Not sure If caregiver/Daddy

[Guest ScoobyDoobyDoooo]

HEYHEY THANKS FOR READING

 

okay so.. ive been part of this community for a little bit over 24 hours and its been AMAZING!

 

BUT 

 

now im wondering if i actually would be categorized as a daddy/caregiver..

 

to kinda explain my "needs" in a relationship: 

 

i want someone to take care of. to protect. she'd by my world. my biggest pride and i'd be her biggest fan.

 

i really dont specifically ask for someone to be a little. i dont mind, really. i'd love it but i would be okay with her not being one.

 

i can be pretty damn posessive and yea i really want someone to be MINE yano? i want her just for me. (yup selfish as hell)

 

so yea.. whadda you people think??

 

 

 

SCOOBY OUT

[wanderer]

Scooby. I don't think you need to label it. Just identify what you want and look for an individual with those qualities. If they are a little excellent if not that is great too. 

 

Those qualities you mentioned are often had by littles but they are not unique to littles so you may find them elsewhere. Just be true to yourself and good luck. 

[Guest ScoobyDoobyDoooo]

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Scooby. I don't think you need to label it. Just identify what you want and look for an individual with those qualities. If they are a little excellent if not that is great too. 

 

Those qualities you mentioned are often had by littles but they are not unique to littles so you may find them elsewhere. Just be true to yourself and good luck. 

thanks wanderer! i guess im just open to a little if i happen to start to get attached to someone who is one

[kyliekat]

Sooooooooooooooooooo

 

"Caregiver" can mean a lot of things. If the thought of taking care of someone is a priority for you, I'd say that's a good sign. Being a caregiver is about, well, taking care of your significant other, regardless if they are a little or not! Hope that justifies things a little!

 

-Kylie :3

[Guest ScoobyDoobyDoooo]

th

 

Sooooooooooooooooooo

 

"Caregiver" can mean a lot of things. If the thought of taking care of someone is a priority for you, I'd say that's a good sign. Being a caregiver is about, well, taking care of your significant other, regardless if they are a little or not! Hope that justifies things a little!

 

-Kylie :3

thanks, Kylie! you and wanderer are really helping me find out a little bit more about myself so thank you!

[wanderer]

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thanks, Kylie! you and wanderer are really helping me find out a little bit more about myself so thank you!

Aww. Glad we could help. Interestingly enough figuring oneself out and accepting oneself seems to be the biggest challenge for most littles and care givers I have met. In the end we are unique so the only people who will understand us is ourselves and those too whom we allow sufficient time and access to figure us out.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Labels are overrated. I was obsessed with them myself, too. I've since realized I am what I am, and a label is nice to find others like me, but not necessary.

My Daddy is:

Dominate

Loving

Cares for me

Supportive

Among many, many other things.

 

I think the things you listed can certainly be characteristics of a caregiver. It's just a matter of finding a partner after the same goals as you, regardless of their label.

[Guest ScoobyDoobyDoooo]

Labels are overrated. I was obsessed with them myself, too. I've since realized I am what I am, and a label is nice to find others like me, but not necessary.

My Daddy is:

Dominate

Loving

Cares for me

Supportive

Among many, many other things.

 

I think the things you listed can certainly be characteristics of a caregiver. It's just a matter of finding a partner after the same goals as you, regardless of their label.

thank you for clearing things up for me. from what ive read from you and others its really that plenty of people wont really care about your label as long as what you feel is real and you have what it is someone looks for.

[osito]

This thread really helped me, as well. wanderer, Kylie, and Daddy's_Babygirl all made really good points. I've been into cg/l for the past couple of years. I've always struggled with what I was. What to define myself as. But titles don't mean much. What matters is *who* a person is. You just have to be you. And find someone who likes you, and who you like.

[Guest StarFlower]

Hi there Scooby, and welcome! I'm new, too, and find this to be a very welcoming space.

 

One thing I'd like to share: in prior relationships I've known I was a submissive, and had felt like saying "Daddy" before, but always held my tongue because I was afraid I wouldn't be accepted. Now, if your dream-come-true lover happens *not* to be a little, you can just imagine they *are*, and treat them accordingly without having to label it as such. 

 

Really, I think many, many women are, at certain times, littles but aren't ready to "go there" as far as putting a label on. I hope this helps!