Caregiver tips

[ronja]

heyhey,

 

can you as caregivers give some tips to newbies here?

like this can be anything, from where to buy certain stuff, food tips, and rewards/punishment things

standard caregiving tips are amazing too!!

thanksssss

[cuppycakes]

I'm no CG, but Spooky posted a thread on rules in the "resources" section and it's fantastic.

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/12727-a-starting-point-for-rules-rewards-punishments/

There's also the two pinned threads in the Caregiver Cafe

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/5454-lets-discuss-healthy-caregiving/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/51-general-advice-for-new-daddies/

[ronja]

I'm no CG, but Spooky posted a thread on rules in the "resources" section and it's fantastic.

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/12727-a-starting-point-for-rules-rewards-punishments/

There's also the two pinned threads in the Caregiver Cafe

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/5454-lets-discuss-healthy-caregiving/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/51-general-advice-for-new-daddies/

thanks a lot! i read this and will read this over with my boyfriend!

[SkunkPrincess]

Here are the rules me and my daddy have. Maybe you could use it for you and your boyfriend?

 

The rules of Daddy.

Obience

1. Always obey Dadd his orders without hesitation.

2. You can call Daddy anything you like, but it has to be respectful.

3. Always be respectful towards Daddy.

4. Always respond with yes Daddy/no Daddy/sorry Daddy.

5. When Daddy says no, it means no. Do not whine.

6. Tell Daddy when you did something bad and never ever lie to Daddy.

7. When outdoors, stay close to Daddy. Never walk away from Daddy.

8. Always let Daddy pay and ask permission first before you buy something.

9. Princess her body belongs to Daddy and no one else.

10. Daddy can touch Princess anytime he wants, anywhere he likes.

11. Daddy is always right.

12. Always give Daddy a goodmorning and a goodnight message.

13. You shall do your best at school and make good grades.

14. You shall not touch yourself unless Daddy has given you permission.

15. Do not look in Daddy’’s eyes unless Daddy has given you permission.

16. Tell Daddy when you need to go and where you are going.

17. Do not take off your collar without permission (except if you are going to sleep)

18. Princess shall take the punishment without whining.

 

Health

1. You have to eat every morning. Daddy will remind you of that.

2. Always take your medicine on 8:00 and 18:00. Daddy will remind you of that.

3. You can only have two glasses of cola every day. You need to ask Daddy first.

4. No drinking cola an hour before bedtime

5. No use of alcohol or drugs.

6. Do not smoke.

7. Eat a piece of fruit every day.

8. Brush your teeth twice a day.

9. Put on clean socks and underwear every morning.

 

 

 

 

Social

1. No talking to strangers.

2. No use of bad words.

3. Don’t talk to people on the black list.

4. Always be polite towards everyone.

5. When someone tries to flirt with you, always tell Daddy.

6. No relationships with anyone other than Daddy.

 

 

Emotional

1. Use the safeword if you can’t handle the situation. The safeword is: ‘’Yamate’’

2. Do not say anything negative about your body or personality.

3. Do not harm yourself or other people.

4. When something is wrong, always tell Daddy.

5. No secrets for Daddy.

6. Do not bite off the skin from your fingers/lips

7. Do not start ranting about random topics.

8. Don’t talk only in a negative way about things.

9. Do not whine.

10. If you have to cry, you have to cry. Crying is always okay.

11. No attitude towards Daddy.

12. Tell Daddy if he hurted your feelings.

 

Safety

1. Do not touch anything dangerous: Knifes, lighters, scissors.

2. Do not climb on any furniture.

3. Do not touch the stove or hot pans without permission (except if you are cooking for school)

 

 

 

 

 

 

Punishments for Princess

A warning is given first.

Spankies.

No pc/phone/television until she listens or says sorry.

No snackies or nom noms.

Toy or stuffie gets taken away.

An angry Daddy.

 

Rewards for Princess.

A massage

The head tickler

A movie by Princess her choice

An extra glass of cola

A warm glass of choccy milk

Something yummy from the store under 3 euro’s

A stuffie (when Princess has been a really good girl!)

Extra attention from Dadd.

 

 

Rules for Daddy.

1. When Daddy is being mean, unfair or unpolite, you can tell that to him.

2. When Princess is sick, Daddy must take care of her.

3. Daddy shall protect Princess at all cost.

4. When Princess is in trouble, Daddy should help her.

5. Daddy needs to check if Princess eats healthy enough.

6. Daddy shall give Princess alot of attention.

7. When Daddy is sick, tired, stressed or can’t handle the situation, he has to tell Princess.

8. Daddy shall do the things Princcess can’t do herself: Dressing up, feeding etc.

9. Daddy must always give Princess aftercare after rough making out or a punishment.

10. Daddy must stop immidiately after the safeword has been said.

11. Daddy must always be there for Princess and give her lots of love.

12. Daddy must clean whatever he has used (put it in the dishwasher, trow it in the garbage can)

 

Punishments for Daddy:

No kisses.

No touchy.

No cuddles.

An angry Princess.

[Spooky]

I'm no CG, but Spooky posted a thread on rules in the "resources" section and it's fantastic.

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/12727-a-starting-point-for-rules-rewards-punishments/

There's also the two pinned threads in the Caregiver Cafe

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/5454-lets-discuss-healthy-caregiving/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/51-general-advice-for-new-daddies/

 

*blushing*

[Spooky]

Standard advice: Be patient (with yourself and your little) & communication is EVERYTHING in a relationship.

 

Amazon Wish Lists are a blessing, your little will love picking out rewards and it will make shopping so easy for you. 

 

Look for fun food, go-gurt, dinosaur shaped chicken nuggets, pocky's, etc. If it looks fun and cute, your little will probably love it. Don't underestimate the fun that comes with just making food together!

[blegoo]

Be honest

[ronja]

Standard advice: Be patient (with yourself and your little) & communication is EVERYTHING in a relationship.

 

Amazon Wish Lists are a blessing, your little will love picking out rewards and it will make shopping so easy for you. 

 

Look for fun food, go-gurt, dinosaur shaped chicken nuggets, pocky's, etc. If it looks fun and cute, your little will probably love it. Don't underestimate the fun that comes with just making food together!

 

fun shaped food and stuff is cute and all, but kinda hard for me to get (also money is quite a problem)

but also because there's not really a shop where you can buy stuff like clothes? 

 

we communicate *a lot* so this will be no problem haha

 

thanks a lot for the amazon wish list tip, it gets hard to fijnd gifst that aren't candy or handmade

[Bjorn]

This is very useful information. Thank you.

[Mankind1001]

My little doesn't like kisses or play time but always wants me to cling to me ,but when I try to love on her she says to stop. Any suggestions

[ronja]

My little doesn't like kisses or play time but always wants me to cling to me ,but when I try to love on her she says to stop. Any suggestions

 ask her why? it could be ptsd or just her don't like being touched (i have an autistic friend who hates touching)

if she doesn't want to tell, respect that

 

what i did with daddy to cope with my ptsd was building it slowly. he would ask if he could hold my hand or wrap his arm around me (that really helped me overcome some fears)

 

maybe she likes cuddling? you could ask her if she'd like to 'practice' slowly and steady with intimicy? maybe you can direct message me so we can discuss this more private?

from own experience i know i wanted to be intimate but was scared of doing so