My Daddy Wants to Be Little Too

[Kissessfordaddy<3]

I'm not sure how to do it, but my daddy wants me to be his mommy... I'm not a dominant person, or really want to be in the Dom part of ddlg. But at the same time i love my daddy and want to do whatever makes him happy, even if i have to sacrifice my little side sometimes. I'm not sure where to begin, but i can give it a try. Like he still wants to be a daddy, but also have a mommy sometimes. 

 

Me and him had a play date, with both of us being little and that was fun. But whenever he's little and i'm not i don't feel like his baby girl anymore and it kind of makes me sad, but he's happy so it's really conflicting for me ahhaa.. It's too much responsibility for this little one i think, but maybe i could do something that isn't really a mommy role, but  comfortably dominant??? 

HELllp PLezzSe D:

Please let me know if you have ANY tips or if you've experienced something similar. 

[cuppycakes]

You should tell him that you don't think you're ready to be a mommy! He should understand that.

 

If you really want to try, then just think of all the things you like your daddy doing when YOU'RE in littlespace. Then do those things for him! Alternatively, look around in the Caregiver Cafe for ideas and things to help.

 

Another thing: talk to him. He can tell you what he wants better than any of us can

[angel-k47]

maybe try and be more like a big sister than a mommy

you already said you liked the play dates and being little together, just now add in some guidelines that you also follow. 

like when he's daddy have him give you your rules and you take those rules and implement them on him when your both little so you're kinda acting like the big kid!

and for when he's little and you're not, just enjoy your time with him and don't think of yourself as his mommy if you don't want to.

 

ultimately you're gonna have to talk it out with him about it ^^^ 

[LittleGirlEmilia]

maybe try and be more like a big sister than a mommy

 

 

This was going to be my suggestion too as soon as I read this, so I second this. I know how tiring it is being a little and having to look after a caregiver for their own needs. I try and see it as my "little" duty... It doesn't make it any easier.  

 

You two just have to communicate and ask each other how often he'd like to be in little space, how often you'd like to be in little space, how often you both are.. You're just going to have to try and work it out together.

[Kissessfordaddy<3]

maybe try and be more like a big sister than a mommy

you already said you liked the play dates and being little together, just now add in some guidelines that you also follow. 

like when he's daddy have him give you your rules and you take those rules and implement them on him when your both little so you're kinda acting like the big kid!

and for when he's little and you're not, just enjoy your time with him and don't think of yourself as his mommy if you don't want to.

 

ultimately you're gonna have to talk it out with him about it ^^^ 

I really like this idea, i'll definatly do this thank you !!! <3

[LittleMissSquish]

Some people arent in the mentality for switching like that but its nice sometimes. One of my boyfriends was like that, I treated him (in my opinion) better then hed would even treat me. However it isnt for everyone, maybe explore it a little biy, if you really dont like it he should understand.

[LittlePupRune]

I really like the idea of being a big sister/brother/other to your cg instead of a cg yourself. I'm primarily a daddy, though I am a switch and (in my experience, could be different for other people) there is a vastly different headspace between the two. So talk to him and explain that you're not comfortable being a cg and come up with a way to compromise.

[Lobsterdaddy]

My Kitten and I both switch, and as I have ASD, I can regress to a little state sometimes. You don't have to be a mommy per se, just taking on a supervisory role and still being little could work. Never forget that just because roles change, you don't stop being his little girl. That's always there. Talk to him and make sure he knows where you are mentally and emotionally. Being on the same page will make things easier.

[Guest Spookycupcake]

I'm a little, but I had a personal experience with this. I wasn't with my ex that long, and we met in person. When we met in person he ended up acting little almost the whole time and I felt so out of place. I felt like he was forcing me into trying to be in mommy space and I am not even close to a dominant type of person. I almost started crying because I was so uncomfortable. 

 

Maybe your daddy would be happy with you both being little at times but I say you really need to talk things out as adults, try not to talk to him as a little and try not to think about hurting his feelings because keeping how you feel could hurt you both in the long run.