn't seem like mentally he's in a good place right now and to be honest, with regards to your safety, I'm glad he's not there. I'm not trying to infer that he's abusive but yelling because you don't want to nap sounds as though he has quite an explosive temper and to me it's just a red flag. 

 

I hope everything works out well, dear.

[3toe]

You know you are a daddy when you read something like this and you get that sinking feeling in your chest because you can't do anything to help. I wish I could be there for you more than just for a few sentences on a forum! Stay strong and good luck!! Edited August 4, 2017 by 3toe

[Waffles]

First off I will say please, stay strong through this! I hate being alone and know the feeling, but you must stay strong! You have all of us on here to help you if you need help as well! Next, I don't believe the way he acted was the best way. To just up and leave without a word can really hurt someone; I don't believe he was thinking about how you were feeling at all in this situation *just from what I read*. I think what is best is for you to just calm down, try and relax, be with friends, and try to figure this situation out. I hate adulting, but sometimes we must put on our big boy/girl pants and figure things out for ourselves. You can do it, I know you can! I hope things get better for you dear!

[DaddyPenguin]

I have to agree that with the rest that take time to calm and just a peek at the situation. There very well can me more to the situation that you dont know.

You both may need a little time apart and than you both can talk calmly and rational. Be alone does suck. Us daddies/ caregivers also feel lonely at times.

But i know you will get through this and stay strong.