Persistent Daddies..

[Mintea]

I get a lot of people are on here looking for love. But I am not. I'm on here to figure out if I actually am a little or not, I'm pretty sure I am but there has to be more to it than just finding that part out, right? 

I don't just want the age play but I genuinely want someone that shares my interests. 
I feel like I'm just being harassed for a instant relationship with some people on here because the majority of people on here have a lot of kinks. It feels like it's just strictly about sex. 
But a ddlg relationship just seems so very full of a physical and trusting relationship that I don't understand how anyone can maintain this kind of relationship online and I'm getting rather discouraged and frustrated having people just expecting me to get along with them and then BAM that means we're in a relationship and we belong together. 

Is anyone else feeling like this? I know it says to add people to your discretion, but I like to try to give people the benefit of the doubt. 

[Guest Cookiepie]

Unfortunately, that can happen. Little space is a head space that leave you very vulnerable in many ways, so you are right to be cautious. 

 

Prioritise yourself and what you are looking for right now. If you do ever feel uncomfortable in any way, make that clear to the other person and if they keep pushing and pushing maybe they will do more damage than help. I know its frustrating, but just make sure you are safe. You sound like you have the right attitude anyway. It is just like looking for any other relationship   Also, there is a lot of information on this site, you just have to look for it in between the general conversations and little space chats! Otherwise ask something specific and people are happy to help.  

 

In regards to being online, sometimes things can just fall into place talking to someone. Like interests and energies align. 

I met my first boyfriend and daddy online, it does happen. He was absolutely wonderful, but yes we couldn't close the distance and had to break up. (but when we started talking we were quite young, so funky stuff wasn't really an interest). 

 

Not sure if that was the kind of response you were hoping for but hope it helps.

[DollDirector]

That is likely to be of no help,but you know,the feeling is approximately the same on big vanilla dating sites !

 

It seems some people have meaningful LDRs. What's my opinion on this ? No opinion; It's just not for me,I believe in old-fashioned ways. 

If people don't read your profile don't think you have a problem; It is their problem. As Cookiepie says you sound like you have the right attitude: Open; But closed if there is any sign of harassment. Keep going !

[KiltedDaddy]

I'm not looking for anything long term

[plumflower]

I'm not a Daddy. I'm a little who's also a pet and a slave. It took me a bit to realize that my little has an age range and that she is sexual. If you like we can talk about ways to discover things and I am more than happy to share my processes. Sometimes it just helps to have another person to talk to you about it.

 

Don't worry about those that want relationships. It's not all bad intentions. I know that with me, my two bffs now my sisters, are in the life at varying degrees and that helped me a lot to hone in on what I liked and didn't. I also researched a lot and talked to a lot of doms. Some of them I trust and did not try to get in my pants and others totally did and a few hurt me before i found my Daddy.

 

So if you just want to talk, hit me up.

[Zenmackie]

If a self-proclaimed 'Daddy' insists on jumping right into the physical/controlling part of the relationship or demanding your full attention without taking the time to get to know you or find out if the two of you are compatible, run for the exit.

 

 A true DD/lg relationship is just as much about trust and caring as any other relationship, and those things cannot be demanded, only earned and created together.

 

And yes, an online relationship is a poor substitute for the real thing, and is sometimes difficult to maintain, but it really can be done.  Also, if you're just beginning the exploration of your Little self, it's much safer and it can be as gradual as you want it to be.  Don't give up.

[Mintea]

Unfortunately, that can happen. Little space is a head space that leave you very vulnerable in many ways, so you are right to be cautious. 

 

Prioritise yourself and what you are looking for right now. If you do ever feel uncomfortable in any way, make that clear to the other person and if they keep pushing and pushing maybe they will do more damage than help. I know its frustrating, but just make sure you are safe. You sound like you have the right attitude anyway. It is just like looking for any other relationship   Also, there is a lot of information on this site, you just have to look for it in between the general conversations and little space chats! Otherwise ask something specific and people are happy to help.  

 

In regards to being online, sometimes things can just fall into place talking to someone. Like interests and energies align. 

I met my first boyfriend and daddy online, it does happen. He was absolutely wonderful, but yes we couldn't close the distance and had to break up. (but when we started talking we were quite young, so funky stuff wasn't really an interest). 

 

Not sure if that was the kind of response you were hoping for but hope it helps.

I honestly just find people see my pictures and don't bother reading anything about me. I'm sorry, but the chances of me getting along with some 50 year old are pretty slim. I honestly feel like there are no genuine daddies on here. Just a bunch of vulnerable girls who want to feel important and special to someone and they take advantage of it. 

[Mintea]

If a self-proclaimed 'Daddy' insists on jumping right into the physical/controlling part of the relationship or demanding your full attention without taking the time to get to know you or find out if the two of you are compatible, run for the exit.

 

 A true DD/lg relationship is just as much about trust and caring as any other relationship, and those things cannot be demanded, only earned and created together.

 

And yes, an online relationship is a poor substitute for the real thing, and is sometimes difficult to maintain, but it really can be done.  Also, if you're just beginning the exploration of your Little self, it's much safer and it can be as gradual as you want it to be.  Don't give up.

I genuinely cannot develop feelings for someone I have never met in person. People can say whatever they want behind a screen and it could mean absolutely nothing. I'm more or less annoyed with an nice conversation happening for about a day or so and then I feel like I get jumped on for either something sexual or a relationship when I'm not seeking out either. 

[Guest StarFlower]

I understand your perspective, though it has not happened to me that I get propositioned in a physical way right and left, right off the bat. I am much older than you are, which may have something to do with it; I have longer conversations with potential daddies online and only a couple of them have jumped *right* into talking about things like "grabbing my booby" and the like (this is a quote!). Unless I feel some attraction *and* connection to a person, I would not respond in kind for sure, and even the friendship grows cold very quickly. I am a busy person as I'm sure you are, and don't have time to waste.

 

Another thing I can sympathize with (can't we all?!) is the wish to have someone to be physical with in the real world and not just the virtual one. I've just looked at your profile and you seem to be very upfront except I notice that you haven't mentioned this point. My advice would be to add somewhere in the first paragraph that you need to be in the physical vicinity of your romantic partner. 

 

Also, I know that we can have various fonts and colors, but pink is a very difficult color to read! You might consider changing that to a darker color. Sure, some people will *still* not read your posts and just want to jump right in, but it's worth a shot to see if there is a difference.

 

Do you "friend" people quite quickly including those whose profiles are just bare bones? I've noticed we can't tell how many friends another member has, so I can't tell if you have 10 or 50 friends. Personally I will friend people who I've interacted with in the chat room or here in the forums if either their views harmonize with mine *or* I feel like they are just cool beans and I am sure that they would have no interest in me whatsoever. I'm here to make friends most importantly and find out more, like you.

 

I hope this post helps you and/or someone else in some way, shape, or form!

Edited July 13, 2017 by StarFlower

[Guest OpalNovaPrincess]

I know exactly what you mean. Mostly because I'm a little but I don't identify as submissive at ALL. When someone sends me a list of their kinks (often happens) it's a HUGE turn off. Because I'm looking for a loving interaction. Daddy's can also be really possessive. I know I'm a little for a fact but I'm starting to think that I'm not supposed to be with a Daddy, since none of them seem to be the best fit for me. I do not like their approach. I pretty much relate to everything you've said here. 

 

And it's not that I'm not a sexual person, it's that certain kinks are not what I'm looking for.

[Lobsterdaddy]

A good start would be checking places like Fetlife for people in your local area. I've always identified as a Daddy because it's my personality. It's who I am and how I treat everyone. My little identifies as she does because through our love growing, she developed it. I think the mistake a lot of people make with alternative lifestyle relationships, such as ddlg, is they focus too much on the alternative before they establish the relationship. You have to be 2 consenting adults in a loving trusting relationship before the ddlg dynamic can be established. Don't seek a Daddy, seek a partner that you just know has the potential to be a Daddy.