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[Daddy's_kitty_cat]

So before I state what I need help with, I'm gonna tell you the story about how this all came to happen. Starting in 7th grade I had a crush on a guy (well call him S) so S was one of my best friends. The next year my other friend told him I liked him and he said he didn't feel the same way. So even knowing he doesn't like me, I still couldn't shake that feeling, and I still feel the same way, if not stronger after all this time. Then I started the relationship with my daddy about three months ago (a normal relationship, not DDLG) and he knew I still had feelings for S. I ended up breaking up with him because I felt I wasnt emotionally stable enough for a relationship. About a week and half ago I got back with him, but this time it's DDLG. He seems to have forgotten about S and has explicitly told me that I'm not allowed to flirt or be interested in anyone else or go places with a single guy , however I still see and talk to S all the time. I really like S and want a future with him (even though it will never happen) and my daddy is very serious about being with me and wants to have a house with me and everything like this. I haven't reminded him about S but I don't know if I should leave my daddy and be allowed to hang out with S like I used to or what. I'm so confused

[Littlest_Bee]

I know it's confusing and hard but you really need to talk this stuff through. You cannot go on ignoring the rules because they don't suit you. Set your boundaries and figure out how you can have an honest relationship that builds on trust or you won't be happy.

[Guest Scottist]

This is difficult to go through, I have trouble with having feelings for multiple people as well. You have to talk with him about it and be very clear about what you want. And, in my personal opinion, he shouldnt make a rule that you cant have feelings for anyone else. That isnt something you can control, and just looks like jealousy from my point of view. Again, thats just my opinion. Situations like this are hard, and he may try to drop the subject or dodge it, but you have to be firm and keep pushing to talk about this with him. And whatever happens, know that its not your fault for having these feelings.

[LittlePupRune]

I'd have a discussion with him about the rules he's set. Personally, I would be wary of the rule forbidding you to go anywhere with a single guy, it shows a lack of trust on your daddy's part. You should be able to be friends with whoever you want to be friends with.

[plumflower]

I have to disagree a little to be a devil's advocate. He's her Daddy and lets be honest, he's trying to not let S bother him. it'll take him time. My Daddy has told me I can't go anywhere with a guy before but if i protest and give Daddy reassurance he's never stopped me, though I truly don't know if he is ok with with or being my understanding Daddy. The thing though is, my Daddy is not threaten by my real life bff who is a guy. My Daddy is not threaten by my ex who still hangs around to help my mom with he heavy lifting and farm work. The ex is constantly trying to get back with me.

 

The issue here is that your Daddy was hurt by you before, whether or not he will admit to it.If he became your Daddy thinking he could restrict you from seeing S then he's wrong because it doesn't quite work that way. However, if you respect your Daddy you will try your best to abide by his wishes.

 

Woman to woman though, I'll be honest. You shouldn't be in a romantic relationship with your Daddy if your heart is still pinning for S. Your Daddy will try all that he can to be the center of your world and the truth is your unrequited and unyeilding feelings for S will become an issue even if you don't want them to be.

 

When my Daddy and I got together, there was another dom that had a part of my heart. I used to dream about being his sub. When he didn't talk to me I'd sit at my computer and cry and i knew he was flirting and getting close to one of my sisters. It hurt so much. My sister knew how I felt and she always kept me in the loop and shared with me what they talked about. She didn't want there to be any secrets. And yes, knowing hurt a lot too. I knew I had to get over him, I had no chance with him except to be his friend. Still I had this sliver of hope that if i persisted, he might changed his mind.

 

NOPE

 

When my first Daddy was with me, I still  missed him. But my current Daddy came along the longing for him ended. I forgot that he hadn't talked to me or that I use to miss him. I miss my Daddy so much. Daddy became the center of my world. What Daddy gives me was everything I wanted to have with the guy and I realized that I could keep chasing a what if or enjoy the present with my Daddy.

 

If your Daddy doesn't quiet the longing for S then, romantically your Daddy isn't satisfying your needs and it's not fair to him or you.

Edited July 6, 2017 by plumflower