Ramblings of a Dragon

[Guest Senpai Dragon]

To me, and this is just a basic opinion mind you.  From the mind of an old old soul.  But to me, being dominant isn’t about what you make a person do.  To force somebody to be submissive, removes the free will.  Yes, I do realize everyone has a dynamic that is what works for them.  But to me, making someone submit isn’t it.  To me, the meaning of dominance lays with the ability to create a foundation of trust, creating for submissive a feeling of safety and security.  True domination, its creating that. And with that the submissive will know that your intentions are in the best interest of them, and they will crave and desire to follow you at this point.  Using there free will you left intact, they will choose on their own to gift you the submission. Earned, not taken, or made to be given, this submission is far better than any type of submission that can be forced or taken. Fatigue and lack of sleep may have made this rambling indecipherable but hopefully the point I am trying to make comes across anyway.

Once again just an opinion, so take it for what it is, and toss your opinions in I would like to see what everyone else seems to think about it.

[Guest bunnydragon]

Omgs that was really sweet and cute also i chose paper because you can do more things with paper then plastic

Edited July 15, 2017 by bunnydragon

[Guest D͛r͛a͛g͛o͛n͛sP♡ptคгt®]

I completely agree!! I've been in some power switch relationships where my submission was forced. But I love this dynamic as it's much more gentle. I also feel much safer and happier knowing that I've given my submission to someone I actually trust. I think it's just healthier for everyone in general to earn/give submission than having it forced. But there are people who are into forced play as well. But I guess.. it's to each their own. Thanks for this post! I think it's pretty great.

[Guest Senpai Dragon]

Right I understand the each there own, and I wasn't trying to downplay or judge if it came across like that, I simply wanted to put out an opinion and see what others have to say about it, or anything really.

[Guest]

never thought about it this way, and i guess i needed to see this at this point in time.

so thank you.

 

im struggling today and lately with... everything.

and im bratty and not well behaved... and "not submissive at all" according to someone recently.

 

maybe i just need the right foundation laid out first....

[Guest]

oops double post

Edited July 15, 2017 by Guest

[Guest Mittens]

I agree. The Little/sub shouldn't be forced to go into their own little space. You should never force them into it. I personally prefer them to always be in littlespace as long as possible, but that's something i enjoy. I love calling her babygirl wherever we go, going stuffy shopping and toy isles every time we are at a place that allows it like thrift stores or walmart ect. I love looking at little toys and outfits that are cute or little space seeming ect. BUT, it's as you said, there are different dynamics for different people, and it works for them. 

[Guest daddy's_little_shadow]

This is why it's important to know yourself before you get into any sort of relationship dynamic...in my opinion, I mean. The better you know yourself, the better you can be the dom/sub, daddy/little, of the relationship, and the happier you'll both be. : ) Don't rush it! Just figure out what you like, don't like, and what you're looking for. Then, you can give your submission with more confidence in your decision, and the dom can feel free to run with it. : 3

 

Dats jus what I tink...

[Guest Lulla]

I honestly agree. Seeing as my current boyfriend is both a Dom who I love submitting to and someone who I trust with my life. In previous relationships I felt trapped and afraid when someone would try to "dominate" me (at that point it was just in my personal interactions with people, no sex involved.)

D/s relationships of any variety SHOULD be built on trust. Even if it's a slave type relationship, it should still be a situation where you know without a doubt that you are safe in that interaction. You know that you can say whatever your safe word is and the other person will stop immediately.

There is a fine line between BDSM and abuse. I am speaking as someone who has been on both sides.