Jealously

[Guest lilglitterprincess]

Soooo I kinda have a problem...

I am in a relationship with the best daddy ever,we are together for almost 5 months and lately I am really jealous and clingy

The thing is that the adult me isn't jealous at all but when I am little I get jealous really easy.

I know that it is kinda normal to be more clingy as a little and it's not that I don't trust him,I really do,but when I am in little space I have a "don't you dare look at my daddy" attitude.

Of course we talk about it and he always reassures me that there is nothing to be jealous of but I really want it to stop

 

Any tips?

[Guest Mittens]

Boy the topic of "jealousy" I am going to assume you mean being possessive. To be jealous mean to want what someone else has that you don't. Anyways, it is normal to be possessive, every person who is monogamous is possessive. They want their daddy or little or bf/gf all to themselves and don't want them with another person or looking at another person. If you both mutually agree on monogamy and only having one, then good chance is, he likes it and feels the same way with you. Many people love it but are too shy to say it because it is highly looked down upon. Which it isn't. Wanting what is yours to only be yours isn't a bad thing, it's a natural thing. Don't fight who you are, because who you are is what he fell in love with. Changing yourself only makes people worry about what next might change, and in some(not all) cases can even be what drove a person away to begin with.

[heybabydoll]

Hello,

Oh..don't worry I guess it's a natural feeling..
I am only explaining my point of view but if you trust him, maybe your jealous side comes from your insecurities? That is just what I think, but a lot of people are insecure about who they are..and it leads them to wonder why people love them bc they feel like they are not enough..
So maybe you are afraid your Daddy may leave you..and that is why you feel jealous. 

The only thing I can say is let him reassures you and by loving you he can help erase your insecurites and he is the best one to help you being the confident person you should be! I can tell I do not help a lot but don't give up!

Cheer up it will be alright *^•^*

(I apologize for my English aw)

 

[Guest lilglitterprincess]

Boy the topic of "jealousy" I am going to assume you mean being possessive. To be jealous mean to want what someone else has that you don't. Anyways, it is normal to be possessive, every person who is monogamous is possessive. They want their daddy or little or bf/gf all to themselves and don't want them with another person or looking at another person. If you both mutually agree on monogamy and only having one, then good chance is, he likes it and feels the same way with you. Many people love it but are too shy to say it because it is highly looked down upon. Which it isn't. Wanting what is yours to only be yours isn't a bad thing, it's a natural thing. Don't fight who you are, because who you are is what he fell in love with. Changing yourself only makes people worry about what next might change, and in some(not all) cases can even be what drove a person away to begin with.

[Guest lilglitterprincess]

yeap we are on an mutual agreed monogamous relationship.

You are right thank you so much for your advice

[Guest lilglitterprincess]

yes you are right I have some insecurities since I trust him and he doesn't give me a reason to be jealous

I just freaked out cause I've never been jealous before

 

Thank you for your advice :3

[Guest Mittens]

yeap we are on an mutual agreed monogamous relationship.

You are right thank you so much for your advice

 

 

yes you are right I have some insecurities since I trust him and he doesn't give me a reason to be jealous

I just freaked out cause I've never been jealous before

 

Thank you for your advice :3

I am glad we were able to help you! I wish you the best, i really do.

[WildChild]

So...is it okay if I ask what if you are jealous (not meaning possessive)? 'Coz that's what I've got... Edited August 3, 2017 by WildChild

[3toe]

So...is it okay if I ask what if you are jealous (not meaning possessive)? 'Coz that's what I've got...

 

What makes you jealous? It's certainly "OK" to have these types of emotions in some sense, you are a human being after all.  But without knowing the specifics, It's hard to say whether or not your emotions are warranted.

[WildChild]

My Daddy is in a relationship with a vanilla...but there's no way I'm going to cut things off with him or ask him to leave the vanilla

[3toe]

My Daddy is in a relationship with a vanilla...but there's no way I'm going to cut things off with him or ask him to leave the vanilla

 

Hmm, I see.  Was this arrangement agreed upon in advance? Have you voiced your unhappiness with the situation? Even if you did agree to it in advance, you're allowed to make changes and realizations based on experience, you're allowed to admit that maybe you aren't comfortable with the situation.  I don't want to keep going with this assumption though, I'll let you respond.

[WildChild]

He mentioned it shortly after we started our DD/lg relationship, and since I'm really shy I haven't brought it up yet.

[Guest infinitecases]

He mentioned it shortly after we started our DD/lg relationship, and since I'm really shy I haven't brought it up yet.

If he mentioned it after your ddlg relationship, you went into this quite unknowingly. Both parties need to be okay with the fact that you are his little as well as him having a vanilla relationship too. If it's making you unhappy, it'll surely make him unhappy too - and I think you should tell him as soon as possible so you can either move onto a relationship that is monogamous or be able to resolve the feelings you currently feel.

[3toe]

He mentioned it shortly after we started our DD/lg relationship, and since I'm really shy I haven't brought it up yet.

I understand that you're shy, but if he's a good daddy, your happiness should be important to him, so he should want to know if you are unhappy. Two more questions:

 

 

Do you think he can tell that this is bothering you?

Did he say he wanted a monogamous or poly relationship before he told you about the other woman, or was this not discussed until after you found out about her (or not yet at all)?

[WildChild]

Okay, thanks, I'll try to do as both of you suggest.

 

In answer to the questions:

 

I don't know if he can, right now we're in a LDR, and we haven't actually met f2f.

It hasn't been discussed yet at all, and I don't know how to bring it up.

[3toe]

Okay, thanks, I'll try to do as both of you suggest.

 

In answer to the questions:

 

I don't know if he can, right now we're in a LDR, and we haven't actually met f2f.

It hasn't been discussed yet at all, and I don't know how to bring it up.

I'm a big fan of full disclosure. This is daddy's responsibility to initiate, in my opinion. He should not have began his relationship with you without telling you that he is already in one IN ADVANCE. He has now put you on a position where you are both uncomfortable with the situation and uncomfortable with trying to address it and that is unfair to you. Luckily DDlg is merely role playing, at times, humans make mistakes and adults have to deal with them. It might not be what you want to have to do, but it sounds like you are going to have to be an adult and confront him on this. And it shouldn't need to be a matter of d/s dynamic either, just two adults having a conversation.

 

Intimidating yes, but you can't stay in this awkward situation forever. You may merely just need to tell him how you feel. If he's a good daddy, that should be enough to get him to make a change (whether or not it's the change you want is anther story). If that's not enough, tell him what you want. However, if after being clear and honest about this with him, he's still unwilling to appropriately address your dissatisfaction, he's probably not right for you. Best of luck, I hope he does the right thing.

[WildChild]

Thanks.