Maybe found Daddy?

[Princess_Starr]

I met a Sir on Fetlife and we have been talking every day and night for over a month now. I am so incredibly happy when we talk. He always makes my day a good day. He sends nice messages for me to wake up to, he asks if I have taken my meds, drank water, etc. We talk about all kinds of things. He is from the same town as I, but now lives 2 hours away. We have already talked about visits. He has stepped into the role of being my Daddy, but we haven't had a relationship defining conversation. I am the kinda person who needs the actual confirmation.

How should I bring this up to him?

 

P.s. I call him Panda, I probably will continue to do so after the RDC.

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

It sounds like he's assumed the role so its definitely time to have the conversation! Its probably as simple as straight up asking him how he sees himself in your life and where he wants to be! Best of luck! He sounds awesome! Edited July 2, 2017 by Lil' Miss Dolly

[Princess_Starr]

 

Thank you! I do find him quite wonderful.

I think my anxiety is just scaring me, I worry about him deciding he doesn't want a future with me in it...

Edited July 2, 2017 by DarlingLu

[cutiestlittleever]

Bring it up casually in conversation.

Tell him how you feel then ask about your relatiosnhip

[PartyAnimal]

I honestly enjoyed the "relationship defining conversation" with the amazing lady who is now my little.  Even after more than half a decade in each other's lives, we found it to be a bounding experience that helped both of us better understand each other and grow in our appreciation of each other.  I am a big fan of defining the relationship.  Some may not feel they need it at the beginning when everything is new, but as relationships deepen, the need for definition becomes more necessary.  I wish you and your all the best.  You've got this!

[plumflower]

My Daddy always says, "If you want to know something, ask don't assume." So just bring it up. He's a Daddy, he will understand why his little needs to know. Most likely, he waiting on you to initiate so he is not pushing you.

[chubbylilwolfcub]

Just ask him to be your Daddy. It seems he already is, chances are he is waiting for you to ask and will be thrilled at the invitation. Can't know until you ask. Best of luck little one! Edited July 2, 2017 by chubbylilwolfcub

[minahbird]

I agree with plumflower. He seems like an awesome guy, but he's probably waiting for you to bring things up so he doesn't seem like he's pushing you. I could be wrong coz I've never had a daddy, but the one I talk to all the time (he's not my daddy, but he is *a* daddy) is like that. Bits of that side of him sometimes slip into our conversations and honestly, it's alot like you describe. He doesn't bring up things that might be uncomfortable but waits for me to talk about them. It kinda makes me more willing to talk about them because I know he's letting me take my time so I think to myself 'well, if I don't do it now, I might not at all'. Probably not his line of thinking, but it works well with mine XD 

 

If this guy is anything like that, he probably just wants you to start the conversation. I hope so, because he sounds wonderful for you

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

My Daddy always says, "If you want to know something, ask don't assume."

 

Best advice ever. 

 

The combination of introverted, submissive, and little makes it very hard for me to ask direct questions.  But making assumptions or letting it go round and round in my head causes too much anxiety and sleepless nights.