Poly Switch Problems

[quinnie]

So... I'm poly and my primary partner has been predominantly submissive in our relationship. I love her a lot and I'm comfortable being dominant with her (and occasionally submissive, when she needs to be in that headspace)... but recently I've realized my interest in the DDlg lifestyle and I desperately want to explore it more. But it doesn't feel quite right doing so with my primary (not because I don't trust her, but because it's not really her thing and I don't wanna push her into it for my sake..).

 

I've recently considered getting a DD/CG, but I've been having a hard time with it because I'm A) not naturally submissive, don't wanna be collared or lifestyle 24/7, C) don't want it to be someone I'm specifically 'dating' (aka, not a boyfriend/girlfriend/partner, but just someone w the DD/CG aspect), and D) I'm still struggling a lot w coming to terms w my identity as someone who is Little?

 

Basically, if anyone has any advice or has experienced similar things, I would appreciate it a lot.. I'm wicked new at all this and feeling very vulnerable..

[A Cuddly Dom]

Well, a good place to start might be to further explore your little side by making friends here and sharing ideas. Once you know your little self, ie what kinds of activities, games, foods, clothing, toys and manner of care you enjoy and respond well to, then you can start looking for a CG. There's no right or wrong way to be a little, but it's very important that you know and can express your wants and needs.

 

So, once you know what it is specifically that you want, you can start narrowing down your search for the right kind of CG that's going to work for you.

 

-Best wishes

[quinnie]

Well, a good place to start might be to further explore your little side by making friends here and sharing ideas. Once you know your little self, ie what kinds of activities, games, foods, clothing, toys and manner of care you enjoy and respond well to, then you can start looking for a CG. There's no right or wrong way to be a little, but it's very important that you know and can express your wants and needs.

 

So, once you know what it is specifically that you want, you can start narrowing down your search for the right kind of CG that's going to work for you.

 

-Best wishes

I think the hardest part is the whole identity thing? Like having been in a predominantly domme role for nearly 5 years, there's a lot of guilt that comes w wanting something different.