Daddy's with health issues

[Guest Mister Tim]

Hey guys I'm new here and I just wanted to know if any of you guys have health issues and how you handle that with your little. I have multiple sclerosis and I'm not sure how I should handle that in a ddlg relationship.

Thanks in advance for any advice or experiences.

[DollDirector]

I don't have experience on this,will read the comments you get. But my two cents would be,it does not necessarily change the relationship,you can get on with your condition,but things would be different if you needed a caregiver. It is up to the partners and every relationship is different,but you are supposed to be the caregiver so I would think the areas where you can fulfill this part have to be in accordance with the needs of your partner.

[Strongbad456]

I am just starting my DDLG dynamic with my wife, I have multiple health issues and a thought I had was to have one of the littles responsibilities to make sure I take my meds. Playing doctor and having them help with medical issues could also be a way to go.

[LittlePupRune]

I don't really have health issues per se, but I do deal with chronic depression, panic disorder, and some really bad dysphoria. Also, my little is disabled and has several chronic illnesses. We've kinda determined that when dealing with these things it's not really in a caregiver/little dynamic, but more of a two adults in a relationship helping each other. While on occasion I can be her caregiver and help her with her illnesses, we make sure not to put all the burden on me and understand that she is an adult that is capable of taking on some of the responsibility for herself. It helps me that way as well. While we'd like to keep out cg/l dynamic most of the time, we acknowledge that for these certain situations it won't work.

[Guest Mister Tim]

Thank you guys for sharing your experiences and thoughts with me

[chubbylilwolfcub]

My Daddy has depression, severe anxiety (diagnosed) and I suspect some underlying PTSD (undiagnosed). When he is struggling, I do my best to be there for him, to hold him if he needs it, to assure him that he is a good Daddy to me and father to our daughter (his two biggest fears is that he is failing one of us/not "good" enough) and just listen when he needs to talk. These are mental illnesses which are diffent than physical ones, so my input may not help. Hopefully your little is willing and able to take on a bit more responsibility and learn some self care for when you are not physically capable of doing it for them. Edited July 2, 2017 by chubbylilwolfcub

[Guest bigttrack]

It is heartbreaking to hear the struggles my brothers and sisters are dealing with. Hang in there and never never never give up. God bless you all.

[Guest Kali]

It's difficult for the simple reason we are supposed to be the strong/stable ones - both physically and mentally. I think it puts a lot of littles off, particularly those who haven't experienced major or chronic difficulties themselves. It's really about finding a little who has the compassion and patience to give in return. Outside of the dynamic, my grandkids look up to me as the only male role model in their life, and it's a huge responsibility that I love, but there are days that I'm just unable to fully engage due to depression or fatigue and it's the sweetest thing when they bring me cookies and little cups of water. My only advice with littles is to be up front about your difficulties - if it puts them off, then it really is for the best.

[Guest daddy's_little_shadow]

I can't speak for all Littles, and I can't say that I have any experience with this, but I don't think it would make me feel like any less of a Little to take care of a Daddy with a health issue(s) (physical or mental). On the contrary, I think it would play into my submissive side very well, and I'd feel like I was a big help to my Daddy by being there for him in any way possible. It'd give me a sense of purpose, boost my confidence, and improve the overall relationship. I don't think it would make the Daddy any less of a Daddy for needing to be taken care of, either. If you need to take medication, or do certain physical activities, or whatever, it could be worked into the dynamic quite easily. That's what makes DDlg so perfect for this kind of thing,imo, because it's a special kind of give and take from both sides of the dynamic.

 

So, my point is, I don't think it's anything to worry about if you can find a Little that's prepared to do that sort of thing.

 

I'm glad this thread exists. Littles taking care of Daddies isn't discussed enough, imo. : )

[Guest OverMyKnee]

Hello, I am glad to find this topic. I am a Daddy who has health issues and hope that does not hinder me from finding my babygirl.

[Guest Spookycupcake]

I had a daddy with health issues, but when I broke up with him because I was no longer happy he tried to say that I broke up with him because of his health issues. It wasn't true, I just was no longer happy with someone I could never see in person. I have health issues myself, mental health and sometimes I'm afraid it will stop me from finding a daddy.

[Guest Mittens]

Alright, I will speak from personal experience. The thing about caregiving and being a Daddy as a whole, is the emotional support. You won't change as a person, only physical aspects. If a little wants to be in little space and wants her needs and desires to be satisfied as well as her emotional reassurances, then all is fine. If a little chooses you over your physical health or appearance, they may have their own reasons. Personally, looks mean nothing to me. I seek the heart, but if I see someone who refuses to change their ways and am living an unhealthy lifestyle, then I dont' know if I could be with a person like that. It has nothing to do with appearances but health. I know some littles don't want to see their daddies pass away after a year of having him, especially if he is a wonderful daddy. Some fear that, abandonment or rejection or to be alone after finding greatness so they dodge the gun. However this is unlikely, and is few and far apart. Stick with the forum and you'll find more genuine people or at least more than others, than you wills say on... tumblr or instagram, facebook groups, ect. A little will love you for you, they will love who you are and what you represent.

 

Blah blah you've heard all that before. Lets move on. Use your little. No don't just crumple her like a piece of paper. I mean, use that love you have and overpower your ailments, fight harder than you ever fought, gain that encouragement their cute adorableness gives you. You can overcome many problems. I have some physical health issues myself. I have aspergers, mild agoraphobia (overcame a lot of it), social anxiety, and a few others I won't mention here. I have some physical problems too, nothing too major. My spine twists like an Indian burn, called twisted scoliosis, my rub cage will bow and almost snap and it causes pain in my back and chest. One leg is shorter than the other by less than 3/4 an inch. But you can never notice it.But they aren't really life threatening, I overcame so much when I was wish someone, they help encourage me. Use it.

 

And lastly, use your disability to your advantage. Like what DLS said up there, it can make them feel small if they have to help you, give them words of encouragement like.: "Good job babygirl" "You're the best" "I love you so much" "I appreciate it" Or you can reward them with hugs kisses treats, ect. They respond to littlespace stuff, don't' make your problems a "big" thing but a "Little" thing, get it? Use it to your advantage and make it fun. Who knows, maybe you both will forget you have something and will actually come to live and accept it much easier. This is my opinion.  I hope everyone's comments if not then at least mine could help you.

[Ikneelonly4Daddy]

My Daddy has ms too. We're trying to come up with ways for me to bridge the gap during the times he's too sick to be as available as we would both like.

I love him and support him as best I can. I know he feels some guilt about being there for me more. I wish he didn't though. I feel more loved, respected, cared about and supported than I ever have before. He's a wonderful man and a wonderful Daddy.

[Ikneelonly4Daddy]

Edited August 1, 2017 by Ikneelonly4Daddy

[Guest hydroturningpoint]

I am a Daddy with a couple of non hindering health issues and I think you have brought a very valid question there. If you both care for one another then you will help one another through the good times and the bad. I don't think a health issue should chang a thing especially if you care about one another.  My attitude towards it would be to do everything in my physical and mental power to make my little happy. If I have an off day, perhaps my little might comfort me in my time of need.  It's a two way street basically. If you ever get into a relationship where you are just balled up like a piece of paper and discarded just because you might be having an off day, then I will seriously look at where the relationship is going.  If your little truly cares for you and it sounds like she does, then you have nothing to worry about it. We all need that shoulder to lean on sometimes. Hell, even the strongest in the world need it.  So have a talk with your little. If you both put in equal work, it shouldn't be an issue.