Important quesion bout daddys

[Guest Anne_A_Little_babygirl]

Do real daddys start off relationships with wanting to see panties and such?

[Guest Xastry]

No. Just no. That's pushing it too far immediately. If you're uncomfortable or being pressured into something you do not want to do, you have the right to back off. Don't get lured into fake daddies, otherwise you would just end up getting hurt and upset. Be safe.

[Guest Anne_A_Little_babygirl]

Tank yu

[Guest Mr.Stuffykins]

No daddy or person in general should start any relationship asking for such intimate things. It clearly shows where his priorities are and you should avoid people like this altogether. These fake daddies will sexualize every aspect of this type of relationship - stray away from any and everyone that becomes sexual too soon! Dont let them pressure you into doing something you are not comfortable doing. As Xastry mentioned: stay safe

 

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Edited June 27, 2017 by Stuffykins

[cuppycakes]

Ask yourself if this behavior would fly in a vanilla relationship. If the answer is no, it's no.

No matter what kind of relationship it is, if you're uncomfortable or someone tries to pressure you, it's a bad sign.

[Antoinette]

Just so this is out there: just because a person is only interested in sexual interactions that doesn't mean they're a 'fake' daddy. What even is a fake daddy? Would I be a fake little if I asked for dick pics too quickly? No... I'd just be a kinda pushy little. 

 

The term fake daddy is so harmful and it makes daddies feel like they have to adhere to a set of rules (ironic) in order to be a 'real' daddy. It's dumb.

If pictures of your panties is something you don't want to send or you don't want to be sexual so soon just say... Every daddy is different and a lot of them will be extremely sexual extremely quickly. If you don't like it just say 'no thanks' and move along.

[DollDirector]

xAntoinette is right: quote " a lot of them will be extremely sexual extremely quickly " 

Perhaps they won't have read your profile but it will be their problem; You are perfectly entitled to write that you intend to take time and that any intimacy will be slowly built.

Quote " would I be a fake little if I asked for dick pics too quickly " I don't know but I can give an example of reaction: Mine; You would wait for a week to receive a reply and one that would be unlikely to contain a dick pic ...

[Guest Mister Tim]

It's certainly not a good sign I'd say a relationship should always begin with a lot of communication. Talking about what your comfortable with is also included in that.

[Needy4neediness]

No the basis for every kind of relationship is trust and for that you need to get someones personality not their body or clothing.

[DaddyDoLil]

Like any relationship (or in this case, first approach) asking someone to show off their panties is a very bad sign in my opinion. Unless you yourself are looking for a "no strings attached" fling, then I would walk away from the person and situation. Daddies (even online) are like anyone you would normally meet in person. If they are not respectful, keep on walking!

 

Hope that helps.

[Daddy_Pzy]

I can agree with each post here to one degree or another.  As I am a new member of the DD/lg community I do not know a great deal about the lifestyle.  I am still learning, so I can only give you my personal experience with my babygirl.

 

We have been in our relationship only briefly, about 1 month or so and I have never seen any pics of her short of her face.  We communicate daily and spend a great deal of time in a virtual world as we live over 2,000 miles apart (although I do plan to move closer to her in the future).  I would never ask her to immediately send me any pics that she might feel uncomfortable sending.  If my babygirl chooses to do so, then I gladly accept.  My motto is 'slow and steady wins the race".

 

I can also agree with xAntoinette in that just because your Daddy is asking for this already doesn't necessarily make him a 'fake' Daddy.  Sometimes you have to take this request along with others in order to make the decision on if this Daddy is right for you.  He may still be a 'real' Daddy, but not the Daddy you need or want.

[chubbylilwolfcub]

Im on the fence about using the term "fake" when it comes to Daddys and littles. I know a lot of people in this community dont like the term at all.

Some Daddys and littles do become sexual very quickly. That is absolutely ok and does not make them fake.

However I do believe (and have met my fair share of) fake Daddys and littles, but it had nothing to do with how quickly things become sexual. In my experience a "fake" Daddy is someone who wants to be called Daddy and wants to give orders but doesn't want to support and encourage a little, doesn't want to care for them outside of the sexual aspect, doesn't take their responsibilties as a Daddy seriously, doesn't do what they can to help a little be their best little self. On the other side of the coin, a "fake" little will be the same, expecting to be cared for and often spoiled but not taking their responsibilties as a little seriously, not giving their Daddy or caregiver the love and support and respect that they deserve, and not helping a Daddy be their best Daddy selves.

It's to early in the interaction to say that this Daddy is a fake, though perhaps a bit hypersexual.

With all that being said, if it makes you uncomfortable, you are in no way required to reciprocate. Talk to them and let them know you aren't ready to take things to a sexual level. If they can't get on board with that, I wouldn't automatically label them as a "fake", but it is likely that this Daddy isn't the Daddy for you.

Stay safe and be patient. It's worth the wait to find the Caregiver that is right for you, where both parties will benefit and grow grom the relationship.

[plumflower]

I often use the term "fake" and "pseudo" quite a lot and I'm not ashame to say I will call a dom/dady out. I have on my site. But it's right that just because the "Daddy" in question ask for panties right away doesn't mean they aren't a Daddy. Maybe they are. However, it's a strong indication that he isn't looking for a deep meaningful relationship. It takes time to establish a relationship. Most of the people out there in the world and on the web can fathom that they are a Daddy/dom but their actions speak louder than their words.

 

I have been around some very great doms ranging from protectors, sirs, Daddys and Masters. It has been my experience that the ones I deemed to be psudeo /fake Daddies/doms often time do not really want to get to know me. It is all fun and games in the pursuit of pleasure and instant gratification. Once that gratification is given they ease off until the next time they re seeking it again.

 

When I split from my first Daddy (on his choice)  was left in a perpetual state of utter disillusionment and despair. I called it a kitten in a box left out on the street corner. That's what it really felt like because I was once his kitten. A friend of mine told me that once the word got out that I was single all the doms/Daddies would come out of the woodwork and to his credit they did. Two Daddies presented themselves as the right candidate to heal my crushed heart and turn my pout into a smile. Both Daddies were sexual in nature, they talked about how they would make me forget the other Daddy if I just trusted them and let them in. Both talked about their sexual prowess, despite one of them having 3 littles already and a wife (not in the life) the other never asked me bout me. He insisted on what he could do to make me feel pleasure.

 

The person who won my heart and all of me, is my current Daddy, whose been in the life fr a while. He didn't jump out at me and tell me about what he could do to make me better. All he did was talk to me and more importantly let me talk. I knew that he was hurting too, having lost a slave and when he asked me  " If I may, what should I call you?" To which I replied, "You may call me (removed for privacy) my real name or if you wish kitten. I honestly miss being called that." He replied with, "Ok Kitten. I'll call you that, but if it gets too much, just let me know, ok?" He then became my protector before anything ever happened. I called him sir and he pushed hard for me to be with one of the other Daddies until the faithful freak storm that jad me crying and hiding in a closet.

 

The point is, even though he was interested in me and I certainly did not hide that I was interested in him. He still gave me and him the necessary time that we needed. He honestly wanted me to be with a Daddy from TX but that particular Daddy was all about sex. Now, my Daddy and I talk about everything and anything and yes we have play time too.

 

The pseudo doms like to talk a lot of game but don't deliver in the intent. Promises are made and broken without remorse. My Daddy once broke a promise by accident, one that I forgot he made s well, and when he remembered, his demeanor changed so drastically from fun loving to depressed because he broke a promise. That is the sign of a true Daddy.  Also he never flaunts that he is one, most do not. 

[Guest Scottist]

A good Daddy will usually be nervous about asking for sexual stuff, atleast in my experience. They will ask about you, how your feeling, what you like, etc. They will want to be there for you at all times.  This person seems to be just looking to get off, and is not a good daddy. I've seen what these types of people can do to littles, dont get caught in a bad relationship. Hope you do okay in the future

[PartyAnimal]

Absolutely not!!!  To be a Daddy is to be a care-giver.  When your focus is on what you can take rather than what you can give, you miss the point altogether.  Of course a relationship is both give and take, but when one begins the relationship with his eyes only on what he can get, beware.

Edited July 1, 2017 by DPsEverWolf

[The Daddy]

@xAntoinette To think that there's no such thing as Fake Daddy's is the same as thinking there's no such thing as fake dom's. People can lie about being a Daddy, or even just be wrong about their abilities as being a Daddy. This is a lifestyle that not everyone can understand, and especially not jump into the deep end and call themselves Daddy's without knowing what their role as Daddy is. Some may enjoy the idea of a Ddlg sexual relationship, but even that is pushing being a fake Daddy. For me and my little babygirl, plumflower, this is life. She's my little, and I'm her Daddy, and she calls me Daddy in front of her friends, family, staff, it doesn't matter where, and being so far in the Ddlg as well as BDSM lifestyle makes us a little skeptical when someone claiming to be a Dom, Sub, Little, or Daddy seem a little suspicious, or too eager with their new partners.


- Sincerely The Daddy

[Guest Anne_A_Little_babygirl]

Tank yu evewybody

[Untwisted]

On the "fake" debate, let's say I go into a clothes shop and look around. A few things I like, but they don't stock my size, everything else they have I simply don't like.  Is it a fake clothes shop, or just not compatible with what I want?

There's no official list of what makes someone a daddy or not; it is different things to different people and while there may be some common ground, there are probably very different views of what's appropriate and what's not.  For me, I'd rather get to know someone without wondering what they look like dressed, but some are here for naked pictures and there those who like to show them.  Each to their own.

Having said that (and this might be controversial), someone who calls themselves Daddy when nobody else does is only really a potential daddy as far as I'm concerned. To my mind, the title Daddy is something that should be given to someone who fulfils that role.  It's not something I would call myself.

If someone makes you feel uncomfortable right from the start, just be very careful about getting involved.

[Guest Anne_A_Little_babygirl]

Thankie yus