Lost daddy

[Guest Lelegabgab]

My litrle gabgab shes the best in the world but beecause i love her so much im scared of losing her if she gets other little froends. I want her to have them to play dollys yet i just dont want her talking to other daddys is that fair or bad? Basically she wamts little friends but i wanna vet everyone first

[LittlePupRune]

Personally, that's a sign of insecurity and a lack of trust. For dealing with this you're gonna need communication with your little. I understand the feeling of needing to vet others, but you need to understand where thats coming from. Is it from a need to keep her safe for her sake? Or is it out of fear you're going to lose her? You need to talk to her and explain your fears and figure out a way to work through them together. She might agree to you vetting someone first before she talks to them, or you may compromise and talk to a person together or she tells you about the interactions she's having. This is something you are going to have to open up about and discuss with her. It's not fair to withhold her contact with others, but its also not fair to just trample over your feelings, so you're going to need to address all the issues.

[Suziwoo]

Trust is essential, she should have little friends and that probably means contact with other Daddies, but you are her Daddy, her caregiver and that is the important thing.

 

As KittenLovesMe said, you need to talk about it, discuss your fears and she will probably set you mind at rest and work out a solution that is acceptable to both of you. allowing you to move forward together.

 

Sounds nasty, but if you don't have communication and trust, then you don't have much of future anyway.  Discuss it, sort it out, move forward together.

[Guest Prat]

Personally, that's a sign of insecurity and a lack of trust. For dealing with this you're gonna need communication with your little. I understand the feeling of needing to vet others, but you need to understand where thats coming from. Is it from a need to keep her safe for her sake? Or is it out of fear you're going to lose her? You need to talk to her and explain your fears and figure out a way to work through them together. She might agree to you vetting someone first before she talks to them, or you may compromise and talk to a person together or she tells you about the interactions she's having. This is something you are going to have to open up about and discuss with her. It's not fair to withhold her contact with others, but its also not fair to just trample over your feelings, so you're going to need to address all the issues.

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[Guest blumonkey]

I'll quote myself from another post which is relevant here: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/21779-feeling-like-an-inadequate-little/?do=findComment&comment=113326

 

rules are for bettering the little, not for lack of trust or making the daddy less insecure/jealous. get rid of rules which are there to keep a tight leash on you. does this describe any of your rules?

 

-talking to others without permission

-always letting him know where you are

-etc

 

with my last little, I didn't have rules that involved her talking to others, hanging out with others, nor anything to do with family - in fact, one rule was all rules were suspended while she visiting family or had family visit her. rules a daddy should have, not rules written by an ugly green-eyed monster

 

 

 

 

 

She should use her best judgement when dealing with daddies, ie: limiting herself to (example) not messaging daddies in private, and replying to them only publicly on open forum like here... because not  every 'daddy' is out for her best interests. I think it would be inappropriate for me to be privately messaging a little who has a daddy, but not every 'daddy' would agree with me.

[Guest Lelegabgab]

Its more i am worried about her safety after my own bad experiences online. I do trust her

[Guest Lelegabgab]

But thank u all for your messages