Ddlg relationship help

[LittleValencia]

I need a Daddy/boyfriend that has time for me but can never find any that don't want nudes or anything, I don't mind long distance as long as I get attention but guys never have time to give the attention and take the time. A guy hat enjoys big me as well as he enjoys little me. I don't sleep at all so I constantly have time on my hand. Come please help me

[Geeky_DD]

Daddies that don't just want nudes do exist! I know i've had problems with long distance before, but that's purely because i want to give my baby all the attention, but the timezones always make problems. Then if both participants work as well it makes it harder. I'm just looking for a little near me who I can love in both big and little space and can see reasonably often because I crave little cuddles!

[plumflower]

I'm not one for multi-Daddies though it might be a good idea fro you. It sounds like you might not be a totally sexual little and that's okay. Maybe try have a boyfriend/Daddy who's open to having an open relationship. Just establish your boundaries that you won't give nudes and the have other Daddies to talk to as friends.

 

I don't even know if want I said made any sense. I just know that not all Daddies have to be the boyfriend too. with that said, *clings to my Daddy*

[Bjorn]

Uh-hem.... there are Daddies out there who won't ask for nudes... There are also Daddies who do value littles when they are big just as much as when they are small. Keep looking, you'll find who you're looking for. How do I know this? Because with all the time I've been looking, not once have I asked for a nude photo. As well as I'm not really an age player, but I find the little stuff fun and sometimes even like to add to it. However IMO A Daddy that cares will want you Big or small, it won't matter. As long as you'll have him.

[Guest Mittens]

There are plenty of daddies that won't ask for sex or nudes at all. As for having a lot of time on their hands, i feel like I am the only one I know. I am usually on 24/7 However, why not try making an ad in the personals searching for a daddy with that criteria, you may find someone who can smother you in love and affection as you need.

[HisuianLilligant]

[Little Illy]

Unfortunately because of the ease of access the internet has provided the world, you will always have those people who try to use it to their lewd advantage. With that being said - my best recommendation is to make your intentions known. Everywhere. Put it on your profile, any personal ad, in any beginning conversation with a potential Daddy, etc. I know it sucks and is really frustrating (I've been there, and even with a Daddy I still get those messages from other guys) but the one thing that has made me realize the easiest way to deal with it? My perspective. Instead of being upset that a potential Daddy really only wanted my attention for instant, sexual gratification, I started looking at it as "Oh, cool, now I don't have to waste my time, bye." Because I would tell them upfront "I don't do nudes, I don't do nudes, I don't do nudes," and these types typically show their true colors early on. It took me awhile to shift my mind set, but when I did I was able to easily swerve these guys, and honestly? Laugh at them. I made it a game. Wanna sent me sexually nasty messages? Ima rip your grammar apart and tell you how much of a turn off your illiterate nature is. Theeeen block. Want to send me a dick pic (on other sites) Ima ask for a magnifying glass, send my condolences to your previous partners (your poor hand...). Theeeeen block. 

 

It sucks that a ton of people have to adjust because other people are so selfishly rude. But you can't let that color your impression of EVERYONE. The first massive conversation I had with my Daddy, he told me how much of a sexual being he is, and I explained myself and my mode. And even though that is the type he is, he has never crossed a line, never asked for a nude, never escalated a situation I was not comfortable with (online OR in person). And I, personally, know of at least 5 other Daddies on this site alone that act with the same response.

 

General statement - Not saying you do this personally!! - Sadly a lot of the time, those icky people make themselves more readily available in the beginning, because it gets them what they want. But typically the Daddies that are worth out time require more effort. As they should. We want them to put in the effort to get to know us (the littles) and so we must always remember that we need to do the same in kind (I'm NOT saying you don't do that, this is a general statement). I see too many littles get so excited when a caregiver is showing attention that its typically forgotten to take things at a reasonable pace. Because if you do, you can easily avoid these mishaps (putting all your trust into fuck bois - pardon my French, mon ami).

 

Just remember this - stay true to who you are and never forget there are wonderful Daddies out there. You will have to wade through the jerks to get to him - he is wading through the rude littles to get to you, also. But you will find him because you are not giving up on what is your true nature. He will love you for your little and your big. And more importantly, he will see them as the same person and cherish you all the more.