Punishments

[chateautal]

☹ I know Daddy will always give me aftercare, but I am more sad about disappointing/upsetting Him than the punishment itself. Advice for regulating my emotions here?

 

In this kind of situation, maybe the punishment itself can be cathartic and helpful emotionally - to bring your feelings of guilt in line with your physical predicament. This is also the perfect time to express any feelings (e.g. crying, not because it is painful, but also because you're sorry, etc.).

 

I don't know how much say you have in how things are done - and the advice I can give from my Daddy perspective is only in terms of what I would suggest to CGs who punish their Littles (i.e. I know it's hard to raise these things if you are not the Top of the relationship - but from my perspective, especially when not in play itself, I find feedback extremely helpful to be the best I can be! Even in matters of correction, knowing what works and how my partner has felt about such things is extremely hopeful for getting the balance right!). 

 

Firstly, you say your Daddy provides aftercare afterwards, which is of course critical. If he doesn't already , you might point out it's important to you that he tells you he forgives you (after the punishment) - and maybe even more explicitly reassures you that you are still his good girl, etc. I'm sure he is doing this already, but it's always worth to stress how important that is for you. My perspective is that the whole point of punishment play in CG/L is that once a punishment is finished, it is then "forgive and forget" - there are no permanent records, resentments or grudges, or anything like this - and this is one way in how ddlg can be way more 'easy-going' than Vanilla relationships, despite having maybe quite a few rules! Rather than letting annoyances build up, they are addressed in a very simple manner.

 

Secondly, the long delay between being told you will receive a punishment and actually receiving it probably makes it way harder for you - for the reasons you say: the feeling that you upset your Daddy lurks over your head. If there's no logistical reason for the delay, I would definitely encourage much more immediate punishment - and if there is a reason (such as a long-distance, or only limited times to see each other), you should consider punishments that can be assigned remotely, if appropriate - to avoid the negative feelings persisting for a long time.

[Cassie3379]

I don't know whether it's a punishment or not, wearing blindfold. Actually, I am afraid of dark. I always open a lamp besides the bed when I sleep. But he asks me to wear blindfold, I don't want to fret upon him. He told me i can choose blindfold by myself. So i have a little trick. How about this blindfold? Here is the website, please tell me if it's an adventure? https://www.hihistop.com/sexy-lace-openwork-blindfold/

[LittleLover909]

[MisterPrincess]

I always see a lot of people saying that they "don't like" certain punishments...I think it's important to understand that you're not SUPPOSED to like a certain punishment. That's the point of it, to discourage the behavior. That being said, a punishment should not traumatize you in any way. It should be discouraging, but not genuinely harmful. In my personal opinion, while where the line is between discouraging and harmful can vary from person to person, removing communication, comfort, affection, or anything within those lines is ALWAYS not okay. Refusing to hold, talk to, or in some way care for your little is just never the way to go about punishment. Grounding can be effective, as someone mentioned being confined to their room for a while, as long as if they need their caregiver during that time, the caregiver is still accessible, but as with any punishment, whether it's okay or effective will vary by person. 

 

Another thing that I think is important to note is that psychology has shown that positive reinforcement (presenting a positive stimulus after a particular behavior is exhibited, usually thought of as rewards, giving a toy or praise when the little does something the way they're supposed to) and negative reinforcement (removing a negative stimulus after a particular behavior is exhibited, an example would be allowing your little to skip doing something they don't like if they follow a rule for a certain period of time or do a chore without being told) often works better than positive punishment (presenting a negative stimulus after a particular behavior is exhibited, typical punishment format, scolding your little or making them write lines after they don't follow a rule) and negative punishment (removing a positive stimulus after a particular behavior is exhibited, an example would be taking a favorite toy away or not allowing them a treat) because punishment tends to be temporary and only works to suppress a behavior until the little believes they can get away with the behavior again.

 

Essentially, using a combination of specific rewards and letting your little avoid doing things they don't want to do when they follow the rules should be the first line of conditioning and punishment should be used as a secondary way to get the little to obey because the former will do more to insure that the latter isn't even necessary. I'm certainly not disparaging punishment, by any means, my Daddy and I have them as well, but how much you actually want to have to use them should be considered and if the answer is never, you should use reinforcement, and if the punishment is the point, then you should use punishment.

[kimi]

My Daddy has always told me that any punishments for me have to always include spankings. Sometimes he might make me write lines but anything like that is just extra.

My Daddy pulls down my panties, pull ups or diaper and he puts me over his knee to spank my bare bottom and it hurts a lot! He spanks me hard and doesn’t stop until I am no longer kicking my feet and by then I’m crying uncontrollably.. I hate getting spankings.

[LittleBabyReena]

Daddy gives me spankings which are fun with the hand, but not with the crop. baby hates the crop because that’s when he scolds. It makes baby cry when Daddy scolds baby. It makes baby feels like she let Daddy down.

Time out is a sad time for baby too. The WORST is when stuffie Cuddles goes to jail for a night. baby can’t sleep without her best buddy, also Cuddles is innocent!

Baby Reena and her Stuffies youtube

Edited April 25, 2020 by LittleBabyReena

[Trueshellz]

I like funishments.

What’s that?

[kimi]

My Daddy spanks me when he needs to be punish me. I hate it because it always requires me to have my panties taken down for a bare bottom, over his knee, spanking. My Daddy says spanking me will always be my punishment. Sometimes he makes me stand in the corner with my bare bottom facing the rest of the room but that doesn’t replace the spankings. I’m a ‘little’ being punished as a ‘little’ so sometimes it also includes him taking my temp the baby way because that makes me feel incredibly ‘little’ and my Daddy says I need to be in that kind of head space especially when he has to spank me for being naughty.

[Disobedient_Baby Girl]

My daddy seems to not punish me anymore it's like he's lost interest

[LittleTeacup]

What’s that?

 

A "funishment" is a play punishment done for fun. For example, if someone liked being spanked, their partner could be like "ooooh, if you poke me one more time you're gonna get spanked!" and then they do it because they like it and it's fun. So it's not a "real" punishment.

[Guest Lele the Marshmallow]

I hate punishment in general. Were updating them since this. We just have to make time to update.

[LittleZiggy]

My Daddy ignores me when I'm naught for him. He tells me off as well.

[Guest Strawberry.Bunny]

My dada makes me write paragraphs as to why i should be forgiven and gives me time outs and spankies and also early bedtimes

[kimi]

My Daddy believes any punishment must include a bare bottom spanking because it’s a lesson to be learned. It’s just how things are done. So, when he punishes me, he pulls down my panties and he spanks my bare bottom over his knee. It’s embarrassing no matter how many times I’ve been through it but it emphasizes my littleness, and it hurts so I can’t help kicking and crying but I am a little and my Daddy teaches me stuff this way. Edited January 18, 2022 by kimi

[Guest Daddy'sSweetGirl]

My Daddy had the idea to put my punishments on a prize wheel, so any time I break a rule or show bad behaviour 1 wheel spin gets added, and it decides my punishments no matter how small or big the misdemeanour is. :3

I finally finished it tonight.

He gave me permission to upload it with explanations for what each sticker means.

NSFW

 

 

 

Though I do 6 of those things on a regular basis for him (guess which lol), but if it’s from the punishment wheel it means I gotta do it whether I’ve got a headache or feel sooky and don’t wanna. [/spoile

 

A punishment wheel sounds interesting, but the image won't load?

[Accountable Daddy]

I've never liked punishments that include being ignored or anything sexual. I also have never liked lines. They remind me of the one time I had to do them in elementary school and it became a game for me to write them out a certain way.

One punishment I heard about and like is to have my girl (when I have one) get a half cup or so of rice or something similar and dump it on the floor. Then pick up each piece one at a time. Having her count them as an added level of punishment. Time consuming, not fun, and keeps her busy while she has time to think about what she did. Works long distance too.

[princess_baby]

1. NO SAYING NO 

2. Words such as “Yeah, okay, ok, yep, nah, um, and sure” will not be tolerated

3. Send me memes

4. Kisses are allowed everywhere (tongue is permitted)

5. NO bad words

6. NO drinking

7. NO smoking (tobacco or else)

8. NO self-harm

9. NO drugs other than prescription

10. All medicine must be taken on time-

11. Minimum of 1000 calories a day (must report and ensure satisfactory result)

12. Prohibited foods include: anything with gluten, all snack cakes, spaghetti, taco bell burritos, crackers, collard greens, squash, eggs, regular cheerios, and gmo candies (m&ms etc. ) (you must be honest about your diet)

13. Ask before you eat or drink anything sweet (sugar free or not(including energy drinks)) or spicy

14. Ask before eating anything from a restaurant 

15. Be a safe driver

16. When master wants, master receives

17. Communicate when you won’t be available for more than 5 minutes at a time

18. Communicate where you are at all times and who you're with

19. At the beginning of the day, send me your schedule

20. Good mornings and good nights are required

21. Any disrespect or disobedience result in punishment  (see below)

22. Be yourself

23. Any relapses or mistakes must be reported immediately (I won’t be mad, this won’t be accompanied by a punishment)

24. Tell me before you drive

25. If I have to ask you to repeat yourself more than thrice, it will result in punishment (see below)

26. Make every effort to stay smooth

27. If you make master hard you have to finish it upon request anytime anywhere

28. You must send a letter a minimum of once per 2 weeks and a minimum of 1 written page

    1. Absolutely no typed letters

    2. Every page must be numbered and dated

    3. Perfume is mandatory

    4. Lipstick marks are acceptable

    5. Pictures are permitted in letters

    6. All sets of lines from the week will also be included in letters

    7. If you need stamps or envelopes, I will help you buy them

29. You must sleep whenever daddy sets a bed time

30. More than one missed call will result in a punishment (see below)

31. Always keep your phone charged and life 360 on

32. You must ask permission to communicate with other boys.

33. You must ask permission to spend time with others, especially sleepovers

34. When I say stop, you stop regardless of whether you’re “just joking” failure to do so will result in a punishment (see below)

35. Turning off your video or stepping out of frame is strictly prohibited

36. During video calls, you must change on camera making sure to stay in frame

37. Anything less that a “B” is not acceptable and class grades should always be an “A” unless agreed upon; failure to comply will result in a punishment (see below)

38. Do not interrupt daddy

 

 

 

Punishments

Timeouts (either facing a wall or a corner with no distractions every time you look away will add 30 seconds-2 minutes depending on the severity of the incident)

 

No Moving (sit on your hands and cross your legs no talking or looking around this will last for 2 minutes to 10 minutes depending on the severity of the incident moving adds time but being a good girl will cut time)

 

Soap (specifically for cursing wash your mouth out with whatever soap is on hand)

 

Admit Guilt (you must use your voice and apologize to me for what you did until I say you are done)

 

Verbal Degradation (you have lost the privilege of being called nice names until you apologize adequately, you will be referred to as “bitch, slut, a bad girl, etc.”)

 

Lines (25-500 lines handwritten (in good writing) in the color of my choice on lined paper the content of each set of lines will vary based on the incident lines must also be dated)

 

Mute (you have lost the privilege of using your voice any communication must be made non-verbally but still efficiently)

 

Water (you are only allowed to drink water for the rest of the day cheating will result in an extension)

 

No Games (your Ipad, PS4, and laptop will be prohibited for 10-120 minutes depending on the severity of the incident (other than for school work))

 

Compound Punishment (a combination of other types of punishments varying greatly in degree based on the severity of the incident)

 

Failure to comply with punishment will result in being CUT until you behave. Being cut means that you won't be able to talk to Daddy until you're going to actually behave.

 

 

These are my rules and punishments and of course there are always boundaries that i speak up about and whatnot.

[Guest hideouslovely]

I don't have punishments because that makes my Daddy feel uncomfortable.  I don't really need punishments, though, because I wouldn't want to do anything to upset my Daddy, anyway.  I find that if he just speaks to me in a stern voice that's enough for me!  Rewards work much better for me and I have a points system - tasks get me points and those points can be spent on rewards like movie nights, stuffies, outings, etc.

 

The idea of punishments appeals to me but I think clear boundaries are important and lots of communication.  I hate the idea of having stuffies taken away or not getting attention as I would find that damaging.

[Guest HRed74]

They all sound like ver appropriate punishments. If I had a Daddy I would expect them to be strict with me and punish me when needed.

[DiamondEyes]

We have a system called "kitten points" though we don't technically keep track of them yet (we move in together in three weeks but are LDR last two months) but we know when I have some. Daddy gives them to me when I'm especially good, impress him, or surprise him in a good way. Kitten points are used to get my way when I want something that Daddy might not initially approve of - such as what movie we will watch, what dinner I may eat or Daddy has to eat vegan, if I'm allowed to fast for more than 20 hours, going somewhere where there are friendly boys, etc. When I'm bad he takes away my points & scolds me & I have to explain why I misbehaved & how I will keep from doing it again. We have not been together enough physically to explore other punishments, but I anticipate time-out(being sent to my room) when I annoy him because I need constant attention. Edited December 11, 2020 by DiamondEyes

[GamerPrincess2k20]

My daddy punishes me by taking away one comfort thing, a stuffie, a paci or my blankey. He also gives spankings, I have two types, good girl spankings and bad girl spankings.

 

He never ignores me but won't give me huggles or play with me if I'm naughty. And I'm often quite bad.

Edited July 6, 2021 by GamerPrincess2k20

[Guest BigBeardedDaddy]

So when my little gets a little to rambunctious I like simple punishments for her and usually if we are on video (ldr) I'd have her hold her hands up until I feel she has baked down or if she is still resisting and/or still misbehaving I'll have her close her eyes... Another simple punishment and especially when she is talking bad about herself I'll have her do a self hug while daddy self hugs until she feels better... we have other punishments as well but there are a few in privy to share....

 

These are good alternatives to Littles that don't like spankings...

Edited July 28, 2021 by BigBeardedDaddy

[puppiesnbows]

My Daddy say that punishment is for learning. So I get spankings, corner time,early bedtime, soapies and grounding. I hate it all and tries be good.

[ummrylie]

Punishments

 

Timeouts (either facing a wall or a corner with no distractions every time you look away will add 30 seconds-2 minutes depending on the severity of the incident)

 

No Moving (sit on your hands and cross your legs no talking or looking around this will last for 2 minutes to 10 minutes depending on the severity of the incident moving adds time but being a good girl will cut time)

 

Soap (specifically for cursing wash your mouth out with whatever soap is on hand)

 

Admit Guilt (you must use your voice and apologize to me for what you did until I say you are done)

 

Verbal Degradation (you have lost the privilege of being called nice names until you apologize adequately, you will be referred to as “bitch, slut, a bad girl, etc.”)

 

Lines (25-500 lines handwritten (in good writing) in the color of my choice on lined paper the content of each set of lines will vary based on the incident lines must also be dated)

 

Mute (you have lost the privilege of using your voice any communication must be made non-verbally but still efficiently)

 

Water (you are only allowed to drink water for the rest of the day cheating will result in an extension)

 

No Games (your Ipad, PS4, and laptop will be prohibited for 10-120 minutes depending on the severity of the incident (other than for school work))

 

Compound Punishment (a combination of other types of punishments varying greatly in degree based on the severity of the incident)

[Pumpkin<3]

Hewwo guys! So me an my daddy who I wuv bewy mush awe in a bit of a diwemma. I was bad an now I bein punished, but he sed if I tan fin a way to Pwove I good he wiw tate away da punishmint. I aweady sed I wood bwush my teef tate my mesine an mate my bed wifout bein ased. Daddy’s, is dewe anyfing ewse I tood do to mate my daddy ungwound me?