WDY think of a Daddy watching porn or seeking cam girls on Reddit?

[DaddysLittlest]

So, my Daddy has never done this before or so he says. He has been looking at porn and seeking out those cam girls (token for show) on Reddit.

 

I know watching porn is normal but he has never done this in our 5 year relationship so I find it alarming. Combined with seeking women that needs "help masterbating", I have begun to feel left out of something that should probably be communicated with me.

 

What are your thoughts

[Spooky]

I have zero problem with my S/O watching porn as long as it is ethical porn and professionally done. I find exploitative porn disgusting. 

 

Cam girls is a bit too personal for me, I wouldn't like that at all.

 

If it is bothering, you should communicate your feelings with him! Especially if it is new behavior, its best to talk about it right away and try to find the source of this new past time. 

[plumflower]

You need to talk to your Daddy and see why he enjoys it. My Daddy watches the token girls too and he knows I watch porn. Maybe it's something the two of you can do together. The important part is to communicate how you feel about it. If you can accept it, work with it. If you can. If you can't then you can't and y'all go yur separate ways.

[StefanC71_UK]

Fully agree with spooky. Porn is almost normal nowadays, as a guy I can say I've watched my fair share even during relationships.

 

Camgirls however, that's not something I've ever wandered into. I think spooky hit the right word with personal. That's moving away from simply watching to interacting.

 

Communication is definitely key, but not just for you to get your feelings across, it's also a chance for him to get his across. There may be something that he us missing in the relationship and seeking elsewhere, and if he'd communicate that to you it may be that you would also fill that gap for him too.

 

Or, he may simply do it but there's nothing wrong with your relationship in his eyes.

 

Get talking and I hope you manage to work it all out together, favourably for both of you.

Edited July 4, 2017 by StefanC71

[Guest Bunnyblossom]

Not cool. But I guess I'm not in the same boat and didn't develop a libido to the same strength as most. And sexual activity is super personal to me. 

I interpret it as not being enough and needing to seek out new tits n ass to jerk it to. Since it's the first time in 5yrs.
And paying a girl to one-on-one diddle herself in front of you? How would you feel about it if he wasn't paying her and it was a random on the internet?

Paying makes FA difference to me- if not makes it worse, since he could have you for free. 
Each to their own though apparently.

Edited July 4, 2017 by MilkPop

[Hastings]

Like the others pointed out, communication is very important when it comes to situations like these (or porn in relationships, overall). Communicate your feelings with your partner and see what he says. These relationships MUST have trust to work. Porn in a relationship is only an issue if one of the parties is not okay with it. Both parties must agree, and it can't be hurting one side in the relationship. But, again, communicate how it makes you feel, see why he wants to view the porn, and then see if you can find a system that you can be comfortable with. 

Edited July 4, 2017 by Hastings

[Guest bigttrack]

Porn, depending on the genre' is one thing, Cam girls are quite another and akin to infidelity, unless it is a

shared activity with you. Other than that, bad. Period.

[Hastings]

Also, MilkPop brings a very important point to the table. Some people just aren't comfortable with porn in the relationship. And that's fine, too. If that's the case then a person is allowed to put their foot down and demand that it end. A relationship of any type is a partnership between two (or sometimes more, if poly) people. That's a bond between those two. And when something affects both parties then both parties need to agree, at least on basic principles, for actions/etc. to be considered okay. Different libido levels in a relationship can make things tough, but can be worked around even without porn. You do, however, have a right to feel comfortable in your relationship. If porn threatens that comfort and trust then you do have a right to have the porn stop. 

[angel-k47]

i hate camgirls!!!! (lol hypocrite) it's too personal like for real.

 

i also wouldn't like it if my sir watched porn, which i'm so thankful he doesn't and also doesn't want to. however it's really up to how you feel and how comfortable you are with knowing that your boyfriend does that.

 

don't base what should be done in your relationship off of what others tell you, if you have a problem with it you should talk about it, even if it's about something "normal" bc for real what is normal. see where a compromise could be made, if he gets upset with you doing the same thing then ofc you should have the same respect and vice versa.

[mylittlesidewearsblack]

I really don't see what the problem is personally, but if you're uncomfortable then you need to tell him. TBH, i think it's silly to tell someone not to watch porn, but it's not my relationship, so you do you. 

[Daddy_Pzy]

My babygirl and I had this conversation early on in our relationship.  She sees it as a form of cheating.  As in when watching porn you are mentally putting yourself into that picture.  And then when you have an intimate moment with your partner are you enjoying the moment or thinking of the porn you watched earlier.

 

I had to agree with her thoughts.  I have in my past watched my fair share of porn and even cam girls, but out of respect for my babygirl and our relationship have not done it since we have been together.  

 

I agree the above posts that if this makes you uncomfortable or if you feel 'left out' you should talk with your Daddy about why he feels the need to look at other women when you are right there in front of him.

[DaddysLittlest]

Thank you everyone for your thoughts, every single one of you has been really helpful and gave me insight to how I should approach Daddy over this situation. I feel like I am ready and will talk to him tonight.

 

My plan is the following

1. Let him know what I found

2. Explain to him my concern

3. Ask him why this began when it did since it hasn't happened for 5 years

4. Find a compromise

 

Honestly, 5 years is a lot to throw away. Therefore, I think that finding a middle ground would be best and perhaps even joining him watching porn and these girls.

 

Let me know if this isnt the right approach. I'm trying my best.

[Sergeant-Snuggles]

If you were watching it with him then that would probably be a lot of fun for both. I can understand some girls being insecure about their daddy looking at other girls that might be hotter than them, but you look like u don't have anything to worry about in that sense. This would probably solve the problem in a very postitive way. But, if it doesn't, and he's seeking them out without you even after you've made it more fun for him, then there's probably something that's missing from his sexual life that he's trying to fullfill. It might even just be the idea of strangers. That's definitely a kink, and it might not have anything to do with you. But, either way, you need to be comfortable with it, so if you're not, then either he needs to respect that and compromise or you should find someone who will.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Porn doesn't bother me. Daddy watches it, and I do too, sometimes. Sometimes we watch it together. Truthfully it's how I get new ideas of things to try. In addition, Daddy doesn't watch porn with girls in it "better" then me. Usually they're a similar build and similar traits.

 

Camgirls would bother me, I think. The biggest reason is the money exchange, and the personal level. If we had discussed it and we're both okay with it, then whatever. But I can't imagine I'd be okay with some random girl doing a one on one show for Daddy that he paid HER for. But that's just me.

 

You need to discuss this in more depth with your Daddy, though. Only the two of you can decide what's okay in your relationship.

[Chicki]

idk, not really my thing in either direction... or daddy's. and I'm glad for that because we don't have to discuss it or argue over it.

 

I agree professional porn seems less intrusive. I'd say to ask why mostly... why for cam girls at least, if there's free professional porn instead of girls wanting money from the audience and being more personal. that's what i'd suggest at least. good luck, ~

[leepalmer]

Porn is not even a problem, I do watch it, too. Webcams like Asiansexed is another thing, it always presupposes interaction between cam girls and a watcher. I wouldn't definitely like this.