Sensitive topic (TW: Self Harm)

[Daddy'sLittleFreak]

So my Daddy and I Have been together for just over a month now and I've told him about much of the pain from my past. However one big thing I haven mentioned yet is I used to self harm, I was a cutter starting at 13 and stopped at 17. I've been clean ever since (I'll be 20 in July). My Concern is how do I bring this up to him without freaking him out? And how do I let him know that despite the bad days I may have in the future I'm not going to go back to self harm? I don't want him worrying. Also I don't want this to push him away...

[MrBonesWildRide]

Due to the sensitive nature of this topic, I edited your title.

 

I feel as though you should approach it in a sensitive manner. Ask if he has time to talk, and when he's available, just be a bit open about it. "This isn't a cause for alarm,  but I wanted to talk to you about my past and how this is something really big to me that I need to talk about in case anything comes up."

 

Normally, this isn't an issue. He will learn about your past, and he will try to assure you that he will be there for you. You shouldn't be afraid to reveal that type of sensitive information.

[Guest Sae]

Talk to him and let him know. 

 

I think stuff like that is important to share with your so,  not because of shame, but because it also will make you feel safer and better to have someone to talk to, and be able to be that open with. I would say don't force yourself, if you want to talk to him about it, you can message him even on facebook or on the cell. Or pick a day to hang out, and talk to him that way.  :3 I agree with Mr. bones. 

 

And I'm so proud of you! I don't even know you and I'm proud. Self harm is a scary beast, but your kicking its butt so be proud! 

 

<3 your strong.

[PrincessBunnieButt]

I had to have this talk with my Daddy. Now I've known him for ages and I think he already knew about it but I had to be sure. I haven't cut in over 5 years but that doesn't mean that it wasn't a part of my experience when I was younger or that the pain that caused it is healed completely. 

 

Just be calm and level headed when talking to him. Reassure him you have not in 3 years and its not something you will fall back on. Make sure he understands that this is not a warning of something that may happen in the future but that it was something that shaped you as you grew up and you have gotten past needing it as a psychological crutch. <3

 

I am here if you need someone to talk to about this. 

[ashwee]

I think there's already a lot of great advice here, and I agree with everything that was said so far. It might be a good idea to get all of your thoughts together beforehand, that way it's a lot easier to discuss everything to him, and you don't leave anything out. I wish you the best of luck, and if you ever need anyone to talk to feel I'm usually on the forums.

[Daddy'sLittleFreak]

Thanks for all the advice, it's definitely helpful and I have a much better idea of how to approach this. It's so nice having a place to go for help/advice like this, especially when so many people in my day to day life wouldn't understand.