Why do you like being a caregiver or Dom role?

[LittleBabyBunny<3]

Sometimes being a little I don't always understand why caregivers like being a caregiver or a Dominate role. It's awesome that there are caregivers out there for us littles... I just wonder what do they like best about it or what attracts them to it? 

 

As a little we get to be taken care of, feel protected and feel safe... there's lots of reasons why I like being a little and why I identfiy as one. I guess for a caregiver it's the opposite reasons why us littles are little? 

 

I apologize if this topic has already been discussed before! 

[Guest StarFlower]

I'm curious to hear some DD/CG answers myself!

 

I mean, I'm guessing our preference for being little or DD/CG is related to how we were raised, in some way, in combination with our basic personalities?

 

I appreciate all the daddies/caregivers for being who they are! 

[Foxcatcher]

I like being in charge, but I take the responsibility seriously.

Psychologically, emotionally and sexually ddlg brings me joy.

And I share that joy with my Little.

The care and mentoring come naturally to me.

 

A Little's love is the sweetest in the world.

[Guest Mr.Stuffykins]

Personally, the reasons I enjoy being a daddy are for the same reasons you like being a little. I adore, love, and cherish the feeling of responsibility. Its an indescribable sense of euphoria that I get from knowing I have someone to care for. Having someone that is so dependent on me really instills this sense of happiness that I absolutely crave. A little is a beautiful thing that needs an indefinite supply of love, attention, and affection and as a daddy that is something that I have in abundance^^ I love being a daddy because it allows me to love someone completely. It gives me the freedom to treat you with such a level of delicacy that is parallel only to the way we treat a newborn. It gives me the control to guide, support, and reassure you so that everyday you feel enveloped in the warmth of my love. I love being a daddy because of the bond you have with your little, its really unlike any other and it is absolute perfection. 

[LittleBabyBunny<3]

I like being in charge, but I take the responsibility seriously.

Psychologically, emotionally and sexually ddlg brings me joy.

And I share that joy with my Little.

The care and mentoring come naturally to me.

 

A Little's love is the sweetest in the world.

 

That makes sense! 

 

Yes, a little's love is the sweetest and a daddy's love is so special.

[LittleBabyBunny<3]

Personally, the reasons I enjoy being a daddy are for the same reasons you like being a little. I adore, love, and cherish the feeling of responsibility. Its an indescribable sense of euphoria that I get from knowing I have someone to care for. Having someone that is so dependent on me really instills this sense of happiness that I absolutely crave. A little is a beautiful thing that needs an indefinite supply of love, attention, and affection and as a daddy that is something that I have in abundance^^ I love being a daddy because it allows me to love someone completely. It gives me the freedom to treat you with such a level of delicacy that is parallel only to the way we treat a newborn. It gives me the control to guide, support, and reassure you so that everyday you feel enveloped in the warmth of my love. I love being a daddy because of the bond you have with your little, its really unlike any other and it is absolute perfection. 

 

 

That is so sweet! That made me realize just how precious littles are. I appreciate your meaningful and insightful response, it gave me a good idea as to why caregivers enjoy it  

 

I guess it feels rewarding to be a daddy and having someone look up to you and completely depend on you. You're basically the little's whole world (well at least that's how I would think of my daddy, not sure if others feel that way). You also know that you'll always have someone to come home to that will be thrilled and overjoyed to see you even if you were only gone for a few seconds lol  

[HisuianLilligant]

I'm a little and me and my daddy are 24/7-our roles just come naturally to us and we make each other happy

[Guest Dominik]

I do not have much experience but ....  I like several things like...

- having responsibility: I have the responsibility to let my little feel safe. I a non cgl relationship it is often not wanted that the male part protects and cares, because the female part would feel hemmed. But I am a person wno needs to take over responsibility for someone.

- trust: it is a big sign of trust I get when a little wants me to care for her - I appreciate this

- fun: I like these funny situations that just start with the thinking of a little.

- time: littles sometimes spend so much time to do something that daddy would like. When you get it you know that someone spend much time for it.

- relationship: there is so much relationship like cuddling. Daddies also like to be cuddled

- eyes open wide: It is just fun to have a present for the little. This can be a play of 10 minutes while little trying to guess what it is and cannot wait to get it. And when she gets is the smile and the joy on the face are just great

 

You guessed that "for a caregiver it's the opposite reasons why us littles are little". In some cases I would say: yes, it's the opposite (protect vs. being protected), in other cases I would say no, it's the same (e.g. playing games, cuddling). I don't know how it is in other countries, but here in Germany almost every man (cg or not) has a little boy inside, and when a man can play with a model railway then he will do :-D So also daddys like some childish games.

[DarkAvatar]

For me, it just comes as second nature. Vanilla partners could find my tendency to organise all the important stuff (including dealing with the government, their place of employment or study etc) for them a bit annoying, same for my tenancy to give a lot of physical contact (cuddles, etc).

 

But for little's these things are usually what they want. I tend to take charge in the relationship but in a nice way, making sure everyone is taken care of. I know that surrender if done in the right way can make a submissive reach higher states of consciousness because I've seen it happen, its amazing to watch.

 

And I like the feeling I get from making someone feel safe and protected

[Untwisted]

I find it gratifying to teach or explain something and to see someone really understand it for the first time.  I have an inquisitive mind and like to understand things and pass that knowledge on.

I know ddlg is not necessarily about physical age difference for everyone, but it is part of it for me, and the wide-eyed wonder of someone who doesn't have the same length of life experience I find very appealing.

Cuddles of course; who doesn't like cuddles, and an excuse to enjoy silly childish things without being the childish one.  

But I think a big part of it is being the controlling one.  The model railway example, which is about creating a world the way you want, transfers into shaping a person in a "daddy knows best" kind of way.

[Guest Brian]

I think for me it comes to a very intricate interweaving of all of the things that have made me, "me". Basically, I have a dire need to take care of people who are weak or down or small or whatever and that extends beyond DDLG. I'll always stick up for anyone who is different and especially outcast, not just small. I hate seeing people suffer. And I have SO much of this pent up inside me that I just kind of want to pour out like seven trillion gallons of love and protection and stuff on some wonderful little. Because I like taking care of ANYTHING so a little is a great type of person to care of! Because that's what it's all about. I still have the "child at heart" bits too so I don't mind coloring or watching cartoons even though in "normal" life i'm a functional adult. I don't know, I think all the things that make me "me" basically just also make me a Daddy, if that makes sense. I like to guide, teach, be a source of inspiration for people, be a source of love. Stuff like that. So it just kind of naturally clicks with the "very loving and probably slightly over-protective Daddy" persona.

Edited July 8, 2017 by Brian

[Guest Fros†beard]

Simply put, it's very natural & therapeutic to me.
Being in charge and taking care of someone lets me forget about my own issues. It makes me incredibly strong.
I'm my Princess' mentor, best friend, and caregiver; her sword and shield against the scary, chaotic world around her.
It makes me feel useful, desired, and needed.

[Guest Mittens]

I personally love being a Caregiver for many many reasons.

 

1: I love responsibility.

 

2:  I naturally make rules and come off as parental in all past relationships (I found out the hard way, doing that in a vanilla relationship gets you called controlling and manipulating.....)

 

3: MY FAVORITE AND BIGGEST REASON: Littles are cute. Much like you are all thinking stuffies are cute and toys are cute. YOU are cute to us as your stuffies are to you! To have you cheerleading saying "You can do it" to watch the little fails you do, accidentally spilling things or tripping or running into a wall... Being tired and not wanting to adult and throw fits.. It's all.. adorable.. Doing projects is fun, it's not all serious and "gotta do this.." When you paint, the littles will finger paint the walls or get covered in paint or come up and smear paint on your face or nose and run off. It's a sense of joy and happiness for me.

 

4: Motivation. Your little cheerleading and speeches of "I love you" "you're the best" "you can do it" Is adorable. If anyone watches anime, and mainstream anime. Think Chobits. You can do it!  Fight! You got this! Do it for me! All motivational for me. It helps me strive to be my best not just for myself but for the one I am with. To be able to take care of my little girl and provide her with all of her wants needs and desires.

 

5: There is never a dull moment. A little who is a little 24/7 and cannot adult.. Boy, there is never a dull moment. Throwing fits, tantrums on subjects that require adulting, having to go to the doctor, not getting a toy, being bad and getting in trouble and throwing fits, being bratty. Walking home to find the house a mess of blanket forts, tv on, trails of wrappers leading in the fort, mess all over the kitchen of her trying to make her own snack and failing, passed out in a cute outfit or naked (preference to DD and little to what they do/want). It's always exciting. Coming home and her running up and tackling you, perhaps surprising you with a new outfit or something. Prank calls to you, texts, spam of pictures and what she's doing.

 

6: Loyalty. I always personally shoot for the needy, clingy, possessive littles. Who want me only me. I can offer the same. I have in my past given up everything from pets, to objects, my stability and work, to be with the one I love. I earlier this year gave up my pets, and almost everything I own and moved in with my LG to have a life with her. I am willing to relocate as long as she can provide me with certain things. Honesty, needy, clingy, possessive, wanting me and only me, not flirting, not wearing revealing things and keeping her love and her body for me and only me. I will move mountains for her.. End of story.. I have given up the world for my last LG and I feel she took it all for granted. There is quite the backstory to that, and I don't wish to bother you all with it. But a loyal little will never abandon you and I will return that favor 5 fold..

 

7: Innocence: There is something about littles that brings about innocence. Coloring, tuning the world at, in her own little world. Playing with toys, watching cartoons, it brings out a softer caring more loving side to me. It makes me want to protect this small sweet innocent thing with my life. It empowers me and makes me seek the strength to take down anyone and protect her with everything I have. I couldn't be a little because if anyone raised a hand or weapon to a little to do real harm (that isn't consensual BDSM stuff) my attitude goes into protective mode. My eyes glare, I react quickly and would step in between the two and I would grab his hand so hard and almost break it forcing him to drop his weapon or to cause dominance and tell him to never do it again. I would have to help the little up or bring the little away from the conflict and then have to make sure the little is ok and do all I can to give as much aftercare as I am allowed and can. And if it happened again, then..he would pray for death for what I would do. I am sorry, I am too dominate to be a little, I lack that innocence you little have or can portray. 

 

8: There are so many other reasons why I am more a caregiver than a little. But just because I am a caregiver doesn't mean I can't enjoy little things. My mom used to color with me when I was a child. Don't even vanilla biological fathers play tea parties and dolls with their daughters? I color with my little girl, I draw with my little girl, we watch cartoons together, we cuddle together, we do puzzles together, we explore together, we cook and bake cookies together. That is my life, that is what I enjoy that is what I want. Sadly, I can no longer experience that joy anymore However it doesn't change who I am. I am still a daddy and forever will be!

[Guest MichaelTucker71]

I personally, am a protector. A sheepdog in a sense. The feeling I get from nurturing and protecting someone else who is in a sense more fragile is fantastic. In school I looked out for the kids who got bullied boys or girls. I played football, and wrestled. Never during a game or match did I seek out a smaller player and intentionally hit them nor did I instantly pin another wrestler who wasn't as good as myself (usually the underclassmen). When I was in the military that ideology and behavior flourished, doing security-related ops in some real hell holes we find numerous people horribly mistreated, so neutralizing the perpetrators gave me the same feeling. The gratitude I recieved from the ones I was able to help is the best feeling ever. So when I discovered the Ddlg community I was drawn to it. I enjoy being a protector, a nurturer, caring deeply for someone else, and having it returned is immensely satisfying. I know some (most) littles outgrow it, or maybe outgrow me, but that's the beauty of it... If I in some way help another to become self-reliant and they feel they don't need to be protected anymore then that's great. Doesn't mean I'll not be there for them anymore, just means (to me) that I did my job correctly. My 2 cents...for what it's worth.