Personal space

[Mega Matt]

I'd imagine that in general, the CG's here like more space than the littles, but maybe that's not the case for some of you. I'm kind of curious though to hear any of your approaches to managing space and alone time.

 

Thanks guys

[HisuianLilligant]

My daddy is always willing to give me space if I feel I need it but overall he is very clingy and overprotective-he never wants me out of his sight. We're pretty much always together though and often have shifts together at work so we'll hang out during break time and stuff

[Little Illy]

My Daddy and I fully believe in thinking before we escalate things - good or bad. So sometimes that requires us to get a firm grip on our emotions. We have established this rule: If one of us needs space, SERIOUSLY needs space, we let the other one know and then we give it to each other, no questions asked. We are not walking away from an argument, etc but instead we are cooling down our heads so we can come back in a more compatible mind friend. The same goes for just relaxing. We recognize we are two different people making one complete unit - but sometimes we each need our own time. So we might be like "hey, I need to just game and take some time to myself" and that is perfectly fine. 

 

All in all, giving space when it is needed is very important. Especially when you live with someone. It allows for so much to happen on a positive note that I think people would be remiss if they didn't do it regularly. But that is my own opinion.

[Guest Bunnyblossom]

It depends on the individual.

It's a fair assumption to say Littles are clingy and needy-- I think the whole ddlg/lb dynamic attracts those types of personalities. However that's stereotyping a lil bit. I could just as well say DDs/CGs are anti-social self-entitled Christian Gray types. True for some, but not for all.

 

Personally I like my space and prefer peace and quiet, because I'm that kind of person.

[Mikaitaku]

the people that I like can invade my personal space, the rest of mankind on the other hand had better stay the hell away from me

[Ink]

My Little and I seem to have about the same level of clingyness and need for alone time. As MilkPop said, whilst the stereotype would suggest Little's are more clingy, I've certainly done my fair share of being needy. And it does seem like a lot of the longer-term Little members here enjoy being Little on their own as much as with their caregivers - just my take from reading around however.

 

I can usually tell when my Little needs some space and I just let her know that I'm here for her if she wants me, but she's free to ignore the world for a while if she needs it.

 

As for myself - learning to be in someones presence but doing different things is a pretty good thing to work on in your relationship. It reduces my own need for 'me time' because I get the choice to do my own stuff without having to pencil in some time for it. If I'm really needing some me-time though I just let Little know where I am and how long I'll be and its never been an issue. So long as you communicate well around the matter then its unlikely to be a problem.

[tayiie]

I enjoy being close to my partner. Im very clingy. However, I'm also very easy. If my CG ever needed personal space I would do my very best to give it to him, for as long as he needs to. Just as I hope he would do the same to me. In this case, comunication is the key. If we dont talk, none of us will know that the other needs space.