Very Disappointed in Daddy

[smallprincesssarah]

I know this is such a trivial problem compared to other people, but this has been bothering me for a while. I love my relationship with my Daddy and everything is wonderful, except for this one habit. 

 

Whenever we get into a TV show together, he always watches it without me. Before we were DDlg, he watched all of Season 3 of Bojack Horseman...without me. He had waited until it came out at 3AM and binged the whole season while I slept. It annoyed me, but I understood, seeing as he had just gotten me hooked on the series the week before S3 came out.

 

Since we've been DDlg for a while now, I really wanted to get into a new "little" show with him. We used to watch Sofia the First all the time in the winter (at my insistence), but as my spring semester grew busier, we'd have less time for Sofia in the evenings, but we'd always watch at least one episode together before bed (we're long distance while I'm in school, so this really meant a lot to me). 

 

I was going through our shared Netflix and I noticed that all of S1 and most of S2 of Sofia had been watched. We were only 3/4 through S1. I asked him about it, feeling a sense of deja-vu, and he admitted that he would watch Sofia without me. He didn't even like Sofia when we first started watching, and now I feel so betrayed. My favorite part of watching Sofia was experiencing something new for both of us, but now I feel like it's been tainted.

 

Maybe I'm being too sensitive, but I honestly can't watch Sofia with my Daddy anymore, knowing that he's already seen it. I've expressed my frustrations, but his only defense was that he "only put it on for background noise and wasn't even paying attention."

 

Idk, maybe I'm just being a big baby, but I wanted to vent.

[angel-k47]

aww i've gotten that way before too so definitely understand where you're coming from

i would just talk to him again and really get your point across that it hurt your feelings and that maybe he should put on another show he's seen for background noise, i use shows that have stand alone episodes

 

maybe even give sofia another chance since he didn't really watch it fully while he had it on

[Spooky]

He may not understand why it is so important to you that you guys watch it together. 
Explain to him that you think it is important that the two of you have little shows that you both enjoy. And that when he watches them without you, it really hurts your feelings. 

 

I can totally understand your frustrations, you are not alone! 

[Guest Lycan]

I highly doubt he'd sit there and watch Sofia the First for hours on end without you dear. I feel like he should know how much those mean to you after all this time, especially after the previous incident. He could always watch a different show that you have no interest in.

 

The only thing I could kind of see of him putting on Sofia when he's sleeping is as if he wants to feel closer to you, the show makes him think of you, therefore he wants to fall asleep to it one night. I don't know, it's still not right for him to do that to you knowing how you feel. Some men can be kinda tunnel-visioned/oblivious when it comes to realizing what their S/O wants to be in reservation and you have to lay it down firmly in their face. (Only saying that really because this isn't the first time this happened).

 

I really hope that he abides by what you request... good luck hun. Hope things get better.

[Guest Bunnyblossom]

Sometimes they just do thoughtless jerky things. (Emphasis on 'thoughtless')

Like, they can't understand why it means so much to us.

 

Not saying all guys are like that. But when they don't seem to understand, it's because they really don't understand. They're not trying to be mean.

 

I know the feeling though </3

[Guest Kali]

We Daddies can fall down sometimes. We're only human. I can appreciate how this might be harder to deal with as a little. As a Daddy it's clearly much easier to deal with being let down by little Miss, as we have a more obvious range of techniques available

 

As a little it's sometimes not so obvious how to impress upon Daddy how much he's hurt you.

 

Personally I hate not sharing a new film or tv show. I get little to no enjoyment watching anything on my own. Having said that that I'm quite confident that I have plenty of other faults. :-)

[DarkAvatar]

I think it's ok to watch it again with him even though he's already seen it. Tell him you want to watch it with him.

 

The most important thing isn't what's on the tv, but the cuddles and being together.

 

And make sure you tell him what shows you don't want him to watch without you in the future Otherwise by himself he might get bored and watch it

[Littlest_Bee]

Hey everyone! *waves*

I guess he probably didn't know that it would hurt you or bother you this much.

 

And I agree with what one of the previous posters said about probably putting it on to feel closer to you. I'm sure once you work through your initial disappointment and talk things through it will get better. Everybody makes mistakes sometimes.

Wish you all the best.

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

He had waited until it came out at 3AM and binged the whole season while I slept.

 

Ok, I'm going to be the bad guy here.

 

1) He waited until 3 AM to watch a tv show.

2) He watched an entire tv season in the early hours of the morning.

3) He hid this from you by doing it when you were sleeping. 

 

This strikes me as highly compulsive.  If this is normal for him, his thinking might not be entirely rational or reasonable.  In that case, you are going to have to get creative in order to get the message through to him that his actions hurt your feelings.

[Littlest_Bee]

Ok, I'm going to be the bad guy here.

 

1) He waited until 3 AM to watch a tv show.

2) He watched an entire tv season in the early hours of the morning.

3) He hid this from you by doing it when you were sleeping. 

 

This strikes me as highly compulsive.  If this is normal for him, his thinking might not be entirely rational or reasonable.  In that case, you are going to have to get creative in order to get the message through to him that his actions hurt your feelings.

Waiting for it to come out and watching the whole season was something he did for a series where he was a fan and had presumably watched the other seasons alone as well. It may not exactly be normal but it's something some fans do and the OP stated it was a somewhat understandable action. So she probably held back the scope of her disappointment then. I don't think we as outsiders should make it bigger than it was.