What does it mean when your little seems distant

[Shadowhunterxx14]

My little and I have been partners for quite some time and he is usually super attatched and wanting to talk to whenever he can but recently has started ignoring me for hours. Has anyone else expirenced this before with there littles or have some advice on what to do?

[Guest Ginger]

Speaking as a Little, I only do this when I feel really sick/mentally unwell. Perhaps they don't feel well? Have y'all argued at some point and maybe they're sulking/ignoring you for that reason?

[Shadowhunterxx14]

He's been really stressed at home and ive been trying to help him with it and i think we may of fought once because lately hes only talked to me when he needs me to be a daddy for him and its been making me feel really unloved

[A Cuddly Dom]

That's very sad to hear. Your little may be going through a lot of stress or anxiety over something in their life right now. They may not want to, or be able to explain it to you in such a way that you can really step in. Try asking about what's going on in his day to day life. If he can't open up right now, just give him as much love and support as you can. Remind him why he is special and important to you, and reassure him of his value. In time, the issue will come to the surface, and you can both work to rectify it together.

[Guest Bunnyfeet]

Most likey something is wrong and he cant tell you or dosent want to because hes scared at geting punished or yelled at .when i act out its normally for atention or if somthings wrong.What i would do is sit him down and have a serious conversation with him on how its effecting you and what you can do to help him

[Guest daddy's_little_shadow]

It's hard for me to get into little space when I'm stressed and anxious, which is a lot of the time, because I have a couple of anxiety disorders, so that may be what's wrong. He might have something on his mind. : /

[Shadowhunterxx14]

I sat him down yesterday and asked him what was wrong because it seemed like he would only talk to me when he was little but no other time. He said there was some things bothering him lately and that he didn't know what he wanted right now. So right now he and I aren't really talking because he needed his space

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

I honestly hope everything has worked out with you two and you have a plan for how to handle this next time it happens.

 

That being said, not talking is never a solution and should be avoided at all costs. If he is having a hard time saying what is bothering him out loud, ask him to write it down. If he refuses, ask him to speak with a professional or a close friend. If there is no one else he can talk to and he refuses to talk to you, it might be guilt or anger towards you. In that case he may need a spanking in order to blow the lid off his containment.

 

He is your little, you know him best. You probably have a hunch about what is wrong and came here looking for other answers. Trust your instincts.

 

Good luck!

[HisuianLilligant]

My daddy and I's relationship is based on constant, open and honest communication so I just tell him if I want/need space. I also deal with a bunch of mental issues as well which can make me distance myself from him but he's very supportive and understanding about it. It could be that your little doesn't know how to cope besides distancing from you, I also struggle with that sometimes and it can be difficult :/ Just be there for them and things may return to normal or maybe you need to talk in depth about what the problem is