How Do I Tell Someone that I'm A Little?

[Little Dancer]

I was hoping someone out there could help me please. I want to tell someone that is really important to me that I am a Little. This particular person has seen me slip into my Little Space many times and has asked me why I'm so childish. It sucks. So any suggestions would be very appreciated! Thank you!

[PlumpNekoPrincess]

Well, most importantly, the first questions to ask yourself before doing so would be:

How does this person respond to new information?

Is this person open-minded?

 

 

Also things to take into consideration of how you explain:

What type of relationship do I have with this person (this one greatly affects the approach you should take when explaining)

Will this affect our relationship in a negative way and if so, should I prepare?

 

Sometimes explaining isn't always easy, nor does it always go as planned, so it's always wise to have some facts and research handy to simplify yet well describe, the dynamic to others.

[PlumpNekoPrincess]

Well, most importantly, the first questions to ask yourself before doing so would be:

How does this person respond to new information?

Is this person open-minded?

 

 

Also things to take into consideration of how you explain:

What type of relationship do I have with this person (this one greatly affects the approach you should take when explaining)

Will this affect our relationship in a negative way and if so, should I prepare?

 

Sometimes explaining isn't always easy, nor does it always go as planned, so it's always wise to have some facts and research handy to simplify yet well describe, the dynamic to others.

[Little Dancer]

Ok thanks. I'm just scared that it will go wrong. This person means so much to me.

[Ink]

If you're really worried about it, it's not mandatory to label yourself as a 'Little' - at least not right away to this other person. If the label is really important to you then you can mention it after testing out the waters a bit first.

 

Consider just letting them know that sometimes when you are really comfortable with someone, you often find yourself acting a certain way that they appear to be picking up on and thinking is childish. Let them know that its a really comforting feeling to you and you really enjoy it and see where the conversation goes from there. Eventually, once you know they are cool with it you could work towards explaining the whole community to them if you felt it necessary / worthwhile.

 

I personally believe that it'd be hard to hear the above from someone you genuinely care about and outright oppose it. Unfortunately if you give it the label of 'Little' or 'DDLG' right away then immediately you are associating yourself with any of their existing preconceptions about it. Whereas without the label you are just telling them that you are comfortable enough with them to show them a side that few people see.

[Little Dancer]

Ok thanks!