Is it ok for a Little to come here to ask for CG opinions?

[TheLittlestPixie]

I'm brand new here so I'm so sorry if this is improper etiquette (I looked and couldn't find any rules against posting here) or if it is in the wrong space, but I thought this would be the best place for my question. If It isn't please move it or delete it and again, I'm really sorry if I came into a place where I wasn't supposed to be.

 

In short, my question is this:

Would you be okay with a little having self harm scars? Would you still find her attractive despite the scars, or even because of the scars? Or do you find scars ugly, or wouldn't want to battle with the potential emotional turmoil that could come with a cutter? Would you follow social media accounts of attractive women with scars?

 

My reason for asking if I've been wanting to start a DDLG instagram or tumblr. A lot of pictures of my stuffies, dolls, binkies, etc., but I also wanted to post some pictures of myself in DDLG like clothes/lingerie and I'm scared that a lot of people wouldn't follow me because of my scars or may even report me for them even though I in no way condone self harm or want others to do it. I wouldn't want the account to be self harm related at all.

 

I just want to share my little side and feel cute/sexy as I do so.

 

I really want your personal opinions on here, not anything to just make me feel better about myself because I really am comfortable with who I am and my scars, just putting it out online is a different story. I completely understand that everyone has different preferences so you really won't offend me if scars are a big turn off for you.

 

Just say that if you follow DDLG accounts of women you find attractive, would you stop following her if she had scars? Would you not follow accounts that had obvious scars?

[Guest Prat]

So I can't vote because I need to check both parts and I don't do social media.

 

No, I don't mind sh scars, it's a part of who they are. I would mind any new ones very much but not old ones.

[Norwegianman]

I understand that things like that can be a little scary, one thing to also keep in mind is the fact that there will always be people who will try to put you down and hurt you but there's also a ton of super nice people... I guess what I'm trying to say is that if you can handle the bad stuff along with the good stuff then I don't see a reason for you not too but if you don't think you can handle that just yet I would probably wait until you feel like you can good luck with whatever you decide to do

[Norwegianman]

I understand that things like that can be a little scary, one thing to also keep in mind is the fact that there will always be people who will try to put you down and hurt you but there's also a ton of super nice people... I guess what I'm trying to say is that if you can handle the bad stuff along with the good stuff then I don't see a reason for you not too but if you don't think you can handle that just yet I would probably wait until you feel like you can good luck with whatever you decide to do

And to answer the question no I personally don't mind sh scars

[Guest Dominik]

Why should I not follow someone beause of having sh scars? I don't mind if someone is tall or small, have freckles or have scars. Everyone of them is a person and worth to have friends, and I have some friends who have scars.

 

If I had a little then I wouldn't mind if she has scars or not, I would find her attractive despite the scars.

[Ink]

Someone with self-harm scars is a person who just happens to have a portion of their baggage visible to the world.

 

The scars existence does not change a person in my eyes. But the way they handle them does speak volumes. I've met a few people who do not shy away from the camera at all and though they certainly don't pretend the scars are a positive thing, they recognize that the scars are a part of their personal history and the experiences that caused them are just as much a part of who they have become as any other of life's experiences. That sort of person - who doesn't shy away from their history for better or worse - that is someone that I want to know.

 

All we are is an amalgamation of our life experiences. Some of them are painful and some of them are confronting, but if you ask me - those people you are talking about that might not follow you on social media - you are probably better off without them anyway.

Edited July 12, 2017 by Ink

[Guest Bunnyfeet]

scars arent really a problem its if they continue to self harm while they are in a relationship because their not only hurting themself but their partner as well you no matter what your beautiful and uniqe  dont ever forget that

[Frog]

Actually, I'd probably be more likely to follow her (assuming I like other parts of her personality). I know it sounds weird, so I'll try to explain it.

 

If she's sharing photos of herself and she has scars, she's gotten to the point where she's strong enough to show them. She's not hiding them, but she's embracing them. She may not be completely over that part of her life, but she's pretty damn brave. As much as I like a clingy little, I want to know she's still got internal strength.

 

That's not say those who hide scars aren't strong or anything.

[Mr.Hoolig4n D@ddy]

Well as to the posting here question i don't see the problem. And as for the scars as long as it's not promoting self harm then I don't have a problem with it. My little princess has a history of self harm and it was a real struggle getting her to stop. So anything that promotes that is likely to get me to violently explode over the thing or person doing the promoting... And not in the way littles want daddies to explode... Im talking old testament fire and brimstone apocalyptic type exploding... But on the other hand if it's merely you being yourself and you incidentally happen to have old scars... Meh... We all have scars

[Guest headpats]

I definitely wouldn't have a problem with scars. If anything, I think they're kind of cute and interesting to look at, like little tiger stripes, even if they're a reminder of something sad.

 

I would have a problem with her still cutting, but it would be a problem with the action, not with her. I would be there for her and try to keep her happy enough to stop doing it, not kick her to the curb. Everybody has problems and needs help sometimes, and every relationship is about caring for your partner. Even more so when you're in a relationship specifically as a caregiver.

[lavenderxdoll]

I have sh scars too and I just ignore them now. I wouldn't mind a partner with scars and yes of course I would follow an account of a person with scars (I voted 'it depends' because the only reason I would not follow would be if they promoted sh, which you don't)

[Guest chilldude]

I voted no and depends. I went no because I think no less of someone who has had depression and self harmed. I went depends for the second question because I can't see a logical link between the scars and social media. If someone took a pic which happened to have scars that's fine. If that's all they ever posted I'd probably ignore them

[Guest McLeodLot65]

I voted wrong (by "mind", I thought you meant "take care of", as in "mind the children while I'm away", so I said 'yes' - please subtract one from the yes total), so to be clear - no, it absolutely would not stop me from being a friend or caregiver. I know this from experience.

[Foxcatcher]

No.No. NO!

You need serious psychological help.

No matter your intentions, these photos WILL get attention from others are currently or wish to practice self harm.

 

They see it as an encouragement or as a shared experience.

 

How do we really know if you aren't one of those who actually advocates this behavior?

[Persephone_Persephone]

No.No. NO!

You need serious psychological help.

No matter your intentions, these photos WILL get attention from others are currently or wish to practice self harm.

They see it as an encouragement or as a shared experience.

How do we really know if you aren't one of those who actually advocates this behavior?

No no no to that comment! First off scars are for life, I am covered in scars for various reasons some are medical and a few are not. Does that mean someone like me should hide away? By being totally confident in my skin and happy to post pics of myself on social media I am encourgaging others to hurt themselves? No its sending a strong message then ive been through more then you could possibly imagine and I'm here, still standing. I have no shame in the way I look. And no one should ever feel they shouldnt show themselves due to others opinions or encouraging self harm.

Of course if someone posted a pic and positively encouraged someone to join in that is a different situation. But this post is clearly not about that.

 

Secondly, how can you suggest a total stranger requires mental health intervention by opening up a discussion that is sadly relevent in this community.

 

Thirdly, this topic is to me about empowerment not enablement.

It was a brave thing to ask and I fully support anyone opening up what is clearly stigmatized topic.

 

And for the original post you do what you feel is right. You have to realise people will always make comments. If you want to show off your cute clothes and post pics go for it. We all have our history dont like small minded people make you feel bad.

[Guest Urthurs]

I kind of find it positive in a weird way, or atleast relatable. I don't have any scars but we all have our issuses right.
They are just there, like any other scars. What happened happend. Don't think too much about it. If the followers can't accept it then oh well, that's their problem.
Unless you are actually writing "I'M PRO-SELF HARM, TRY IT IT'S FUN!" then you are not encouraging anything. Don't feel bad about that.
Just don't go the other direction and make it a thing that you show off though. A lot of people tend to make too big of a deal out of things and it becomes annoying and pretentious (and will create a looot of hate).
People will problably comment about it though and try to start something. Everything has to be a fight nowdays, no matter how twisted it seems. But try to ignore them or maybe don't even communicate with the followers at all.
Just do your thing.