How do I tell my Daddy what I'm uncomfortable with?

[DaddysDarling47]

[A Cuddly Dom]

This is a touchy subject. I would reccomend that you sit down with him outside of little/sub space and talk to him openly as an equal about how these images bother you. I can understand why it would be upsetting, but you will need to find the words to tell him why this is an important issue for you. Best wishes and I hope this was helpful.

[DarkAvatar]

It's important to tell your Daddy when your feeling uncomfortable about anything, your not breaking your dynamic by doing that, so let him know what you are feeling.

 

Communication is important in these kinds of relationships.

 

I wouldn't worry too much about it though, if it's all good besides that sounds like you have a good relationship with your Daddy. Looking at pictures of others isn't going to make him love you any less.

[mylittlesidewearsblack]

i think that a lot of us littles suffer with a great deal of insecurity. what i would work on, personally, is figuring out *why* these images bother you. do you think they are going to lead to his cheating on you? do you think he loves you less because he can appreciate the female form that isn't yours? do you think he has some kind of emotional attachment? or are you just feeling not good enough? do you think of yourself poorly and worry that you won't match up to someone? 

 

either way, once you know where you are coming from emotionally, you can try to tell your daddy what you think and feel. it will be easier to say exactly how you feel and exactly why you feel that way than to just get in a snit and tell him not to look at them.

 

that being said, however, i see nothing wrong with at least requesting that he keeps them in a place where you do not have to look at them, even accidentally. if he could keep them in a separate folder or on a cloud drive away from you, that might help with your comfort. 

[Guest bubbles__]

I highly, highly suggest telling him as soon as possible. I've moved in with a previous Daddy and found out he was a Phedophile. Things can be very scary. I know it's hard being submissive to be direct but you ABSOLUTELT have to be for your own safety and heartbreak. Say everything your way feeling whether it scares you or not. Especially living with the person.

In my honest opinion having those pictures there should be no reason for it at all. Whose to say e doesn't look at them. Maybe he doesn't, but you still don't know that ya know?

I wish you the best of luck please stay safe.

[Zenmackie]

I'm a complete bore on this subject, but it always bears repeating:  If your Daddy loves you, your happiness and comfort should always be his highest concern.  But he's not a mind-reader.  If you can't bring yourself to talk to him right away, try writing him a letter.  Even if you don't actually give it to him it will help you to put your feelings into words and maybe that will help you to tell him in person.  No relationship can survive for long without communication.  It might even be a good idea to try to schedule regular 'emotional check-ins' so you can both talk about things like this.  Trust in your Daddy's love and his desire for your happiness.

[plumflower]

That is a subject that must be talked about but not in your little space. My Daddy and I had a couple of these. I'm a stubborn little brat and highly insecure about my place in my Daddy's heart. This isn't because Daddy isn't giving me enough. This is from my previous relationships (vanilla and the previous Daddy who abandoned me) and recently I pushed something again and though Daddy was very unhappily about it, he let me address my concerns and answered my questions.

 

I don't think your Daddy is unreasonable. He will understand that his baby girl is unhappy and he wants hr to be happy. If not, my Daddy can always talk with him XD. Don be afraid to tell him. If you don't, he won't know.

[Guest LordEmtheDinosaur!]

It depends, is he part of a local community and his past subs and him have been friends for a while? were they just frequent play partners? Even with those things and it doesn't sit well with YOU should speak up! Talk about it before moving in together, that is a big step so be 110% sure and comfortable before!

You could also make a want will won't list. (Dr.Lindsey Doe)

Want-things you absolutely wanna do

Will- things you would do even though you're not interested/things you want to try

Won't- things you are not agreeing to.

It doesn't have to be sexual things, you could have one about sexual things and a separate one for your relationship and one for when you move in together

Just ask to talk and say all of it, good luck!

[Guest daddy's_little_shadow]

Communicate your thoughts to him outside of little space. If you feel uncomfortable telling him these things, then write them down and give them to him in person as an ice breaker.

 

You should be able to talk about anything with your Daddy, especially the unpleasant stuff, in a serious relationship. That's the core of the relationship dynamic. If there's no communication between the two of you, you're both not going to thrive and be what you could be. Your Daddy dom won't know how to take care of you if he doesn't know what's going on with you at all times, and you won't be satisfied with the way things are, and this causes a lot of stress for the both of you.

 

I have trouble communicating, too. It's hard to talk about certain things with certain people, because you feel like you might be letting them down or hurting their feelings by bringing it up, but it's too important to not do.

 

I would suggest taking some time during the week and getting together to discuss your relationship, even if you don't have any complaints, just to stay updated on each other's satisfaction level. Discussion and communication is it's own form of bonding.

 

(Sorry if I rambled and didn't make sense. It's 4 in the morning, and I'm tired.lol)

[Guest Kali]

Be direct - unequivocal. Miscommunication is a disaster waiting to happen, and will only end up hurting both parties.

[Guest OpalNovaPrincess]

I moved in with someone and found out he was selling illegal pictures, you can probably guess what I mean. I found them on his computer one day. Because I've had childhood trauma it caused me to have a massive mental breakdown. I'm so afraid of that happening again the fear is almost paralyzing. Even though I desperately want a bf to live with I have trouble trusting...

[HisuianLilligant]

I think all relationships should have open and honest communication, especially ddlg ones so you should just tell him outright. If he's the Daddy for you then he should be okay and accepting of your limitations. You should feel free to talk to him about anything, especially if you'll be living with him