does anyone else not have irl friends?

[Guest infinitecases]

I don't have any friends in real life either. They kind of dwindled down to nothing after school ended and I didn't have to see them every day anymore.

I enjoy being alone and whilst it's fun, I sometimes wish I could do activities which require another person or just go out and actually enjoy myself, and to have something that other people seem to easily achieve. Honestly, after meeting daddy, making other friends online seems pointless and rather meaningless. They're more just surface friends than anything and it's tiring to talk to them everyday or have them ask or talk about daddy.

 

As a result, I always feel lonely and wonder whether I'm just a terrible person or if there's something wrong with me or maybe I'm not good enough because however much I try, I never really fit in anywhere or I seem to attract bullies. 

[smallprincesssarah]

I don't have IRL friends because my small social circle left over from college decided that I was a fifth wheel and gave me the cold shoulder until I got the hint. One of them tries to talk to me occasionally, but I think that's because they know that circle was my only set of friends and they felt bad for kicking me out. 

 

I tried making friends in grad school, but it's so very clique-y and it hurts. So I really just sit by the door during lecture and keep to myself. My coworkers like me, but we don't go out or have personal conversations aside from asking about weekend plans. I have my boyfriend, but we're living in separate states until I finish my degree.

 

It does make me feel lonely and that I'm not good enough to have close friends. It does make me horribly depressed to log onto social media and see everyone having fun with their friends. There's probably something wrong with me, but I'm just so used to the solitude that I don't know how I'd handle having friends now.

[Guest LeftyGuitar]

I have a few real life friends. I prefer it that way though. I don't have a problem being alone, though it would be nice to find a mommy. Quality over quantity.

[Sirslittleprincess]

Me.

 

I haven't had any friends irl in a ridiculously long time. We recently moved and before we moved my mom lived a couple blocks away and I would go and spend time with her but now all I have is Sir. But I want girls to do girly stuff with and ugh it's just not gonna happen. I feel lonely alot

[DeepSpaceDaddy]

Humans are social creatures. We all need some level of in person interaction. I'm very comfortable being alone and prefer solitude to large groups, but I do miss hanging out with my friends, most of which I lost when I took an over the road driving job and was no longer around to be a part of their lives.

 

I saw a plaque once, it said, "To have a friend, you must first be a friend". I've always remembered that. If anyone is serious about developing RL friends, do something you enjoy that involves people. Volunteer somewhere, join a club or group pertaining to an interest or hobby. Not sure what to do? Maybe now is a good time to try something new that you've always wanted to try. Its a process, not an event. Don't make excuses. Put yourself in situations where you interact with the same people over time. That creates opportunities and occasionally one of the opportunities will turn into an acquaintance and maybe more. In the meantime, you're having a new experience and maybe even enjoying yourself. It's ironic to me, how socially isolated we are today, despite having more ways than ever to interact and communicate. I know people in foreign countries better than my neighbors or even some members of my extended family. Interesting.

[Guest Stinkin'ol'Fred]

I'm like you. It's just my children and me. My children are wonderful but not adults.

[Guest ~lele~]

I have a several, I guess, acquaintances is the best way to say it. But, tbh, I have like 1 friend. I also only have like 3 close online friends. I get it. But, as far as advice, I don't think I'm best person to offer it.