To my fellow littles !! ^_^

[PINKLILLY]

[submissiveboyjimmy]

I feel very shy when talking to most people at first. It goes away after a while and i can be my extroverted self but it takes time. The only way around this that i can think of is to not care what anyone thinks of you, that way you won't feel judged or fear rejection.

[DaddyPJ]

Best way is to find something in common you both like and take it from there it helps to break the ice between a daddy and a little.

[Literate Little]

don't worry too much about coming out of your shell, really. it's okay to be soft and shy.

[PINKLILLY]

I feel very shy when talking to most people at first. It goes away after a while and i can be my extroverted self but it takes time. The only way around this that i can think of is to not care what anyone thinks of you, that way you won't feel judged or fear rejection.

I always tend to think from the beginning that he's not genuine and I always find myself looking for the bad signs in him rather than acknowledging the good. This can hurt me in terms of running into one who's genuine but being so boxed in, he thinks there's no chemistry

[Guest ☽ ᴍᴏɴᴏᴄᴇʀᴏs ☾]

I always tend to think from the beginning that he's not genuine and I always find myself looking for the bad signs in him rather than acknowledging the good. This can hurt me in terms of running into one who's genuine but being so boxed in, he thinks there's no chemistry

It's what happens to me. I tend to be a bit defensive when I start talking to a caregiver. I get nervous, and when they start asking questions, I feel that I should do them too, but I do not know what to ask or if they find my questions too intrusive. I never know how to have a conversation ._.

[Dada's princess]

I'm fairly awkward in general. It's how I roll. I ramble and dart around on topics.

Sometimes it helps if I plan things out a little. Like when I talk to my Daddy (late night text sort of times) and I feel like I'm getting awkward. I have started question time. It's funny cuz really the questions are on any topic that pops in my head but it also helps me be still and listen.

It helped in the beginning because the questions would lead to conversations that were shorter and when it got weird it was just time for another question.

Now Daddy worries(just a little bit thankfully) when I go too long without asking questions. Lol

[Ami29]

That's actually one of my problems..I tend to be a bit shy and awkward at first..and then with time open up and start jumping around and act like I am on a sugar rush ..but most of ppl don't stick around for that..and they think of me cold or disinterested..which is false..that's why I treasure whoever stays till I open up for them..so just give yourself time and don't force yourself to change..let it come naturally..and it will ,once you feel comfortable with the other person..☺️Hugs Edited June 19, 2017 by Ami29

[minahbird]

I got lucky because the first daddy I talked to was exactly the right person to talk to (he's not my daddy, at least not yet but I kinda hope he picks me). We just clicked and even though I feel scared talking to anyone, he doesn't scare me so I got to understand more about the lifestyle without being scared of who I was talking to. He says I should try making more friends, but I'm still getting up the guts to do that. 

[submissiveboyjimmy]

I always tend to think from the beginning that he's not genuine and I always find myself looking for the bad signs in him rather than acknowledging the good. This can hurt me in terms of running into one who's genuine but being so boxed in, he thinks there's no chemistry

 

I was like this too after I was hurt by a very close friend, after that it was much harder for me to trust even when I had a mommy I had trouble opening up because I felt sharing only made me vulnerable to being hurt again.  For me the best thing is to share myself and trust slowly making sure that the person is worth the emotional investment.  It may take a little longer but I explain to the person I'm with that trust for me is important and I trust in layers.

[Magpies]

I find that when talking to a new person in general that interests are a very easy ice-breaker.

For example:
I like cartoons a lot. I'll try to ask what somebody's favorite cartoon is and have a conversation about that to start with! Then it sometimes moves into video games, or what I/they did that day, ect ect.

 

As you actually talk about real things you'll be able to get to know that person better! Conversations just kind of start up on their own.

Also because it's coming up in the thread:

Trust is 100% something that is to be earned.
Somebody who is not my friend is not somebody that I will trust. Trust is not something that is gained in a few days of chit-chat, but it can take weeks. If somebody is rushing you into giving them personal information, talk about sexuality before you are comfortable, or demands you trust them upfront despite being a complete stranger on the internet... just nope out and move on. 
 

Also, this is just for me, but I'm not "little" when I first start talking to potential partners and sometimes even friends.
I've been told more than once I am too "mature" to be a little, but sorry - complete strangers don't have the trust for me to be vulnerable around them, and somebody who thinks I'm being too stuck up because I am trying to protect myself is not worth my time or anybody's else's. 
As I realize that somebody wants to be my friend...then I'll start turning into my giddy little self! 
 

 

Make friends before you find a partner! 

[littlemeow]

This is how I am too! Especially because I'm new to actually finding a caregiver so whenever I start talking to one I feel like they won't like me because I'm not "little enough" or something and I end up being really distant. I really wanna make some little friends so I have people I can talk to about this stuff instead of always keeping it a secret from my friends

[HisuianLilligant]

I'm autistic and have social anxiety so I also struggle with talking to people and coming out of my shell, but if I never got the courage to try a bit, I wouldn't have found my amazing Daddy