Insecurities with being "Little".

[LotusLove]

So I have been a Little for 3 years now and my Daddy is fairly new at being a Dom. We both love the DDLG dynamic and I love dressing up in little space outfits, using my gear, playing with my toys, and coloring pictures for Daddy. However, I have never actually been in Little Space in front of Daddy. Due to my insecurities with my body and because I am nervous of how I might look to him; I don't dress up, I don't play with my toys, and I don't use my pacifier and sippy cup in front of him. 

He really wants to be a real Daddy Dom to me but because of my insecurities, he can't. We talk about this a lot and what we are both insecure about. we still can't do the things we want to for each other.

 

How can I be more comfortable being in Little space in front of him?

 

How can we encourage each other? 

 

 

[Guest Prat]

Maybe you need more time to feel comfortable and safe with your Daddy. It will happen, don't worry . Your Daddy can try finding ways to make you feel more comfortable, every person is different and he or she knows you the best. Edited June 19, 2017 by Prat(Praetorian)

[Guest Alainnb]

I don't know if this would work for you but as for me: I firstly tried to open up in front of another little so that I get used to being in little space in front of others.
It's quite a difference being alone or with others, let alone your daddy.... he could also try to encourage you a bit? Like visiting the zoo or going to the playground with you ( in the evening, there's usually no one around ) ... whatever you like

I hope you can figure out the right way for you to open up

[Hisprincesss]

Would these feel like safe starting places?

Listen to Daddy read stories to you (you don't have to do a thing, just listen)

Paint your nails a bright fun color. It's only your nails--no other dress up required.

These both work for me.

[Ink]

Start off small.

 

Do you like to use 'Littlespeak'? Can you start to mingle it into your conversations in a playful way to test the waters?

 

Once you are comfortable with one thing you will find the next easier to achieve. Perhaps once you're comfortable with Littlespeak you could try wearing something Littlespace for him - some socks or something in your hair and tell him your wearing it for him. Doesn't have to be a whole outfit but over time you'll be able to wear more and more.

 

See if you can rank the things that cause you insecurities, and start off with the lesser ones and over time (you've been waiting 3 years I'd say you've got the time to take it slow!) test the waters with the next one with him. I'd say once your caregiver notices he'll make a positive comment or two and you'll be encouraged to do it again.