should you date a mommy/daddy if they have more then one little?

[Guest Bunnyfeet]

Is it right to have more then one little or more then one daddy/mommy I feel like its wrong but ive been messaged a few times bye people who have asked and i really want a mommy/little but i want to be their only one help cunfuzzled i because i miss feeling needed bye some one....

[littlecl13]

it's not as simple as right and wrong. there are many polyamorous and open relationship littles and caregivers, meaning that a little might have more than one caregiver or a caregiver may have more than one little. there are also some people who are poly/open but only want one little or caregiver! all these situations are perfectly okay as long as there is consent and communication between partners.

 

if you want to be another person's only little/caregiver, that's okay!! when you are asked about it, just honestly tell them that you want to be their only one

[Guest Bunnyfeet]

yeah but im not sure if they no about them or not 

[littlecl13]

yeah but im not sure if they no about them or not 

 

i'm confused about what you mean.

 

do you mean that these people have more than one little/caregiver but don't know what poly/open relationships are?

 

if so, i really don't know what to tell you. that's up to those people to educate themselves. but they aren't doing anything wrong as long as they are being honest to their littles/caregivers, whether or not they have labeled themselves as poly/open or not. 

[Guest Bunnyblossom]

My personal opinion is that if someone has multiple Daddies/Littles/Mommies, they need to all know about each other and be okay with it.

Or the person in the middle of it's kinda skeezy. 

 

That's not my opinion of open or polyamorous relationships, just your specific scenario. 

 

If you're keeping one person secret from another, that's what's kinda categorized as cheating in the traditional sense of the word.

[mylittlesidewearsblack]

I think you should just do what feels right. As a polyam person I of course enjoy it but by no means should you do something that makes you uncomfortable.

[Guest Bunnyfeet]

yeah oks I dont really think this guy was being honost and was just a player

[Guest Sinderella]

It's preference,but I do feel it complicates things. I actually recently joined a relationship of a Daddy/little, as the second little. They wanted a 3 party monogamous relationship. We all hung out and knew about each other. I ended up getting led on and dropped cold because I felt sad that I received no communication in over a 24 hour period. From my limited experience, it doesn't work without great patience and effort. Lots of people engage in poly, but to truly make everyone happy it takes great care and investment. I'll never try it again.