Father's Day

[*Firefly*]

hai wow i just read all that and im kinda scared to give my opinion..... first *gives everyone a cookie* please remain calm

 

hai so i do celebrate fathers day with my daddy. but i dont dedicate the whole day to him. since we dont live together and i am currently living with my father, i am just calling my daddy and telling him fathers day. i also coloed him a picture and wrote a song about us. however, i am still celebrating with my actual father, whom i made a present of his favorite drink,candies, a puzzle, and two cards. Me and my step mom are also making him a cake.

 

the way i see it, a father should be someone who protects you, nurtures you, and helps you to grow. frankly, if someone chooses to celebrate this special day with their daddy, i see no problem with it. (this includes celebrating mothers day with their mommy). honestly no matter what you do, someone is going to be offended so you may as well just do what makes you happy.

 

I'm not celebrating because i see my daddy as my actual father, i am celebrating because my daddy cares for me, protects me, etc. and he deserves to be recognized by this. i do not feel i am "contaminating" the holiday because i am not doing anything wrong. 'contaminating' the holiday would be like having sex with my daddy in public in the name of fathers day. that's the only way i can see celebrating fathers day with my daddy as negative.

 

honestly though, i don't think anyone has a right to judge other peoples way of living the ddlg lifestyle. keyword lifestyle because i see a lot of people all it a kink and i want it to be understood that, for some of us, this is our everyday lives and not just a role we take in bed.

 

that being said, thanks for listening and i am open to "constructive conversation" as long as it is constructive and not judgemental/angry/etc.

 

have a great fathers day!

[Melbear]

yeah well, I think there should be boundaries, having a kink is ok, but celebrating father's day on tumblr and posting in the "father's day" tag can be triggering for somebody

Ive had a biological father who didnt want me ,and a step douche who treated me like a maid me entire life.....then my daddy came along & took me in forthe good and the bad. I would like to show him thanks and celebrate this day for him caring and loving me so much. To me its just a day to celebrate those daddys that care and love their little girls unconditionally. But i also understand people have different opinions and we should all respect that c:

Edited June 18, 2017 by Melbear

[Guest ☽ ᴍᴏɴᴏᴄᴇʀᴏs ☾]

I do not know, I'm spending the day with my family, my father, my grandfather, right now the whole family at home watching the Chile vs Cameroon futbol game. If I had a daddy, and he wanted me to give him something for Father's Day, I'm sorry, but this day is entirely from my father. And it would have to be another day.

[Princess-P]

I also agree that fathers day is for actual fathers and we celebrate our Caregivers on all days not just one day a year. I also think valentines is stupid because its no more special than any other day to me.

 

However people choose to celebrate however they want and that is their business. Even in tumblr. I agree with not using a tag, because it does come up for people not involved in the community and could potentially upset someone. But if you have a CG/l blog and post without the tag then so what? Its their blog. And no harm to anyone.

 

No one should bash people for their choices in how they celebrate their love, or start arguments over wrong/right because its not how THEY do things. We as a community are so vastly different within our own members who's to say what's right or wrong?

[Guest Riri'sBunny]

I kinda get the point the poster has given but I think maybe it could be worded differently idk.

 

To me fathers day is for actual fathers or father figures who have raised said person, to me it is a little strange for the DDLG dynamic to be celebrating fathers day but thats just me as me and my Daddy agreed Valentines day would be our day. I can agree the tag on media being used for the Dynamic might trigger some people and in my eyes does lead people on the outside to asume the worst of DDLG (linking it with incest and pedophilia which is horrible imo) but regardless of what Anti-DDLG people asume I do think maybe a tag for fathers day but for DDLG could be used to prevent triggering.

 

As for people actually celebrating it, it is up to them but I can understand peoples personal issues against it and I can partially understand why people celebrate it aswell.

I do kinda agree with karoline but I will respect peoples choices to celebrate it even if it is odd to me, I do understand for some DDLG dynamics they celebrate it and I guess even if you disagree some people have their reasons to do it and you have to not be negative to those who do it I guess.

 

I feel like it's good to have these discussions, everyone has the right to believe something is right or something is wrong,everyone is different and to me it is interesting to see other peoples views and opinions regardless of them being negative or not. A person shouldn't be attacked or silenced for having a negative opinion. The issue with typing sometimes stoof can come out as super blunt or be interpreted in the wrong way and I think alot of people here have misinterpreted how everyone has said stuff alot.

 

TL:DR - I personally don't agree with the Dynamic and fathers day and yes I agree with some of the points from Karoline but I do respect everyones reasons to celebrate.I feel like things have been taken in the wrong way and the poster wanted opinions and a sensible discussion, not an arguement and through typing the attitudes were misinterpreted.

Edited June 18, 2017 by Riri'sBunny

[Guest Karoline_TwilightOfTheGods]

I do not know, I'm spending the day with my family, my father, my grandfather, right now the whole family at home watching the Chile vs Cameroon futbol game. If I had a daddy, and he wanted me to give him something for Father's Day, I'm sorry, but this day is entirely from my father. And it would have to be another day.

 

Thunbs up for you! I 100% agree with your point of view!

[Little_Bratt]

I used those words because I'm not a native speaker so sometimes I have troubles with vocabulary so I think that my choosing of words shouldn't be considered in this topic.

Of course you can, and you must, celebrate your love every day, but what I was saying is that sharing some sort of content in the "father's day" tag can make people unconfortable and can be triggering, so I don't see the point in saying just things like "anyone can do whaterer they want" and stuff like that, because it doesn't answare to my question and it doesn't add anything to the conversation

Well many people express their kinks in many ways. That just so happens to be one of them. And you are pretty well written to not be a "native speaker". Besides people who have the dd/lg kink don't have the right to say stuff that is so discriminatory in my opinion. You have your way of life they have theirs. Besides if you don't like looking at that get off of tumbler. Don't tell them how to live their life. It's like saying "do you like chocolate ice cream? Oh well that's wrong you shouldn't eat it. I like vanilla it's way better." You see?

[Little_Bratt]

I think it is unfair to tell other people that what they decide to do as consenting adults is "wrong".

None of us have the luxury of judging other people or shaming what they decide to do.

I would also advise against trying to talk to people within the community on tumblr, they tend to be misinformed and very short with people who do not agree with them.

 

Personally, we don't celebrate "Hallmark holidays"

We celebrate each other every single day and don't feel it's necessary to set aside any one day to show each other love and affection.

If anyone wants to use Father's Day or Mother's Day or any other day of the year to celebrate their relationship, I think that is fantastic.

 

 

 

From my understanding, no one here or that you mentioned went out of their way to bring DDLG into the public or around "normal" people as you so eloquently said. The fact is different people have different options and that is what makes us all special. No one would ban you for stating an opinion but being rude to people for posting theirs may get you into trouble. If you wish to have a "constructive discussion" try understanding others instead of getting upset when they don't agree.

 

Still, a very interesting topic!

Best post I've seen in a while. Very well put!

[Guest Karoline_TwilightOfTheGods]

Well many people express their kinks in many ways. That just so happens to be one of them. And you are pretty well written to not be a "native speaker". Besides people who have the dd/lg kink don't have the right to say stuff that is so discriminatory in my opinion. You have your way of life they have theirs. Besides if you don't like looking at that get off of tumbler. Don't tell them how to live their life. It's like saying "do you like chocolate ice cream? Oh well that's wrong you shouldn't eat it. I like vanilla it's way better." You see?

 

I try my best to write correctly but I'm sure there are some mistakes in my previous posts, btw...of course people can express their kinks in all the ways that they like but, in my opinion, always respecting people who aren't into it and who don't want to come across with it by accident because it can be harmful in so many ways for some people.

For what concerns the "tumblr issue", what if a kinky post is tagged both "father's day" and "ddlg"? It can be easily find by accident by people who can be triggered from it, and I think it isn't right.

[Asgardianprincess]

I'm going to add my 5c. I think that fathers day is not meant for father's (biological) only its any man who has invested in you an helped you to grow to be the woman you are today. Im talking from a outside perspective i have only just came on here to research. If I had a daddy I would want to honour him on fathers day for being a man in my life who has invested time an attention and wisdom. Its like you embarrassed of what you into. I have learnt that people give me nothing what an how I do it is my perogotive.