Punishments

[Guest LeftyGuitar]

So I saw there was a thread for rules. I thought making a thread for punishments might be fun or give ideas. I don't have a mommy at the moment, but I've been a daddy and I've came across and thought of some ideas as punishment.

 

-Spanking, variations, like belt, paddle, etc

-Corner time, spanked in corner time, extended corner time, naked corner time

-Early bedtime

-Limits on sweets

-Locked in crib/playpen

-Put in timeout/timeout chair

-Sitting in high chair

-Being grounded

-Writing lines

 

These are just some ideas. I'm sure more may come. Feel free to expand upon or add your own.

Edited July 30, 2017 by LeftyGuitar

[Heaven's Lost Property]

My daddy always makes me write lines when im a bad girl but were long distance, my other punishments are no TV, no phone for a set time, or since I love reading, no books

[Guest bunnydragon]

my old mommy took away stuffies made me go to bed earlyer and no snacks

[Guest daddy's_little_shadow]

my old mommy took away stuffies made me go to bed earlyer and no snacks

I don't like the taking away stuffies punishment. : ( For some Littles, stuffies are comfort items, and I just don't think taking away comfort items is a good thing to do to a person.

 

On that note, I can't think of any to add, but I can think of one I see a lot that I just see as abuse. The "no contact from Daddy" punishment. I'm sorry if this offends anyone, but I think that's neglect. It's only going to do damage to your Little and subsequently your relationship. That's just my opinion. I don't mean to come off judgemental. Maybe it does work for some people, but I just don't understand the point and can only see the harm it does.

[Guest LeftyGuitar]

Nice to see other's ideas. I also agree that a no contact isn't good for a little. Writing lines is one I often don't think of, but I believe it is a valid punishment.

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

I once got grounded to my room for a week.

 

It was terrible. I could leave for things like work and food, but once I was done I had to go back to my room ASAP. As an adult who is used to freedom, being stuck in one place was very constricting, even if I still had devices, laptop, tv, etc.

 

However, it very effectively underlined "Do Not Do That Again".

[Guest LeftyGuitar]

I once got grounded to my room for a week.

 

It was terrible. I could leave for things like work and food, but once I was done I had to go back to my room ASAP. As an adult who is used to freedom, being stuck in one place was very constricting, even if I still had devices, laptop, tv, etc.

 

However, it very effectively underlined "Do Not Do That Again".

Being grounded is a punishment probably not often used.

[Guest Bunnyblossom]

My Daddy had the idea to put my punishments on a prize wheel, so any time I break a rule or show bad behaviour 1 wheel spin gets added, and it decides my punishments no matter how small or big the misdemeanour is. :3

I finally finished it tonight.

He gave me permission to upload it with explanations for what each sticker means.

NSFW

 

 

 

Though I do 6 of those things on a regular basis for him (guess which lol), but if it’s from the punishment wheel it means I gotta do it whether I’ve got a headache or feel sooky and don’t wanna.

 

[Guest FirmHand]

That prize wheel is super creative and well thought out. I might have to implement something similar. 

[Guest Bunnyblossom]

That prize wheel is super creative and well thought out. I might have to implement something similar.

Fankyou, I’ll have to let my Daddy know. It was his idea, I’m just the decorator. ^^

 

It’d be interesting to see what you (or others) come up with.

[Amelia2610]

So I saw there was a thread for rules. I thought making a thread for punishments might be fun or give ideas. I don't have a mommy at the moment, but I've been a daddy and I've came across and thought of some ideas as punishment.

 

-Spanking, variations, like belt, paddle, etc

-Corner time, spanked in corner time, extended corner time, naked corner time

-Early bedtime

-Limits on sweets

-Locked in crib/playpen

-Put in timeout/timeout chair

-Sitting in high chair

-Being grounded

-Writing lines

 

These are just some ideas. I'm sure more may come. Feel free to expand upon or add your own.

These are not good ideas - I seriously think just the handspanking is bad enough.

[LittleCelticLass]

These are not good ideas - I seriously think just the handspanking is bad enough.

Actually, I think these are great ideas. Spanking, for me anyway, is not a punishment.

[Guest SweetOne]

I'm confuzzled, most punishment I've received is no attention for periods of time i think that's the worse since I'm a clingy little

[Kresaera]

My Daddy usually does his punishments off the top of his head, but ones hes used are:

 

Bare butt spanks

Floor sitting (I HATE this one)

Communicating feelings (I am awful at saying how I feel)

Daddy's belt

 

And, one time I bought a movie on YouTube and it over drafted our checking account. I knew it was going to do it, but once he figured out, he made me stop the movie and go to bed. It was during the best part too.

[Guest LeftyGuitar]

My Daddy usually does his punishments off the top of his head, but ones hes used are:

 

Bare butt spanks

Floor sitting (I HATE this one)

Communicating feelings (I am awful at saying how I feel)

Daddy's belt

 

And, one time I bought a movie on YouTube and it over drafted our checking account. I knew it was going to do it, but once he figured out, he made me stop the movie and go to bed. It was during the best part too.

 

Floor sitting?

[Flirty_Kitten_Babygirl]

[LittleTeacup]

I don't like punishments. I just want to be a good cute girl and if I do something wrong it wasn't on purpose! I don't have a real caregiver so maybe it would be different with one, but I don't find breaking rules very fun.

 

Maybe if I get too excited and out of control I'd be ok with a time out.

 

Otherwise, I think I'd feel bad enough if a caregiver ever expressed disappointment in my behavior or I hurt them in some way.

[Sweetieheart]

My Daddy also will have me write an apology letter or essay talking about why what I did was wrong. And if it was bad enough, he also makes me stand up and read it out loud to him

[Sadie Tremaine]

So...disclaimer: Nothing I say is condemning or contradicting anything else said. Different people have different needs and see things from different perspectives. All of these are things that have worked for me or I have heard work or did not work for others. I'm NOT condemning ANY type of safe, sane, and consensual (at least on the Adult's part) punishment. 

 

I don't believe in "rejection" type punishments (ie being sent to your room/away from your CG). My theory on this is that many people are in this lifestyle because of negative feelings and experiences growing up and a big part of that seems to be the "I only love you/want you if you behave well" from a bio parent. One of my former AP partners once told me that grounding was off limits because it felt to them that the CG (me, at the time) was angry with them the whole time. And this is particularly intensified if the grounding is to the bedroom (as opposed to just the house), where there is the potential for the little to feel like an outcast in the family. 

 

Time outs are great for the younger ones, but if rejection is an issue for your little I'd make sure to stay in the room during it. Same with corners (but it's my experience that several people have an issue with the corner because they can't see what's going on behind them and it creates a lack of safety).

 

So i like more personal punishments such as spankings. If privacy is a concern for your little and/or you are long distance, have them pick up a wooden dowel (make sure it's round!) This should go across both cheeks at once and it is a very quiet implement. Plus it looks inconspicuous if it has to be purchased in front of others or is found in the bedroom. Another tip for long distances is that you can have your little use an implement in the hand closest to the side that they're spanking. (So, right cheek, right hand. Left cheek, left hand.)

 

Taking a temperature rectally but using Vicks instead of Vaseline is punitive, so would be putting Vicks on a Q-tip and inserting it into the bottom (a twist on the otk time out). You could intensify this by using a butt plug. The same could be said of peppermint oil (though be careful to dillute using a carrier oil). I have also used cinnamon sticks and peppermint sticks in the bottom. I also make mine lay with their ankles crossed during the time out because it keeps them from spreading their legs and avoiding the sting as much as possible.

 

Vicks or Capzacin cream are both great to intensify the effects of a spanking (if you need to do a shorter spanking, or simply because when self-spanking you can only swat so hard or so long).

 

Being Southern, my thoughts on apology notes are that they're manners, not punishment. So while we can't stop our littles from thinking that writing an apology note is a punishment, I would give them a punishment in addition to having them write an apology note. 

 

As an educator I have a hard time accepting writing as punishment, because I want people to enjoy writing! Still, I know it works for some, and it is especially good for long-distance punishments. Lines, research essays, and reflection essays all have their place. (It's the essays that makes the educator part of me cringe, because it is a big part of schooling). 

[Little kaiya]

[kitten!!]

some of my punishments are that i cant use any electronics (including tv), corner time, early bed time and if it was really bad i have to write 50-100 lines of what i did wrong

 

shudders

[Burnwolf132]

I spank my little or take away her phone time cause we are in another little/big group

[Sweetieheart]

"Taking a temperature rectally but using Vicks instead of Vaseline is punitive, so would be putting Vicks on a Q-tip and inserting it into the bottom (a twist on the otk time out). You could intensify this by using a butt plug. The same could be said of peppermint oil (though be careful to dillute using a carrier oil). I have also used cinnamon sticks and peppermint sticks in the bottom. I also make mine lay with their ankles crossed during the time out because it keeps them from spreading their legs and avoiding the sting as much as possible."

 

Would usng Vicks for that be safe? I know that the label says it should only be used for external use. Is that ONLY because it stings?

Edited April 10, 2019 by Sweetieheart

[Sadie Tremaine]

"Taking a temperature rectally but using Vicks instead of Vaseline is punitive, so would be putting Vicks on a Q-tip and inserting it into the bottom (a twist on the otk time out). You could intensify this by using a butt plug. The same could be said of peppermint oil (though be careful to dillute using a carrier oil). I have also used cinnamon sticks and peppermint sticks in the bottom. I also make mine lay with their ankles crossed during the time out because it keeps them from spreading their legs and avoiding the sting as much as possible."

 

Would usng Vicks for that be safe? I know that the label says it should only be used for external use. Is that ONLY because it stings?

First let me say that each thing I suggested is something that I have endured myself and also had others (in their adult headspace) consent to having done to them. I have both directed the use of this over Skype/voice and done it to others/had it done to me in person. So yes, it is safe and yes, it is labeled to only use for external purposes because of the sting. I will add, though, that those with heart conditions (and other physical health issues) need to be careful and look farther into anything they use rectally because the reason suppositories, etc are effective is because they are absorbed into the bloodstream and work quicker when using the rectal route. Therefore anything that isn't explicitly designed for rectal use could cause more harm than good. 

Edited April 12, 2019 by Sadie Tremaine

[Guest flowinghairdd]

I think keep paci even while talking is a fun one. It is good to make them concentrate. You can add extra rules.