Moving past “hey"

[submissiveboyjimmy]

I see so good articles and advice on tumblr about different dynamics of BDSM, how to improve yourself and become a better person overall, how to identify a toxic relationship or if you yourself are the toxic person and need to take time to work on yourself but you know what I never see, how to break the ice, how to open up a convo, I’m shy, I don’t know what to say, I swear I’m interesting!!!  This isn't always the case but being mostly a sub I like the other person to lead the convo at least until I feel comfortable.

 

[MoDaddy]

It all starts with "Hello". Then just say something like, I like your blog, and I really like your post about "whatever caught your attention" and  talk about why you liked it etc. Once you break the ice about a common thing, It can very easily lead to a conversation about many things. You've already noticed the articles that are good and have caught your eye, all you have do do is just send a message saying so and a brief message about why, how it helped you or whatever, and go from there. Maybe ask them to check out your blog as well  There is nothing wrong, in my opinion, with the sub sending the first message. There can be so many followers that it's hard to tell who's following because they really like your blog, and who's following just for the content to repost on their blog. So it will make you stand out from the crowd, so to speak, and get that persons attention faster.

I hope this helps...

 

Have fun!

[Guest littleloveslars]

There are games on the forum that serve as ice breakers. I have found that on days when chat is active i make the most friends. Mostly littles go on chat and they're all so much fun.

[Hastings]

Something I like to do is ask questions. I send a brief introduction statement and then follow with 1-3 questions (excluding 'how are you'). That will give you something to build on. Also invite them to ask questions back. If you do that it lets the discussion build, and gives you things to talk about. 

[BabySwe]

I'm submissive but I talk like crazy xD Being shy is different though It's a common trait to take time to open up if you're an introvert, and about half of us are, so you're not alone at least I usually just start with writing something little, and then if people can't be bothered answering they aren't really worth talking to and won't make for a good conversation anyways :3 After that it really comes down to personality compatibility and interests. I can talk forever to some people, but really struggle with others. It's a give and take and you shouldn't be too hard on yourself either, some people just don't match Also, in my opinion, the more you show of yourself the better. I used to be terrified to say some of my opinions, because they might not be received well. But they are all part of what makes you you, and I for one definitely prefer knowing people for who they are, it's what makes us all more interesting :3 I can't really be more specific than that though, cause what I start with is very individual depending on mood and the other person. But do questions, for sure

 

Hugsies

[Guest PreciousLittleOne]

I'm a shy one but I like to add some quirk questions to my hello..... What mythical creature would you want as a pet? Where would be the most interesting place to live in the 1900's? Do you think giraffes would be fun to ride?... It's a bit goofy but you can talk about the answers and kinda get a feel for where the conversation will go, and gives them a chance to ask you a few things. Doesn't have to be personal