becoming sad after sex?

[*Firefly*]

so i have found that after i have sex i get very sad and i haven't ever really connected the two. but last night i was thinking that they might be connected so i googled " why am i sad after sex?" and there was a page about it and it said a lot of people face this. it said that orgasming releases emotions and, while its supposed to make you feel good, it releases pent up negative emotions (i.e. sadness, anger, anxiety, etc.) i struggle with anxiety and depression and so its really hard for me to come out f the sad reverie after sex. now, mine doesn't come right after sex, but in the few hours following. for example, me and my daddy did stuffs yesterday and when i got home i became sad for no apparent reason and i was having a hard time getting out of the negative emotion.

 

for all of you who are like "did you get aftercare?" or "maybe its a subdrop," i got a lot of aftercare and its not lke when ive had subdrops its just pure sadness

 

my question is: does this happen with any of yall?

[littlesuzy]

I am sorry that this is happening to you it never happen to me so I don't know what is like but I hope you get it's get's better I am very sorry

[ronja]

I have this some times actually, mostly when we just started doing *the thing*

probably because of my anxiety and doubts about my body

 

All i can say is; try to keep as calm as possible, take a nice shower and go to bed?

[*Firefly*]

I have this some times actually, mostly when we just started doing *the thing*

probably because of my anxiety and doubts about my body

 

All i can say is; try to keep as calm as possible, take a nice shower and go to bed?

 

yeah i try o drink tea and talk to my daddy about it. sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn't but yeah

[Guest Loki]

I do after orgasmn. It's because of my high anxiety levels and the fact I can't believe anyone would ever love me.

 

It stinks and it's one of the reasons I'm hesitant to date. I'm 30 and I don't want to inflict my messed up self on others.

 

I'm sorry you also experience this kind of thing. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

Edited June 15, 2017 by Pinkyellowblue

[Ink]

Totally understandable.

 

You mentioned 'after you got home' - so you had a bit of fun, sounds like after-care too and then you had to leave? Could it be related to that leaving at all?

 

I know after I have a really great time with my Little (sexy or otherwise), making sure we are both very attentive to one another, as soon as we have to say goodbye a sadness can creep in, often amplified by anxiety. I've always related it to a sense of 'well how long until we get to have such a great time again? Right now is currently the longest time it will ever be!'.

 

I've found that this sadness has lessened with time as any anxieties about the relationship settle and you come to truely understand that there will ALWAYS be a next time. Early on whilst you're still learning that you can rely on one another to be there can be the worst. A strong relationship will pull through that period though.

 

You're definitely not alone!

[*Firefly*]

I do after orgasmn. It's because of my high anxiety levels and the fact I can't believe anyone would ever love me.

 

It stinks and it's one of the reasons I'm hesitant to date. I'm 30 and I don't want to inflict my messed up self on others.

 

I'm sorry you also experience this kind of thing. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

 

im sorry you struggle with this hun

[*Firefly*]

Totally understandable.

 

You mentioned 'after you got home' - so you had a bit of fun, sounds like after-care too and then you had to leave? Could it be related to that leaving at all?

 

I know after I have a really great time with my Little (sexy or otherwise), making sure we are both very attentive to one another, as soon as we have to say goodbye a sadness can creep in, often amplified by anxiety. I've always related it to a sense of 'well how long until we get to have such a great time again? Right now is currently the longest time it will ever be!'.

 

I've found that this sadness has lessened with time as any anxieties about the relationship settle and you come to truely understand that there will ALWAYS be a next time. Early on whilst you're still learning that you can rely on one another to be there can be the worst. A strong relationship will pull through that period though.

 

You're definitely not alone!

 

i used to think it was that i just wasn't comfortable yet but tis been a year so i don't think its that anymore. i dunno i guess its just something I'm going to have to live with

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

I'm no medical expert, but I imagine if we can experience subdrop and it's a result of all the good chronicals in the brain rising and then dropping, that a similar aspect happens during sex. We get a ton of positive feelings coming, and then they just sorta go away, ya know? I imagine this could leave one feeling sad and lonely, and all kinds of other emotions.

 

I would speak to a doctor. While this seems like it's all a mental thing, it could very well be a hormone imbalance or something, and with the right meds/supplements this could become very easily managed possibly.

 

I am sorry you go through this.